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Re: Hello from Blind Beggar 19 Dec 2013 16:49 #225286

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Wow Mazel Tov!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
!אנא עבדא דקודשא בריך הוא

וּבְיָדְךָ כֹּחַ וּגְבוּרָה וּבְיָדְךָ לְגַדֵּל וּלְחַזֵּק לַכֹּל

And every day that you want to waste, that you want to waste, you can
And every day that you want to wake up, that you want to wake, you can
And every day that you want to change, that you want to change, yeah
I'll help you see it through...





My story: guardyoureyes.com/forum/19-Introduce-Yourself/111583-hello-my-friends

Re: Hello from Blind Beggar 19 Dec 2013 19:55 #225295

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Blind Beggar wrote:
Today is one thousand days, which are one hundred and forty two weeks and six days of being sober.

היום אלף יום שהם מאה ארבעים ושתים שבועות וששה ימים לסובר

I am very happy for you BB. You are a living proof for me that HaShem can do for us what we cannot do for ourselves.

May He grant us a day of sobriety and sanity.
Last Edit: 19 Dec 2013 19:59 by chesky.

Re: Hello from Blind Beggar 19 Dec 2013 21:42 #225300

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MAZAL TOV! Halevei Veiter!

Re: Hello from Blind Beggar 19 Dec 2013 21:51 #225302

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Mazel Tov BB!
much continued hatzlocha
Sometimes life is like tuna with not enough mayonaise
~Inna beshem ZS

Give, Forgive
~Cordnoy

The reason I'm acting as if I'm pregnant, is because I'm expecting. I should be accepting.
~TZ

Re: Hello from Blind Beggar 20 Dec 2013 02:32 #225321

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  1. 1daat was the first person I spoke to from GYE.
  2. The first time I met someone from GYE was in Eye.nonymous's sukka.
  3. Chesky convinced me to go to SA.
  4. The Guard helped me make a TaPhSiC shevuah to stop my lustful thoughts.
  5. Zemiros Shabbos gave me his phone number so I could call him when everyone in Eretz Yisroel is sleeping.

That is a small list of what it took to change me.
1. Was a very powerful experience.
2. Made me see myself in a different light.
The Blind Beggar is a character in Rebbe Nachman's story of the Seven Beggars.
If I view a woman as an object, I am powerless over lust, but I don't have to look.
I can guard my eyes.
I want to guard my eyes.
I do guard my eyes.
Why do I say these four lines?

Re: Hello from Blind Beggar 20 Dec 2013 06:48 #225335

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A thousand is just a number, but what a number!!!

Baruch Hashem!
My email: thenewme613@hotmail.com
My threads:
GYE Handbook | Gibbor's Insights | GYE FAQ - Thanks Skep and DMS123456789 White Book | Big Book (Alcoholics Anonymous)

If one gives up at the first sign of a struggle, he is really not ready to be successful."
"Tryin' and doin' are two different thin's - tryin' is hopin'; doin' is succeedin'.
"The right thin' to do and the hard thin' to do are usually the same."


Disclaimer: I am not a cheerleader; B"H, there are many on the site. I am here to change myself, and with God's help, by some mistake, I might even help change others.

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Re: Hello from Blind Beggar 26 Dec 2013 04:33 #225615

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I have finally updated the link in my signature to take you to the post on this new forum to explain my signature.

Only 8 days clean on the GYE Chart (for the umpteenth time) but still over 1000 days sober in SA which I don't go to anymore because I cannot honestly say I am a sexaholic.
The Blind Beggar is a character in Rebbe Nachman's story of the Seven Beggars.
If I view a woman as an object, I am powerless over lust, but I don't have to look.
I can guard my eyes.
I want to guard my eyes.
I do guard my eyes.
Why do I say these four lines?

Re: Hello from Blind Beggar 26 Dec 2013 04:36 #225617

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Blind Beggar wrote:
When I see the wife of a chosheve choosid or litvishe yungerman and she is wearing shockingly revealing, enticing and provocative clothing which go against the letter and the spirit of the laws of tznius, I have to remember that I am not the tznius police and it is her problem, not mine. Thank you Bardichev.


I don't see women like that anymore. Have such women started to dress more tzniusly or am I getting old? What about you?
The Blind Beggar is a character in Rebbe Nachman's story of the Seven Beggars.
If I view a woman as an object, I am powerless over lust, but I don't have to look.
I can guard my eyes.
I want to guard my eyes.
I do guard my eyes.
Why do I say these four lines?

