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Re: ANNIVERSARY OR BIRTHDAY? 19 Nov 2018 23:57 #337358

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Thank You Hashem 
Today is b"h my second anniversary/birthday (on the Hebrew calendar).

Thank you all for your support.
Thank you GYE for giving me this amazing community.
Thank you me wife for being my support.
Thank you Hashem for keeping me clean.


I know we need a longer post, Iyh in the near future.

Chaim 

Re: ANNIVERSARY OR BIRTHDAY? 20 Nov 2018 00:33 #337359

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Re: ANNIVERSARY OR BIRTHDAY? 20 Nov 2018 00:39 #337360

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Chaim2009 wrote on 19 Nov 2018 23:57:
Thank You Hashem 
Today is b"h my second anniversary/birthday (on the Hebrew calendar).

Thank you all for your support.
Thank you GYE for giving me this amazing community.
Thank you me wife for being my support.
Thank you Hashem for keeping me clean.


I know we need a longer post, Iyh in the near future.

Chaim 

Awesome!!!

Your Opsherin is in the near future.
Any longer post possible while you still have a cute ponytail??
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Re: ANNIVERSARY OR BIRTHDAY? 22 Nov 2018 19:05 #337400

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Markz wrote on 20 Nov 2018 00:39:

Chaim2009 wrote on 19 Nov 2018 23:57:
Thank You Hashem 
Today is b"h my second anniversary/birthday (on the Hebrew calendar).

Thank you all for your support.
Thank you GYE for giving me this amazing community.
Thank you me wife for being my support.
Thank you Hashem for keeping me clean.


I know we need a longer post, Iyh in the near future.

Chaim 

Awesome!!!

Your Opsherin is in the near future.
Any longer post possible while you still have a cute ponytail??

Ok Chaim,
You have 6 hours, or else!
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Re: ANNIVERSARY OR BIRTHDAY? 22 Nov 2018 20:21 #337403

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Markz wrote on 22 Nov 2018 19:05:

Markz wrote on 20 Nov 2018 00:39:

Chaim2009 wrote on 19 Nov 2018 23:57:
Thank You Hashem 
Today is b"h my second anniversary/birthday (on the Hebrew calendar).

Thank you all for your support.
Thank you GYE for giving me this amazing community.
Thank you me wife for being my support.
Thank you Hashem for keeping me clean.


I know we need a longer post, Iyh in the near future.

Chaim 

Awesome!!!

Your Opsherin is in the near future.
Any longer post possible while you still have a cute ponytail??

Ok Chaim,
You have 6 hours, or else!

Oy Vey

Re: ANNIVERSARY OR BIRTHDAY? 22 Nov 2018 21:50 #337404

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Not good

Your posts are getting shorter...
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Re: ANNIVERSARY OR BIRTHDAY? 23 Nov 2018 03:43 #337411

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I could have sent you an email request now

In honor of Black Friday you are now gonna get a blackmail summons

Since you missed the cutoff time of 10:30pm, the search team is out to find you now and give you an early opsherin

The barber scissors or shaver won't do

IT WILL BE THE REAL CHASSIDISHE CREW CUT WITH A HEDGE TRIMMER, and to me you will be thanksgiving














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Re: ANNIVERSARY OR BIRTHDAY? 23 Nov 2018 08:16 #337422

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Although this story is a year old it is just as amazing. Happy 2nd anniversary!

Re: ANNIVERSARY OR BIRTHDAY? 24 Feb 2019 12:00 #339190

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wow pretty amazing.. good for you Chaim. Hope you are still happy. 
  • I've never been one for signatures.. but sometimes people change
  • I'm seeking the life that I find manageable which may not be the life you find manageable. But let's make a deal. I want you to find yours and you want me to find mine even if they are different.

Re: ANNIVERSARY OR BIRTHDAY? 06 Sep 2019 20:17 #343408

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Thank you Hashem I made it to 1000 days.

Re: ANNIVERSARY OR BIRTHDAY? 07 Sep 2019 20:46 #343409

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Well done Chaim...a great acheivement.
Continue every day on your clean path.

Re: ANNIVERSARY OR BIRTHDAY? 08 Sep 2019 03:44 #343416

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Chaim2009 wrote on 06 Sep 2019 20:17:
Thank you Hashem I made it to 1000 days.

Mazel tov! Please share how you got there. Others need to know that b'ezras Hashem this is possible...….
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Re: ANNIVERSARY OR BIRTHDAY? 09 Sep 2019 12:56 #343452

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Mazol tov!  I just read through your first post.  Wow.  It brought me to tears.  Thanks for being an inspiration to all of us.

Re: ANNIVERSARY OR BIRTHDAY? 26 Apr 2020 23:32 #348780

Wow, what a great ending!!

I think you should celebrate everything. Celebrate that you're clean. Celebrate your anniversaries knowing that you and your wife are closer now than ever before. And of course, celebrate your birthdays with hope that, like a baby at birth, you are innocent and have no sins attached to you.

Thanks for sharing your story!!!

Re: ANNIVERSARY OR BIRTHDAY? 27 Apr 2020 18:37 #348835

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Chaim2009 wrote on 03 Dec 2017 18:35:

Today 10 Kislev 5778, is a year form 10 Kislev 5777 that marks today as the special day for me.

