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Re: Parenthesis 28 Oct 2019 03:57 #344567

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sleepy wrote on 28 Oct 2019 03:39:
is he higher than higher?

Probably as higher is only higher than allthis... 

Re: Parenthesis 28 Oct 2019 05:00 #344571

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who said only?
i wish i acted higher than all this though....
Last Edit: 28 Oct 2019 17:22 by higher.

Re: Parenthesis 28 Oct 2019 14:53 #344588

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higher wrote on 28 Oct 2019 05:00:
who said only?
i wish i acted higher than all this though....

your highered! (as a gye frequent poster)
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Re: Parenthesis 30 Oct 2019 13:10 #344701

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Trouble wrote on 10 Oct 2019 14:24:
so, I said the parenthesis in zakkah yesterday - several times. the first time, before yk actually started, I was a bit distracted and I skipped over it. heck, I never actually "did it." I mean, it was there for the taking, but for some reason I held back. I even told her about those damned parenthesis! she understood. but then once yk got rolling, and I had the opportunity to say it several more times, I actually said those words. I told God and myself that it really made little difference. yes, the frummies and the midrash quoters will spew that stuff about actual cohabitation with an idolatress, a gentile woman! and even one who is not your actual partner. I am actually reminded now that she was in fact Jewish, a bas mitzvah, and all. got called to the Torah, wow! but I reasoned that this justification crap was going too far. you think my wife would go for the technicality that there wasn't penetration!? bottom line, I was too close for comfort, I mean it was comfortable and more, but it's not a position I wanna be found in. I certainly don't wanna be caught that way, but besides that, I'd rather not even entertain that possibility, although I actually found those thoughts slipping in several times throughout the day. am I being clear? I hope so.

I'd like to make a second half post to this and that will be about the zakkah in general. why all the women, Keri, etc. talk? but I'm running outta time now. sorry for the non-capitalization. my notes app doesn't do that for some reason.

 hi trouble, whats going to be? how are we going to get you out of this mess on trips with other women? do you have a plan?
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Re: Parenthesis 30 Oct 2019 13:24 #344703

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sleepy wrote on 30 Oct 2019 13:10:

Trouble wrote on 10 Oct 2019 14:24:
so, I said the parenthesis in zakkah yesterday - several times. the first time, before yk actually started, I was a bit distracted and I skipped over it. heck, I never actually "did it." I mean, it was there for the taking, but for some reason I held back. I even told her about those damned parenthesis! she understood. but then once yk got rolling, and I had the opportunity to say it several more times, I actually said those words. I told God and myself that it really made little difference. yes, the frummies and the midrash quoters will spew that stuff about actual cohabitation with an idolatress, a gentile woman! and even one who is not your actual partner. I am actually reminded now that she was in fact Jewish, a bas mitzvah, and all. got called to the Torah, wow! but I reasoned that this justification crap was going too far. you think my wife would go for the technicality that there wasn't penetration!? bottom line, I was too close for comfort, I mean it was comfortable and more, but it's not a position I wanna be found in. I certainly don't wanna be caught that way, but besides that, I'd rather not even entertain that possibility, although I actually found those thoughts slipping in several times throughout the day. am I being clear? I hope so.

I'd like to make a second half post to this and that will be about the zakkah in general. why all the women, Keri, etc. talk? but I'm running outta time now. sorry for the non-capitalization. my notes app doesn't do that for some reason.

 hi trouble, whats going to be? how are we going to get you out of this mess on trips with other women? do you have a plan?

Thank you. I appreciate the question and the concern. I like clarity and organization, so can I ask you please to ask this question in the Patty Smyth warrior thread. This perhaps will help others there as well (I am beyond hope), especially because there were fellows who closed down this thread. Thank you
I'm all about that (substantial) bass, no trouble ....

Re: Parenthesis 30 Oct 2019 13:37 #344704

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Trouble wrote on 30 Oct 2019 13:24:

sleepy wrote on 30 Oct 2019 13:10:

Trouble wrote on 10 Oct 2019 14:24:
so, I said the parenthesis in zakkah yesterday - several times. the first time, before yk actually started, I was a bit distracted and I skipped over it. heck, I never actually "did it." I mean, it was there for the taking, but for some reason I held back. I even told her about those damned parenthesis! she understood. but then once yk got rolling, and I had the opportunity to say it several more times, I actually said those words. I told God and myself that it really made little difference. yes, the frummies and the midrash quoters will spew that stuff about actual cohabitation with an idolatress, a gentile woman! and even one who is not your actual partner. I am actually reminded now that she was in fact Jewish, a bas mitzvah, and all. got called to the Torah, wow! but I reasoned that this justification crap was going too far. you think my wife would go for the technicality that there wasn't penetration!? bottom line, I was too close for comfort, I mean it was comfortable and more, but it's not a position I wanna be found in. I certainly don't wanna be caught that way, but besides that, I'd rather not even entertain that possibility, although I actually found those thoughts slipping in several times throughout the day. am I being clear? I hope so.