Re: Hello from Blind Beggar 26 Dec 2013 22:30 #225667

Blind Beggar wrote:
...Only 8 days clean on the GYE Chart (for the umpteenth time) but still over 1000 days sober in SA which I don't go to anymore because I cannot honestly say I am a sexaholic.


For the benefit of the uninformed (like myself), please explain (once again?) the difference between the requirements for GYE chart vs. sober in SA.

Thanks

MT

Re: Hello from Blind Beggar 26 Dec 2013 22:51 #225670

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The GYE rules are here: guardyoureyes.com/90-days-chart/rules
The SA rules are no sex with oneself i.e. masturbation to orgasm or with anyone else who is not your legally married spouse of the opposite sex.

GYE is a lot more machmir than SA.
The Blind Beggar is a character in Rebbe Nachman's story of the Seven Beggars.
If I view a woman as an object, I am powerless over lust, but I don't have to look.
I can guard my eyes.
I want to guard my eyes.
I do guard my eyes.
Why do I say these four lines?

Re: Hello from Blind Beggar 26 Dec 2013 22:55 #225671

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BB, maybe you just need an appointment at your optometrist?
Sometimes life is like tuna with not enough mayonaise
~Inna beshem ZS

Give, Forgive
~Cordnoy

The reason I'm acting as if I'm pregnant, is because I'm expecting. I should be accepting.
~TZ

Re: Hello from Blind Beggar 27 Dec 2013 00:28 #225677

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Blind Beggar wrote:
Blind Beggar wrote:
When I see the wife of a chosheve choosid or litvishe yungerman and she is wearing shockingly revealing, enticing and provocative clothing which go against the letter and the spirit of the laws of tznius, I have to remember that I am not the tznius police and it is her problem, not mine. Thank you Bardichev.


I don't see women like that anymore. Have such women started to dress more tzniusly or am I getting old? What about you?
You are so holy, they probably stay away from you.


I see them

Re: Hello from Blind Beggar 27 Dec 2013 01:12 #225679

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gibbor120 wrote:
Blind Beggar wrote:
Blind Beggar wrote:
When I see the wife of a chosheve choosid or litvishe yungerman and she is wearing shockingly revealing, enticing and provocative clothing which go against the letter and the spirit of the laws of tznius, I have to remember that I am not the tznius police and it is her problem, not mine. Thank you Bardichev.


I don't see women like that anymore. Have such women started to dress more tzniusly or am I getting old? What about you?
You are so holy, they probably stay away from you.


I see them


i see them too. in fact my boss just hired one of 'them'. i think she must work in a perfume factory after hours because she has fragrant ananei hakavod around her...
Sometimes life is like tuna with not enough mayonaise
~Inna beshem ZS

Give, Forgive
~Cordnoy

The reason I'm acting as if I'm pregnant, is because I'm expecting. I should be accepting.
~TZ

Re: Hello from Blind Beggar 27 Dec 2013 01:38 #225680

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yeah, there is a lady at work that I can always smell when she is around. Unfortunately, I like the smell (and find it triggering), so I have to try and close my nose.

I know the phrase "harbey shluchim lamakom". Apparently, the Y"H also has "harbei shluchim" - oy!

If I recall correctly, one of BBs main nisyonos was the work environment. Maybe he can tell us how he got rid of all those pesky women. Maybe, he has some special woman repelling kemeiah that he picked up in tzfat . I wonder if they sell them in the GYE gift shop .

Re: Hello from Blind Beggar 27 Dec 2013 03:43 #225689

Interestingly, I was talking today with TZ (our daily (Mon-Thu) phone call), and I shared with him that right before calling him I was walking through the corridor at work and as I turned a corner, I came across a co-worker, one of these heimishe tznius dressed yunge veibel. Tznius shmius, she was dressed catchy enough that in shonim kadmoniyos I would have headed straight down the toilet bowl... However, Chasdei Hashem, as soon as I noticed her and wanted to get get carried away, my initial "conditioned reflex" was to look away and to say (in my mind) "get away from me! don't mess up my life! don't mess up my goals!"

So be'ezrat Hashem even if we see them, we need not 'fall' for them. Just as we got into this 'hergel naaseh teva' to chase after lust, we can practice and develop a 'hergel naaseh teva' to run away from lust.

Hatzlacha

MT
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