In order to comprehend the significance of today, let's roll back the calendar 15 years back.

As a bucher in Yeshiva, I was introduced to masturbation true a friend who was sexually triggered on me.  He pursued me and in the end, I fell.
This turned on my Lust on, and I didn't reject when I was pursued.
I ended up having sexual relationships with several Bucherim in that yeshiva, and that went on when I changed Yeshiva to a Yeshiva in Israel.

At age 18 I got engaged, but that did not change my behaviour of masturbation nor acting out with others.

Mazel Tov I'm now 19 years old and I got married, I was convinced that marriage will solve my sexual issues.

A few months later I was pursued by a guy that I knew from Israel, and that is when I realized that my lust is not over although I was married.

As I got access to the internet porn was part of my routine.

Fast forward few years and I was pursued by someone who saw me in a mikvah, and we had a relationship for years. He told me how much he loves me, and he did everything to satisfy my sexual desires.

Later I went to night spas where I would meet more people in order to satisfy my lust.

A little  about my self,
I come from a worm chasidish home, wonderful family.
I am a smart popular person, I own a small business. and  I am a happy go lucky type.
I am blessed with ADHD, that in a way makes life wonderful but on the other hand, has many side effects, sticking to a schedule, being on time, and doing responsibility are extremely hard. (with that said I still believe that my ADHD is to me much more of a blessing than a course).

My schedule was a mess I came home very late at night 2-3 AM. Financial I was a mess bearly making the minimum.

At home, we lived like dorm roommates me and my wife, 2 ppl together living their own lives. My wife was bothered by this lifestyle, But I was mainly happy, I thought that we have a good relationship where each of us is not stepping on the toes of each other, we had very little arguments, And I was happy go lucky.

In the summer of 2016, I was introduced to the idea of massage therapists, and I started searching and chatted with a massage therapist how it works.

One day I see my wife is very unhappy, as I asked her for the reason, she didn't want to say, after me begging her she told me that last night she checked my phone and she sews the chat I had with the massage therapist.

I promised her that it was just an inquiry and that I never actually went to one of them.I was convinced that the crises are over and I lived my life as nothing happened.

On 10 Kislev 5777, we had a family Simcha out of town, with the kids in the car I drove to the Simcha. On the way, I had to stop by for few minutes by someone, as I came back to my car I see my wife in tears as she holds my phone in her hands.

The world was coming crashing on me, I knew it's all over she now knows everything, My life is over.With fake smiles on our faces, we went to the Simcha and as quick as we could we are on the way home.

In the car, my wife kept crying and asking me questions. I broke down and cried along with her, I have no idea how I managed to keep control of the car.

Hashem gave me the courage and the sense, to admit to all my wrongdoings, I told her everything, and that I am willing to do whatever it takes to stay with her.

I blocked all my unhealthy contacts and stopped going to the mikva where I can get triggered.

She found a therapist who specializes in marriage and sex addictions,  for 6 months once a week we went together to that therapist.

2 months later my wife told me about GYE, where I found my new family, ppl who struggle with me and a place where I can be myself (without a name).

On GYE  I found the 12 step program, that introduced me to the fact that as an addict I am not in power to say no to lust, all I can do is to talk to Hashem in my language (for me Yiddish) that he should be with me and save me. (I don't follow the 12 steps in the order nor do I listen to the teleconferences maybe because my ADHD).

In the past year, I got a wonderful wife (that I didn't realize until then how special she is) we are now partners, best friends, and yes we now have real Shalom Beis.
I have no secrets and I'm not hiding anything from her.
I'm no longer in the relationship with her that she should be the mother of our children, and to accommodate my needs.  I am now in the relationship to give, and my main focus is that she should be happy.(coincidently I receive a lot more than I got before)

And yet another relationship improved the relationship with Hashem.
I am now talking to him daily, and my davaning improved a lot. and I made a new Kivas Item that B"H I haven't miss since Shvuas.

There is still room for improvement and with Hashem's help, we will get there.

I don't feel secured yet and I know I'll never be this will be a lifetime struggle, I have to stay focused and watch from triggers, along with a lot of asking and praying to Hashem.

At this time I want to take a moment to thank,


  • My therapist who helped us so much a guided us in the right direction, she cared so much about us beyond what we could ever expect.
  • GYE both the people behind GYE that gave us all the tools and such an amazing platform. and to all members, I had the honour of meeting and the chizuk I got from you along with the opportunity to be mchazek others.
  • Last but not least my dear wife, who not only didn't reject me, but she understood and accepted me and is my backbone along this journey. I am beyond words to thank her, without her I would be in the dumps now.

And my graduate to Hashem is above all.
You, Hashem, showed me your love even tho I don't deserve it.


  • Thank you for the beautiful and supportive wife you gave me.
  • Thank you for the great kids you gave me.
  • Thank you for the financial stability you gave me.
  • Thank you for GYE.
  • Thank you for the therapist.
  • The list goes on and on......


Now I ask you do I celebrate an anniversary, a year of sobriety, or a birthday a year of my new life?????

Chaim


So glad i came upon this post!
I can identify with alot thats written here. 
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