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The Road To Being Honest With Myself (and others:)
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TOPIC: The Road To Being Honest With Myself (and others:) 59826 Views
Re: The Road To Being Honest With Myself (and others:) 24 Mar 2017 13:21 #309080
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Great avatar!!!!
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וּבְיָדְךָ כֹּחַ וּגְבוּרָה וּבְיָדְךָ לְגַדֵּל וּלְחַזֵּק לַכֹּל And every day that you want to waste, that you want to waste, you can And every day that you want to wake up, that you want to wake, you can And every day that you want to change, that you want to change, yeah I'll help you see it through... My story: guardyoureyes.com/forum/19-Introduce-Yourself/111583-hello-my-friends |
Re: The Road To Being Honest With Myself (and others:) 26 Mar 2017 18:26 #309245
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My Thread:The Road To Being Honest With Myself (and others:)
I'm not a slow learner, I'm just quick to forget" - Eli Nash A bit of honesty and less over confidence might help me - Imperfection |
Re: The Road To Being Honest With Myself (and others:) 27 Mar 2017 03:25 #309321
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Feel free to contact me at michelgelner@gmail.com
My threads: Lessons Learned: guardyoureyes.com/forum/20-Important-Threads/335248-Lessons-Learned My Story and G-d Bless GYE: guardyoureyes.com/forum/17-Balei-Battims-Forum/303036-My-story-and-G-d-bless-GYE |
Re: The Road To Being Honest With Myself (and others:) 27 Mar 2017 07:50 #309342
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"Vegeta, what does the scouter say about his sobriety level?"
"... It's over NINE-ZEROOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!" One day... At A Time :-D Introduce Yourself and get a free karma point from yours truley! My Thread |
Re: The Road To Being Honest With Myself (and others:) 27 Mar 2017 14:47 #309376
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My Thread:The Road To Being Honest With Myself (and others:)
I'm not a slow learner, I'm just quick to forget" - Eli Nash A bit of honesty and less over confidence might help me - Imperfection |
Re: The Road To Being Honest With Myself (and others:) 28 Mar 2017 09:14 #309468
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"Vegeta, what does the scouter say about his sobriety level?"
"... It's over NINE-ZEROOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!" One day... At A Time :-D Introduce Yourself and get a free karma point from yours truley! My Thread |
Re: The Road To Being Honest With Myself (and others:) 28 Mar 2017 10:24 #309475
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my thread:
guardyoureyes.com/forum/20-Important-Threads/19180-FEEL-THE-HUGS%21%21%21" option="guardyoureyes.com/forum/20-Important-Threads/19180-FEEL-THE-HUGS%21%21%21">FEEL THE HUGS!!! |
Re: The Road To Being Honest With Myself (and others:) 28 Mar 2017 12:17 #309483
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Re: The Road To Being Honest With Myself (and others:) 28 Mar 2017 14:03 #309491
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My Thread:The Road To Being Honest With Myself (and others:)
I'm not a slow learner, I'm just quick to forget" - Eli Nash A bit of honesty and less over confidence might help me - Imperfection |
Re: The Road To Being Honest With Myself (and others:) 28 Mar 2017 14:09 #309492
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MayanHamisgaber wrote on 28 Mar 2017 10:24:
Singularity wrote on 28 Mar 2017 09:14: sadly though there's only one way to go from there... *FLUSH*  Warning: Spoiler! |
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My Thread:The Road To Being Honest With Myself (and others:)
I'm not a slow learner, I'm just quick to forget" - Eli Nash A bit of honesty and less over confidence might help me - Imperfection |
Re: The Road To Being Honest With Myself (and others:) 30 Mar 2017 04:11 #309659
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Dov wrote on 20 Feb 2017 17:02:
I think Shlomo24 said it all when he wrote that change requires change. And Shteeble said the truth when he wrote that if it's important to you then spend time on it. And I agree w Tiger who wrote that opening up to a safe person who understands is the way to go. All that stuff says to me that if I look at how I conduct myself during the years of acting out, I will learn how to do things right...by basically doing the opposite. SO I have learned a lot in the last 30 something days and I just looked back at my forum and came across this gem, but first a story from today. So I'm driving on a bridge and out of the corner of my I I notice a boat stopped with 2 people on it (you may guess I live in a warmer climate) of course I noticed they where women, so for a half a second I thought about double checking that they are indeed women (even though with my periphery vision, I knew that anyway) but then I stopped myself (similar to my flight story). Not just because I was listening to a shiur, because I usually listen to shiurim in my car and it never stopped me from looking, rather I think it has to do with powerlessness. Or at least the way I understand it for me. Basically I have come to the realization that I am powerless to the lust train once it starts rolling, I used to think, sure I can check out these women (or check out what I should't check out:) Or yah I can look at this news story I won't be affected by the images on the side... I can watch that youtube video, so what the picture depicting the video shows someone improperly dressed that's not why I'm watching it right? Or even in the moments of "truth" when I realized I was looking at these things to see the attractive women - or in worse cases, when I would look at porn, but I would tell myself, I'm Strong I'm in control the main thing is that I don't MZ"L. Well I have come to realize that the moment I give into lust a little bit, it may not happen today or tomorrow , but eventually I will be run over. So as DOV said, look at what you used to do and do the opposite - so now when I see something triggering I right away tell myself NO - I AM POWERLESS - I CANNOT DEAL WITH THIS... Now back to the Shiur (or whatever else I may have been doing at the moment)... This also prevents a whole nasty fight with the YH, when I think I can look and fight, well then It's a fight and sometimes I even would congratulate myself - hey I looked at this and I didn't sin (yet). How arrogant I was  But now it takes humility, I tell the YH, yah you WOULD win so... I just won't start, I'm not playing this game. Sorry for the rant but as MARKZ told me KOR. P.s MARKZ where are you haven't seen you on my thread in a while? |
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My Thread:The Road To Being Honest With Myself (and others:)
I'm not a slow learner, I'm just quick to forget" - Eli Nash A bit of honesty and less over confidence might help me - Imperfection |
Re: The Road To Being Honest With Myself (and others:) 30 Mar 2017 05:31 #309661
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Feel free to contact me at michelgelner@gmail.com
My threads: Lessons Learned: guardyoureyes.com/forum/20-Important-Threads/335248-Lessons-Learned My Story and G-d Bless GYE: guardyoureyes.com/forum/17-Balei-Battims-Forum/303036-My-story-and-G-d-bless-GYE |
Re: The Road To Being Honest With Myself (and others:) 30 Mar 2017 08:17 #309669
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"Vegeta, what does the scouter say about his sobriety level?"
"... It's over NINE-ZEROOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!" One day... At A Time :-D Introduce Yourself and get a free karma point from yours truley! My Thread |
Re: The Road To Being Honest With Myself (and others:) 30 Mar 2017 12:55 #309692
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My Story---------Dov Quotes
➣ The Mark of Torah - Lust Chizuk ➣ Nice Trucking Story |
Re: The Road To Being Honest With Myself (and others:) 03 Apr 2017 14:05 #309966
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My Thread:The Road To Being Honest With Myself (and others:)
I'm not a slow learner, I'm just quick to forget" - Eli Nash A bit of honesty and less over confidence might help me - Imperfection |