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Scientific studies show that it takes 90 days to break an addictive pattern in the mind. Start your own Log of your journey to 90 days! Post here to update us on your status and to give each other chizuk to stay strong!

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Re: jack-veiter 29 Jun 2012 16:07 #140589

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can we meet at the beanstalk?


have a great shabbos!
Sometimes life is like tuna with not enough mayonaise
~Inna beshem ZS

Give, Forgive
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The reason I'm acting as if I'm pregnant, is because I'm expecting. I should be accepting.
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Re: jack-veiter 29 Jun 2012 16:09 #140590

If that's cholint beans - can I join?

Yes, that would be a great Shabbos,

MT

Re: jack-veiter 03 Jul 2012 15:17 #140791

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jack wrote on 29 Jun 2012 15:32:

when i met elya, and kedusha, and some others, it was really great!


Yes - it was great meeting you too, Jack!
Just as an alcoholic needs to avoid that first sip, a lust addict needs to avoid that first slip.Slip today? No way! ;)Fall today? No way, Jose'!

Re: jack-veiter 27 Jul 2012 20:55 #142574

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it's erev shabbos, i'm at the library and dont have much time but just wanted to say quickly that i told my wife everything, it was in front of a sex addiction therapist.more next week.things are much better now.
jack

Re: jack-veiter 30 Jul 2012 20:35 #142653

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i went with my wife to a sex addcition therapist and was honest, and she was honest back and my own recovery improved as a result - this is the short version.in a nutshell - intimacy vs. intensity.porn is intensity,marriage is intimacy.the two are very different.

Re: jack-veiter 06 Aug 2012 18:29 #143031

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she taught me about shlaymus - she didn't use that word - but that's what she meant.and addiction is not part of who we really are.she aso said that there's only one thing that can fulfill us - and that is G-d.the same thing R twersky said to me.she said no human being, no thing, can fulfill our needs.not porn, not our spouse, only G-d.and when i asked her how do i get a conenction to G-d, she held up the big book and said 'through recovery, you will find G-d'. AMAZING!
jack

Re: jack-veiter 08 Aug 2012 16:50 #143170

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happy for you, jack
this calls for Jack's Niggun again
www.guardureyes.com/GUE/Music/mus/JackSimcha.mp3
Sometimes life is like tuna with not enough mayonaise
~Inna beshem ZS

Give, Forgive
~Cordnoy

The reason I'm acting as if I'm pregnant, is because I'm expecting. I should be accepting.
~TZ

Re: jack-veiter 09 Aug 2012 03:26 #143208

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lol I listened to that the other night. Its just so Jewish! ;D

Re: jack-veiter 10 Aug 2012 14:19 #143400

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thanks for responding guys - keeping connected is one way to help ourselves to stay clean.and for all those (including myself) who are strugglers, "DGUE' which means DONT GIVE UP!! EVER!!
good shabbos

Re: jack-veiter 10 Aug 2012 19:15 #143427

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as i approach my 4th anniversary with GYE next month, here are some thoughts.if you ask me how i can stay clean, i'll answer i dont know but it aint easy.well, i do know, but i dont know.confused? i stay clean because of you guys.but that's not really a reason, is it? no reason works for me.i do it because you want me to do it - period.if i start thinking about reasons, i'll refute every one of them, and then i'll f--l i dont even want to say the word.
jack

Re: jack-veiter 10 Aug 2012 19:34 #143429

Congratulations towards your fourth anniversary, Jack.

You're a great chizzuk to me and to others. Your story teaches us that, with the proper effort, it can be done.

Good luck and continued success!

MT

Re: jack-veiter 10 Aug 2012 20:29 #143432

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thanks for the knid words.without group support i couldn't do it!

Re: jack-veiter 12 Aug 2012 10:04 #143474

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jack wrote on 10 Aug 2012 14:19:

"DGUE' which means DONT GIVE UP!! EVER!!
good shabbos

And I thought it stands for "Do GuardUrEyes".... :o
?דער באשעפער לאווט מיך אייביג. וויפיל לאוו איך עהם
My Creator loves me at all times. How great is my love for him?

Re: jack-veiter 13 Aug 2012 17:56 #143581

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if DGUE brings to mind Dougie's Grill, do i need to check out OA?
Sometimes life is like tuna with not enough mayonaise
~Inna beshem ZS

Give, Forgive
~Cordnoy

The reason I'm acting as if I'm pregnant, is because I'm expecting. I should be accepting.
~TZ

Re: jack-veiter 13 Aug 2012 18:26 #143586

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definitely.there's a 12 step group for any type of addiction that you can think of.i think i'll start one called people-who-are-addicted-to-writing-on-the-living- room-wall-with-a-crayon anonymous.
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