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Re: ok let me try this again 27 Nov 2020 04:06 #357849

  • Ish MiGrodno
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You are clearly a loving and dedicated father! While that does not necessarily translate into being a loyal husband, the two are certainly related, and given your extreme self awareness and honesty, I am 100% certain that BEZH we will be chatting in two weeks with you on Day 24.

I could use help as well - as I fell hard last week and was guaranteed (by no less than "Thank You Hashem" that better days are ahead. You are the definition of a Gadol (think Yosef hatzadik....); please daven for me and I will do the same. Stay strong brother - We are in your corner!

ה׳ עמך גבור החיל! [שופטים ו׳ יב׳]

 Perhaps you can find chizuk from my thread at guardyoureyes.com/forum/19-Introduce-Yourself/356161-Intro 

Feel free to reach out to me at
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Re: ok let me try this again 28 Nov 2020 01:44 #357867

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thanks for being in my corner, makes a huge difference....sending you my brother awesome brochos for your continued strength!

Re: ok let me try this again 28 Nov 2020 17:58 #357868

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I saw somewhere that the difference between parenting and "husbanding" is that when parenting we come into it without expecting to receive anything in return as opposed to marriage where we at best expect to receive in return and in most cases expect to receive more than we give.

I think many people find themselves better parents than spouses and this might be the reason.

All the best.
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Re: ok let me try this again 29 Nov 2020 01:42 #357877

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The energy is reciprocal, as I believe that we are in a similar spot (I am 2 days behind you in cleanliness). One day at a time....but I am optimistic that now is an eis ratzon for us both to BEZ"H make a strong statement to our (very different) yitzrei hara and string together a special streak of nekiyus.

Not sure why - just a feeling

Feel free to reach out at jackz90dys@gmail.com

ה׳ עמך גבור החיל! - שופטים ו׳ יב׳

ה׳ עמך גבור החיל! [שופטים ו׳ יב׳]

 Perhaps you can find chizuk from my thread at guardyoureyes.com/forum/19-Introduce-Yourself/356161-Intro 

Feel free to reach out to me at
jackz90dys@gmail.com

Re: ok let me try this again 29 Nov 2020 03:26 #357880

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parenting we come into it without expecting to receive anything in return as opposed to marriage where we at best expect to receive in return and in most cases expect to receive more than we give.



agree ...this is the root of the problem here... I expect a reward for my effort.  Ha!  that does explain a lot 
Last Edit: 29 Nov 2020 03:27 by 5770.

Re: ok let me try this again 29 Nov 2020 03:28 #357882

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day 12 13 14 15. I have no idea how I made it this far
Last Edit: 02 Dec 2020 02:31 by 5770.

Re: ok let me try this again 03 Dec 2020 02:20 #358143

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I've been looking for excuses to act out... was getting some legit items on dear old Amazon and before you know it, some fairly un-tznius photos came into focus, which of course I dutifully  started investigating further

Not going to pretend...  it was good to look even at amazon advertising!

But of course, you know how quickly these things escalate.

Anyway, luckily the lady folk in the house started yelling and having a crises which broke the trance I was in.

So here we are, all good now.  Day 16.

Re: ok let me try this again 03 Dec 2020 06:27 #358148

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phew
i came across your post last night on another forum, that you were about to fall..
been oif shpilkes since
big relief, stay strong
all the best
jack

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Re: ok let me try this again 03 Dec 2020 16:30 #358159

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thanks Jack, i'm in that state where I've gone a small but decent distance with the streak so I am a bit complacent, you know?  Anyway appreciate the support!!

Re: ok let me try this again 04 Dec 2020 01:59 #358187

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17 days!

Re: ok let me try this again 04 Dec 2020 02:05 #358188

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To"v (17) meod!!!
Keep on going! But please make sure to make a lchaim to celebrate!!!

Re: ok let me try this again 04 Dec 2020 11:37 #358202

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will do!!  thank you
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