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Re: looking for people that understand my situation 09 Aug 2024 07:52 #418785

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relaxed wrote on 09 Aug 2024 03:12:
brothers! since I got to know this upgraded web site about 10 days ago- I became literally addicted " to stick around you -warm, accepting, non judgemental, hard working -on themselves - people. I got to speak to some. b"h the last few days I am walking around relaxed connected to myself and my feelings. I got to realize that my main struggle and trigger is when I feel bad about my self or when I feel resentment ..... and resentment to me mainly comes from taking personally when someone talks against my family shul community city yidden in general ...all  of that I take it as if he meant me. but b"h the last 10 days I am very conscious about it and I feel much lighter. can you identify?

Shalom!! Welcome! 

A lot of us here can relate to having certain situations cause us emotional pain… and how we have unfortunately learned to use shmutz as a way to escape the pain, or find comfort or distraction…. 

You are not alone. Here’s a warm hand, Chaver. 

Stick around. Read some threads. You’ll find that others who were in a much worse situation than you have managed to figure out better ways to deal with pain, ways that make them feel better and stronger, in all areas. Speaking to the Chevra, and learning from them will imyh change your life! 

Looking forward to hearing from you more, 

Chaim Oigen 
Please feel free to reach out anytime at chaim.oigen@gmail.com

Re: looking for people that understand my situation 09 Aug 2024 16:34 #418818

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Thanks. I am approaching shabbes iyh very excited and recharged to keep on going up hill to a little better me.

Re: looking for people that understand my situation 11 Aug 2024 12:30 #418876

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Welcome,
By the way, GYE has a high proportion of Rabbis and the like, myself included.
So feel at home, like in the teachers room in Yeshiva, where we're relatable and in the same boat.
From the experience of many, make connections with others, do the work, and the good times will come.
When 2 yidden get together, it is two nefesh elokis (godly souls) against one nefesh hebehamis (animal soul)
Feel free to private message me.

Re: looking for people that understand my situation 11 Aug 2024 18:00 #418901

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thanks m111 would love to talk to you. where can you be contacted? do you prefer yiddish or english?

Re: looking for people that understand my situation 12 Aug 2024 16:27 #418999

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relaxed wrote on 11 Aug 2024 18:00:
thanks m111 would love to talk to you. where can you be contacted? do you prefer yiddish or english?

Responded based on your private message,
When 2 yidden get together, it is two nefesh elokis (godly souls) against one nefesh hebehamis (animal soul)
Feel free to private message me.

Re: looking for people that understand my situation 19 Aug 2024 00:32 #419383

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Friends, it has been years that I have been looking for a partner in AVOIDAS HASHEM .  I tried soooooooo many ways to get someone.
all tzadikim on this platform share one thing. WE WANT TO BE HONEST AND WORK ON OURSELVES TO BECOME BETTER YIDEN WITHOUT BLAMING. I spoke to a few of you .... wow I am inspired to keep growing. thanks eerie! m111 I cant wait to talk to you iyh soon. FAMILY GYE, LISTEN UP..... I AM CONVINCED THAT HASHEM GETS EXCITED AND PROUD WHEN HE CHECKS OUT THIS FORUM. AND HE IS LOOKING FORWARD TO ROSH HASHUNE THAT HE ALREADY HAS LOTS OF OIVDIM ON GYE THAT WILL BE MAMLICH HIM.

Re: looking for people that understand my situation 30 Aug 2024 04:28 #420398

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friends...........I had a slip.... b"h not physically but I bought and watched .......
I know it stems from a very emotional week - I was working so hard.
my trap is WHEN I FALL INTO SELF PITY.... this is what happened because my son changed yeshivah and is miserable
and rightfully so.
people help me stay strong 

Re: looking for people that understand my situation 30 Aug 2024 05:39 #420400

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oy no one to understand me and help me? ok will turn to hashem. good night all

Re: looking for people that understand my situation 30 Aug 2024 08:09 #420405

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A slip is tough…..

Stay strong brother,

Muttel
We're in this struggle together; feel free to reach out! 
Muttel15@gmail.com

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Check out my thread here: guardyoureyes.com/forum/19-Introduce-Yourself/413043-My-ENTIRE-story#413043

Re: looking for people that understand my situation 30 Aug 2024 08:36 #420408

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It's difficult to slip but the key is to not get discouraged, when we slip the YH wants us to give up. Get right back up and keep fighting, it's the attitude that Hashem loves.

I'll be praying for your hatzlachah,

Have a great shabbos

Re: looking for people that understand my situation 30 Aug 2024 11:13 #420415

relaxed wrote on 30 Aug 2024 04:28:
friends...........I had a slip.... b"h not physically but I bought and watched .......
I know it stems from a very emotional week - I was working so hard.
my trap is WHEN I FALL INTO SELF PITY.... this is what happened because my son changed yeshivah and is miserable
and rightfully so.
people help me stay strong 

I feel for you my friend, falls are painful. Recognizing why you fell is a good thing for the future. Please don't let it get at you because that is the YH trying to get you to fall again. Hatzlacha Raba. Good Shabbos.

Re: looking for people that understand my situation 30 Aug 2024 15:13 #420429

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stopsurvivingstartliving wrote on 30 Aug 2024 11:13:

relaxed wrote on 30 Aug 2024 04:28:
friends...........I had a slip.... b"h not physically but I bought and watched .......
I know it stems from a very emotional week - I was working so hard.
my trap is WHEN I FALL INTO SELF PITY.... this is what happened because my son changed yeshivah and is miserable
and rightfully so.
people help me stay strong 

I feel for you my friend, falls are painful. Recognizing why you fell is a good thing for the future. Please don't let it get at you because that is the YH trying to get you to fall again. Hatzlacha Raba. Good Shabbos.

Falling is part of learning how to walk. 

Re: looking for people that understand my situation 30 Aug 2024 15:28 #420431

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relaxed wrote on 02 Aug 2024 02:56:
I am an amazing rabbi. I am considered by all of my students to be THE BEST RABBI. and the reason behind it is because I'm really interesting and exciting. and I show real care and understanding to every child. b"h since my teenage years I don't struggle with hoitzuas zera levatule. what I do struggle is with fomo and a bit of porn. b"h not too much since I don't have access to computers that  are unfiltered. so what IS my problem. I have low self esteem and I give all to my students but it is NOT from a healthy place. its from a place of not being able to say the word NO. so I become every few days DOWN and then I will daven just to be over and guess what? I never enjoy my life because I over think or I WORRY ALWAYS for the future. if I have some errands or  I woke up late - that is very often- I just daven 123 AND IT IS SO NOT ME I am a very emotional person by nature that is never happy and wants clarity in life and wants to grow constantly.  I don't remember my learning although I know every politician and all of history by heart. because I never get the point BECAUSE I AM NEVER FOCUSED. and one special problem that gets me into the dirt is - that I TAKE EVERYTHING TO HEART. so when someone will tell me some comment on my family community shul klal yisroel I become SO DOWN. and this is the pattern that makes me check out every famous women's life and image and from time to time to call up all sorts of hot lines. And turn to dirt.  I would love to hear back from amazing people on this holy website.

Try focusing on your maalos what a wonderful rebbe you are 

Re: looking for people that understand my situation 13 Sep 2024 04:58 #421425

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My friend, how are you doing?
Feel free to reach out and say hi!
proudyungerman@gmail.com
406-219-8398

My Journey:
guardyoureyes.com/forum/19-Introduce-Yourself/406231-The-Real-Me

Re: looking for people that understand my situation 13 Sep 2024 14:19 #421451

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