I'd like to make a second half post to this and that will be about the zakkah in general. why all the women, Keri, etc. talk? but I'm running outta time now. sorry for the non-capitalization. my notes app doesn't do that for some reason.

 hi trouble, whats going to be? how are we going to get you out of this mess on trips with other women? do you have a plan?

Thank you. I appreciate the question and the concern. I like clarity and organization, so can I ask you please to ask this question in the Patty Smyth warrior thread. This perhaps will help others there as well (I am beyond hope), especially because there were fellows who closed down this thread. Thank you

patty smith what?! never hoid of it,until then id just like to say that youre not beyond hope(who told you that?! did he have a red face and cape and 2 horns coming out of his head, pitchfork?), the fact that youre here proves it! can i ask you a question , can you make a list of cons about such behavior and review them seriously?
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Re: Parenthesis 30 Oct 2019 13:43 #344705

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do you learn gemara?there are so many good online gemara shiurim out there  very clearly explained,livedaf.org(or.com) ill check it out(if understanding is an issue by you,)stop this talk about beyond hope, you HAVE to beat this and you WILL beat this Bezras Hashem!
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Re: Parenthesis 30 Oct 2019 13:49 #344706

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sleepy wrote on 30 Oct 2019 13:43:
do you learn gemara?there are so many good online gemara shiurim out there  very clearly explained,livedaf.org(or.com) ill check it out(if understanding is an issue by you,)stop this talk about beyond hope, you HAVE to beat this and you WILL beat this Bezras Hashem!

I'd love to respond here, but this thread is as closed as my head.
I'm all about that (substantial) bass, no trouble ....

Re: Parenthesis 30 Oct 2019 14:24 #344708

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higher wrote on 25 Oct 2019 17:59:
lol. 
but ugh.....have a hard time swallowing the comparison.  

o' course do as you please this was only intended for those that really want it over (assuming that the substance is over, whether it ended a while ago or not) and dont have a way of ending it.
 dov once told me he ends conversations with a smiley face. i didnt relate to that but i tried this one.

the one who closed the thread seems to have left a door open,but no one is forced to respond to what they dont want to
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Re: Parenthesis 30 Oct 2019 19:15 #344737

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Trouble wrote on 30 Oct 2019 13:24:

sleepy wrote on 30 Oct 2019 13:10:

Trouble wrote on 10 Oct 2019 14:24:
so, I said the parenthesis in zakkah yesterday - several times. the first time, before yk actually started, I was a bit distracted and I skipped over it. heck, I never actually "did it." I mean, it was there for the taking, but for some reason I held back. I even told her about those damned parenthesis! she understood. but then once yk got rolling, and I had the opportunity to say it several more times, I actually said those words. I told God and myself that it really made little difference. yes, the frummies and the midrash quoters will spew that stuff about actual cohabitation with an idolatress, a gentile woman! and even one who is not your actual partner. I am actually reminded now that she was in fact Jewish, a bas mitzvah, and all. got called to the Torah, wow! but I reasoned that this justification crap was going too far. you think my wife would go for the technicality that there wasn't penetration!? bottom line, I was too close for comfort, I mean it was comfortable and more, but it's not a position I wanna be found in. I certainly don't wanna be caught that way, but besides that, I'd rather not even entertain that possibility, although I actually found those thoughts slipping in several times throughout the day. am I being clear? I hope so.

I'd like to make a second half post to this and that will be about the zakkah in general. why all the women, Keri, etc. talk? but I'm running outta time now. sorry for the non-capitalization. my notes app doesn't do that for some reason.

 hi trouble, whats going to be? how are we going to get you out of this mess on trips with other women? do you have a plan?

Thank you. I appreciate the question and the concern. I like clarity and organization, so can I ask you please to ask this question in the Patty Smyth warrior thread. This perhaps will help others there as well (I am beyond hope), especially because there were fellows who closed down this thread. Thank you

it must be very painful to think and feel that one is beyond hope.
i feel for you.
could be you mean something else and im not getting it but when you say your beyond hope-do you mean your worse then r' elazar ben dordaya?
(he didnt even make it to say the parenthesis btw)
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