Guard Your Eyes - Forum Kunena Site Syndication https://guardyoureyes.com Wed, 02 Jul 2025 10:26:04 +0000 Kunena 1.6 https://guardyoureyes.com/components/com_kunena/template/default/images/icons/rss.png Guard Your Eyes - Forum https://guardyoureyes.com/ en-gb Subject: OCD in GYE - by: trueme https://guardyoureyes.com/forum/2-What-Works-for-Me/437304-OCD-in-GYE#437304 https://guardyoureyes.com/forum/2-What-Works-for-Me/437304-OCD-in-GYE#437304 Some of us in GYE have OCD.
Some are B'chasdei Hashem in a very manageable mode and are even thriving. 
Some are working hard to help themselves.
And some might be suffering without help.
Ive suffered from OCD in the past and what helped was when I started to really spiral, I caught it early (with the help of others) and an excellent therapist 
After exposure therapy and mindfulness techniques, I was doing much better, even great. I have flare ups from time to time, but BH, nothing major.

So why is this thread here?

Several reasons:

1) For some, (many?) anxiety and OCD can be a trigger for P and/or M. The chat can be a helpful support system. 
2) There is no such platform in the frum community for those struggling with OCD - this is sort of piggybacking on GYE, but reason 1 still stands...

1 rule.
PLEASE DO NOT POST advice unless you are a therapist (With knowledge of OCD on a practical level) or you are someone that has suffered/is suffering with OCD. This is just meant to prevent well meaning individuals from posting things that are not practical or even hurtful. (Sympathy and "thank yous" are welcome from all!!)

Thanks Fighterwithfire for the inspiration for this and YitzchokM for pushing the idea.

Two important points.

Posting and getting support is awesome and I feel it was super hard for me because I didnt have that - but there is no substitute for actual therapy. OCD isn't solved in a support group, if you have it or people near and dear are begging or threatening you to get help - DO THAT ASAP. This is just to compliment actual therapy

This thread's success is going to be based on the feedback and responses. If its active, it can be great. If not - it could be a DOA. If you want it badly, respond and let's make it happen. It's truly astonishing that we dont have a frum support system for OCD...

maybe this can help.]]>
What Works for Me Thu, 12 Jun 2025 22:52:19 +0000 https://guardyoureyes.com/forum/2-What-Works-for-Me/437304-OCD-in-GYE#437304
Subject: the fight - by: curedsoon https://guardyoureyes.com/forum/2-What-Works-for-Me/437257-the-fight#437257 https://guardyoureyes.com/forum/2-What-Works-for-Me/437257-the-fight#437257 The Fight - The Shmuz]]> What Works for Me Thu, 12 Jun 2025 09:54:11 +0000 https://guardyoureyes.com/forum/2-What-Works-for-Me/437257-the-fight#437257 Subject: This is real - תשובה!! - by: pleaseplease https://guardyoureyes.com/forum/2-What-Works-for-Me/437226-This-is-real---%D7%AA%D7%A9%D7%95%D7%91%D7%94%21%21#437226 https://guardyoureyes.com/forum/2-What-Works-for-Me/437226-This-is-real---%D7%AA%D7%A9%D7%95%D7%91%D7%94%21%21#437226 I hope GYE gives me permission to write to following message,
I know no-one will believe my message but this is 100% true!
For years and years I struggled with M, until 1 day when I was in Israel I found a paper in a shul from an organization called "ונשמרתם".
It said all types of things that I related to re שז''ל and it said (in Hebrew), "Do you want for once and forever stop doing this....". I stuffed it in my pocket as I was to embarrassed to read this in public. When I came home I called the number from the organization and couldn't believe what I actually heard that many people struggle with the same thing like me. I was in shock!! fast forward I connected to the Hotline and spoke to someone live there.
They basically explained me that since I made so many aveiros, the טומאה is to strong to stop it and only way to do it is by making real teshuvo for all my aveiros also they said that sometimes someone comes from a gilgul that made a lot of aveiros and you need to make teshuvo on that to. It first didn't make sense to me as it sounded all weird to me but I decided I have nothing to loose. And on 1 Friday and made the tikun that they described (Which I will explain with GYE permission). And believe it or not!!!!! I am clean since then!!!!! Yes Yes raboisai we are talking already a few years later.
If the oilom is interested I will explain more about it and provide information!!!!
Have a good day!]]>
What Works for Me Wed, 11 Jun 2025 16:51:59 +0000 https://guardyoureyes.com/forum/2-What-Works-for-Me/437226-This-is-real---%D7%AA%D7%A9%D7%95%D7%91%D7%94%21%21#437226
Subject: What would the Baal H'Tanya tell us? - by: yosefms https://guardyoureyes.com/forum/2-What-Works-for-Me/437099-What-would-the-Baal-HTanya-tell-us#437099 https://guardyoureyes.com/forum/2-What-Works-for-Me/437099-What-would-the-Baal-HTanya-tell-us#437099
I decided to start a new post with a new idea. 

Imagine if we are dealing with an urge and suddenly a great tzadik came out of nowhere and just blasted us with chizzuk based on their seforim and unique way of serving Hashem to help us through. 

I decided to start with the Baal H'Tanya, but feel free to add on or make your own ones... who knows maybe it will become a series.Your job is to be a Beinoni, Not a Tzaddik!

You're not looking to kill the yetzer hora.
The goal is to stand strong in the fight — every time.
The struggle itself is what gives Hashem nachas ruach from me.
The fact that I’m still fighting means I’m winning."A beinoni is judged every moment. The victory is in the action, not the thought." (Tanya, Perek 12)

The nefesh habehamis is talking. I don’t have to obey it!

וְלֹא תָתוּרוּ אַחֲרֵי לְבַבְכֶם וְאַחֲרֵי עֵינֵיכֶם 
be grateful for urges! not looking is actually a mitzvah every time the test comes up!!]]>
What Works for Me Mon, 09 Jun 2025 09:10:24 +0000 https://guardyoureyes.com/forum/2-What-Works-for-Me/437099-What-would-the-Baal-HTanya-tell-us#437099