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Re: Lessons Learned 14 Sep 2020 06:31 #355038

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[quote="Hashem Help Me" post=355029 date=1600051577 catid=20]
Ihavestrength wrote on 14 Sep 2020 02:11:

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Thank you for sharing. I can relate to this very much. What do you suggest is an appropriate mindset so as not to turn Yomim Tovim into triggers? 

I will answer your question, but please accept what i write as simply the opinion of a nice simple guy, not anywhere resembling daas Torah:

First of all ACCEPT YOURSELF. If the matzav becomes intense and you feel anxiety building, don't panic. You are normal and are experiencing something many people struggle with. At appropriate times allow yourself a break. 
Secondly, if you are like me, learn to stop using cheshbon hanefesh to destroy yourself. If you are prone to any depressive tendencies and/or perfectionism, realize that it is not avodas Hashem to bet yourself up for every brocho you did not have kavana for, or for every minute you did not learn.
Thirdly, plan a beautiful yom tov. Some nice pleasant things to say by the seuda. Instead of focusing on your personal issues and kabalos, focus on coronating the King (which in truth is the true avoda of Rosh Hashana). Imagine how you can be marbeh kvod shomayim.  Yes there are tefillos like Unesaneh Tokef, but most tefillos are about the Melech, and even the Great Judgement is about meluchah.

Just BTW, from what I understand the primary goal of the teffilah "unesana tokef" is to show the gedulah of Hashem and not to freak out and burst into tears that G-d is going to throw you into some tsunami or pit of fire. This is why it is placed before kedushah as well as why most places have a minhag to sing the final part with a tune that resembles a royal march.

The point is the malchiyus let's not forget that.
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Re: Lessons Learned 15 Sep 2020 15:01 #355105

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It's interesting that many of of us here feel like we are going to judged for all of our "misbehaving". What interesting is in the davening we do all for forgiveness, but we don't ask for blessing and forgiveness because of our good deeds, we ask "lmaancha" for your sake. Not because we have been so good.

For most of my life, I felt like Rosh hahahaha/y"k revolved around my porn and masturbation. What a warped view.

We need to realize hashem is very smart, and he knows exactly who we are, and he's very advertising. Just remember, he is not just malkenu, he's also avinu. 

Anyways I'm just trying to talk to myself here.
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Re: Lessons Learned 15 Oct 2020 00:27 #356212

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1400 days BH. 

Lots to say and iyh when there is time, I will try to put it all into words. However meanwhile my message is - please do the same. I was in very bad shape. If Hashem allowed me to escape this mess, you can b'ezras Hashem do it too. Make the decision that you are willing to do anything and everything to get better. Feel free to reach out for help. I am driven to help others be spared the torment i suffered. Iyh to be continued......
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Re: Lessons Learned 15 Oct 2020 01:25 #356214

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Mazel Tov!
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“Every saint has a past, and every sinner has a future”.

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Re: Lessons Learned 15 Oct 2020 03:34 #356220

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Hashem Help Me wrote on 15 Oct 2020 00:27:
1400 days BH. 

Lots to say and iyh when there is time, I will try to put it all into words. However meanwhile my message is - please do the same. I was in very bad shape. If Hashem allowed me to escape this mess, you can b'ezras Hashem do it too. Make the decision that you are willing to do anything and everything to get better. Feel free to reach out for help. I am driven to help others be spared the torment i suffered. Iyh to be continued......

Mazal tov! Congratulations! Watching your count grow every day is truthfully a tremendous inspiration and encouragement. 

Maybe in another few years your count will be almost as big as your warmth, care and most of all - your heart.

Thank you for all your words of love, encouragement and constructive criticism. 

May Hashem bless your with continued success in all your endeavers.

                                    Grant 

Re: Lessons Learned 15 Oct 2020 04:50 #356230

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Mazal Tov! What an accomplishment!

You should just know that your work here is tremendous! What you put into GYE and the chevra, your time and effort, is an even greater accomplishment, may we be zoche to have you here with us to help us, support us and hold our hands for many more years so that one day we can all join you in the ranks.

Thank you for everything, without you so many would still be rolling in the dirt.

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