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What to do AFTER seeing a woman.
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What to do AFTER seeing a woman. 10 Feb 2019 17:43 #338885

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The Gemara tells us that were some Rabbis Who looked a woman and praised Hashem. The Gemara asks, it is permitted to look a woman? The Gemara responds that they had seen the woman by accident. Commentators explain that the whole life is a Nisayon. On the computer, Nisayon. On the street, Nisayon.
In the moment a woman passes don't look at her,  Pray to Hashem like this: Hashem, I can look at her. In fact, I want to look. But, I will make your will and i will not look. Then, ask whatever you want: Health, Parnassah children, etc. and Hashem will fulfill it.

We all want to be Tzadikim, right?
There are many ways to be a Tzadik, like staying day and night studying. But, there is a equal and much easier way: The moment a woman passes, do not look at her. There, Chazal says, you are called a Tzadik. Also, your tefillah is compared to that of the Kohen Gadol.

In the time of the Beit Hamikdash, The Kohen Gadol entered to the Kodesh Hakodashim and said 10 times Hashem´s name "Havaya" (Yud-Kei-Vav-Kei). That in Gematria is 260.

We humans have 2 eyes. In Hebrew, the word eye (Ayin) is in Gematria 130. Then, 2 eyes (130+130)=260, Just like the Kohen Gadol tefillah!
 So, if we take care of what we see, Our tefillah will be just as powerful as that of the Kohen Gadol. It is a good advice the next time we are tempted, and the Yetzer Hara wants to make us fall, we will win, because:
"Maalin BaKodesh veLo Moridin" ("We ascend in Holiness and we not descend").
Beshem Hashem Naase V´natzliach, Amen Ken Yehi Ratzon. ("In the name of G-d we will do and we will success").

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Yeshivaboy555.
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כי נפלתי קמתי כי אשב בחושך השם אור לי
"When I fall, I shall rise; when I sit in darkness, Hashem will be a light to me".
Last Edit: 10 May 2019 19:43 by YeshivaBoy555.

Re: Abstaining gives you an UNBELIEVABLE POWER!! 11 Feb 2019 01:08 #338891

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It is very hard to avoid looking at a woman when walking.
I think because it is programmed into us as men to look at her, to asses her attractiveness, her suitability to be a "mate."

So we have to act against what is natural.

I have never foudn any kind of tric to do this.

I simply remind myself that a Jew should guard one's eyes.

For the record, I will often look for a split-second by instinct, then have the thought that this is not right, then look away.
I do not feel bad about this, as I think there is also a comm sense idea that one should at least be aware of other people walking along so as not to bump into them!

Re: Abstaining gives you an UNBELIEVABLE POWER!! 11 Feb 2019 01:54 #338892

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Its true. its natural, it is in our "chip" look at women. but, If we make a minimal  effort to do Hashem´s will, to not look at women, We will make Huge results. The first look is normal. The problem is the 2 look. You can by accident look a woman, and quickly look away. That's perfect But, when you know all the benefits of looking away, you can think 2 times before looking the 2 time. 
Think about it.
כי נפלתי קמתי כי אשב בחושך השם אור לי
"When I fall, I shall rise; when I sit in darkness, Hashem will be a light to me".
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