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TOPIC: enough is enough! 22112 Views

Re: enough is enough! 01 Aug 2019 03:39 #342634

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Re: This is going to be the time I get to 90! 31 Jul 2019 21:57#342630
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Realestatemogul wrote on 30 Jul 2019 04:34:Also, I got a filter B''h to help with the fight, but then another avenue just came up that I will struggle with. I promised if I look then I will lose $50. I've spent so much money threatening myself. Actually I probably didn't loose that much since I didn't always have the guts to pay up... good luck on the new challenge. My personal moto that I (TRY!!!) to keep is, keep on going & keep on trying, but don't keep on doing the same old thing and hoping for different results.
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Stillgoing's words of wisdom is really resonating with me - I know that I need to take a bigger step than what i've done until now and iy'H I will, its just difficult for some reason ... maybe Mr YH , or maybe fear of the unknown and or change regardless I think I must if I want to honestly say that Im working on getting better.
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Re: enough is enough! 13 Aug 2019 00:27 #342819

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I'm 2 weeks clean B'H with His help,
right now im stressed out for certain reasons and this type of stress is a big trigger for me , I know however that acting out is not the solution and will only cause bigger problems so IY'H I will say NO to lusting tonight. 

Thanks for listening
Last Edit: 13 Aug 2019 03:13 by i-man.

Re: enough is enough! 13 Aug 2019 12:47 #342825

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Hazlacha.  We are all behind you. 

Re: enough is enough! 13 Aug 2019 13:15 #342827

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I followed through and did not turn to acting out as an answer, I am in the process (long term) of learning how to deal with these situations that result in me going after lust.

Re: enough is enough! 13 Aug 2019 21:52 #342837

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Wel done i man.

This is the key...you get the urge..but you do not have to act on it.

You replace it with positive action.

Re: enough is enough! 15 Aug 2019 03:20 #342865

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A few triggers tonight ...
But I know that opening the door to lust will trap me in a cage of misery...
if you would tell mme"if you look at porn you will have to go to the Dentist , dmv ,and any other awful government agency of choice " I would probably find something better to do - Tonight I choose  something better to do than spiral into a temporary indulgence of insanity. 

Re: enough is enough! 20 Aug 2019 07:24 #342956

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I'm doing very good B'H
This week due to ccircumstances Im particularly vulnerable, (that doofus yetzer horah had me being lazy about contacting a gye friend about these circumstances)
I did slip a little tonight,  but nothing like what I did 3 weeks ago,  so...slip aheen slip aher and vayter we go ...the same way when you slip on ice and flail around comically upon gaining your balance you wont go on to purposely fall on it , oy the "chidushim" the brain comes up with late at night..
Last Edit: 20 Aug 2019 07:30 by i-man.

Re: enough is enough! 20 Aug 2019 07:37 #342958

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i-man wrote on 20 Aug 2019 07:24:
I'm doing very good B'H
This week due to ccircumstances Im particularly vulnerable, (that doofus yetzer horah had me being lazy about contacting a gye friend about these circumstances)
I did slip a little tonight,  but nothing like what I did 3 weeks ago,  so...slip aheen slip aher and vayter we go ...the same way when you slip on ice and flail around comically upon gaining your balance you wont go on to purposely fall on it , oy the "chidushim" the brain comes up with late at night..

you should see my posts on the public chat ,sleepy(3:36 AM )
For an explanation on my choice of username and avatar see my first post

Re: enough is enough! 20 Aug 2019 07:42 #342959

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sleepy wrote on 20 Aug 2019 07:37:

i-man wrote on 20 Aug 2019 07:24:
I'm doing very good B'H
This week due to ccircumstances Im particularly vulnerable, (that doofus yetzer horah had me being lazy about contacting a gye friend about these circumstances)
I did slip a little tonight,  but nothing like what I did 3 weeks ago,  so...slip aheen slip aher and vayter we go ...the same way when you slip on ice and flail around comically upon gaining your balance you wont go on to purposely fall on it , oy the "chidushim" the brain comes up with late at night..

you should see my posts on the public chat ,sleepy(3:36 AM )

I did - it made my head hurt like when you cross your eyes 

Re: enough is enough! 20 Aug 2019 08:01 #342960

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sorry ,that was not my intent(i just tried the cross eye thing and i know what you mean)    this is the closest  form of cross eyes that i could find in the emoji  arsenol
For an explanation on my choice of username and avatar see my first post
Last Edit: 20 Aug 2019 08:04 by sleepy.

Re: enough is enough! 21 Aug 2019 06:30 #343000

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Alas I have fallen woe is to me ..

its unfortunate it wasnt even the regular triggers that led to it 
I think it underscores that which I have realized already - that i need to do something bigger than what im already doing - either 12 steps or therapy,
iy'H  it will be good , Hashem loves me and knows that i want to do the right thing and with His help I will overcome all of this .

Re: enough is enough! 21 Aug 2019 06:53 #343001

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i-man wrote on 21 Aug 2019 06:30:
Alas I have fallen woe is to me ..

its unfortunate it wasnt even the regular triggers that led to it 
I think it underscores that which I have realized already - that i need to do something bigger than what im already doing - either 12 steps or therapy,
iy'H  it will be good , Hashem loves me and knows that i want to do the right thing and with His help I will overcome all of this .

hi i-man sorry to hear, but i know youll get up again,you sound like a guy with alot of spirit!
Reb Chatzkel Levenstien  ZTL used to say concerning ones falling after a climb to a man who was building a beautiful palace, up went one story and another and another until it was very high ,along came a strong wind and blew him off the scaffolds and he fell to the ground and he started to cry , oy my palace ,my palace ,blown to the ground,all that hard work! came along one wise man and said ,no ,youre wrong ,your palace is still standing, YOU are the one who fell to the ground , just get up and climb again and continue where you left off! 
Hatzlacha!
For an explanation on my choice of username and avatar see my first post
Last Edit: 21 Aug 2019 06:56 by sleepy.

Re: enough is enough! 22 Aug 2019 04:13 #343029

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Today was a pretty good day considering...
Thank you Hashem for allowing that to happen.

Re: enough is enough! 22 Aug 2019 18:56 #343041

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i-man wrote on 22 Aug 2019 04:13:
Today was a pretty good day considering...
Thank you Hashem for allowing that to happen.

I was thinking - maybe this is just because I'm desensitized...

Re: enough is enough! 22 Aug 2019 19:09 #343043

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i-man wrote on 21 Aug 2019 06:30:
Alas I have fallen woe is to me ..

its unfortunate it wasnt even the regular triggers that led to it 
I think it underscores that which I have realized already - that i need to do something bigger than what im already doing - either 12 steps or therapy,
iy'H  it will be good , Hashem loves me and knows that i want to do the right thing and with His help I will overcome all of this .

What's the urgency ? Meaning: why now is it more urgent then it was before? Or if before wasn't as urgent, why is it so urgent now?
What difference does it make whether it was the regular trigger vs an irregular one? If "acting out" is urgent then what's the difference what lead to it, and if its not a concern then also what is the difference what precipeated it?
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