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Re: Make it to Yeshiva 25 Sep 2020 20:15 #355507

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I think i overhead the bais din shel maalah commenting, "Wow, look down over there - that YeshivaGuy is displaying a kibuv av v'eim that we don't see these days anymore!  Even the way he writes about it on that GYE site....absolutely incredible.  Oh and by the way, his shmiras habris is exemplary.  Let's give klal Yisroel a good year....."
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Re: Make it to Yeshiva 26 Sep 2020 21:21 #355515

Shver avodas Hashem? I feel you. Oversleeping, not learning what I want to, its been a difficult zman. But I have a thought to share. 

There was once a very wealthy man. He wanted a mansion to be built, so he hired a contract worker. The builder came, and he explained to him exactly what he wants doing. The exact materials necessary etc. Off goes the builder to complete the task.

2 months later the man gets a phone call from the builder. 'All done,' he says, 'you can come and see.' The wealthy man is shocked - how could the task already be completed? But he goes to survey the site anyway. 

To his utter horror, he finds merely a big warehouse there. Upon entering, he sees all the material lined out on the floor. There's lines of wood, lines of brick, lines of silk. He stares in shock at the builder who says 'its all here! Pay up!' 'Its all here,' shouts the wealthy man, 'but where is the house!'

A yid goes to shmayim and he lays down all his mitzvos. There are lines of shabbos. There are lines of kashrus. Lines, hopefully, of shemiras habris. And he says 'time to get the sechar!.' But Hashem exclaims, 'There are the mitzvos. But where was the eved Hashem!?'

A person is judged 'baasher hu sham.' The Yerushalmi explains this means not only Hashem doesn't look at the future, but nor at the past. Hashem looks at who you are not what you do. Normally, the 2 go hand in hand. What we do affects who we are. But sometimes they differ. And then He looks at your mehus, your bechinos, who you really are.

You write that you have no accomplishments. But try this instead. Don't count mitvos against averios. Look at yourself. Are you happy with who you are? Does it put you on the protectory for the person you wish to be?  But remember, its easy to be overly critical. The task is hard. So ask yourself 'Am I on the way up?' What makes me happy? What makes me sad? What are my dreams? There are so many taivos and distractions in the world. Be honest. Am I happy where I am? And if not, why am I not changing?

I'm writing this mostly to myself. But I think its a moredicka chizuk. Because at the end of the day, its down to us. If we don't try, we will never hatzlocha, never be happy with who we are. But if we try, a bit at a time, we can be happy even now with who we are - we are someone trying to be good, to be an eved Hashem. So who we are is good. If we try, we are going to be successful. And if not, we won't. Its as simple as that. Ask yourself this Yom Kippur 'Am I who I want to be?' And if not, do a little thing to put you on that path. So that next year, when you ask the same question, you can be proud and say 'No. But I'm closer than the year before.'

The takeaway (sorry it was long, and maybe a bit harsh, again its for myself mostly, just letting you listen in) is we have to look at who we are. Am I an eved Hashem or not? At least, am I on that path? If not, then why not? Its scary. But also comforting. There are only 2 directions. Either I'm growing closer to Hashem, Or further away. Which is it?

Gemar chasima tova. May Hashem help us all to be close to Him.

יהי רצון שהדברים לתועלת

Today I will do what others won't, so tomorrow I can do what others can't.
We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence then, is not an act, but a habit.
We all make choices in life, but in the end, our choices make us.

Re: Make it to Yeshiva 27 Sep 2020 00:44 #355523

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Alright folks here’s what we got SO FAR:

20 Days clean from touching “ever” at all for hanaa.
Around 49 days clean from bad YouTube vids (though watched movie trailers/gifs abit before last time was nichshal (20 days ago), which was bad. But nothing like bad on YouTube...)

Its Erev Yom Kippur, and I’m Excited!
I love Hakadosh Baruch Hu and can’t wait to be cleansed to inhance our relationship.
Baruch HaShem.
I approach HaShem with nothing but a Lev Nishbar which yearns for Tahara. 
May HaShem see my deepest desire and return me to Him.

Thank you all so very much.
I never dreamed it was possible to come this far, and bezras Hashem- The Best is Yet to Come!!!
Gmar Chasima Tova!!

With much appreciation,

YeshivaGuy

Re: Make it to Yeshiva 27 Sep 2020 01:18 #355529

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Ah!
Just right now, erev Yom Kippur, HaShem sends a pretty girl to text me.. No thanks!
This is תשפ״א fellas! 
No more of that trash!
I texted her “wrong number” and blocked it.
Wooohoo!
This hurts. But this is the life I have chosen.

Thank You!

Re: Make it to Yeshiva 27 Sep 2020 03:08 #355532

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Well done keep up the great work, you are an inspiration!

Re: Make it to Yeshiva 27 Sep 2020 03:10 #355533

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Whew! Tons of taiva right now, heart pounding and all...
But nope! I’m winnin this one.
Aaaaaahhhh!!! Sooo hard.
But no thanks!
A life of Dveikus is waaaayyy more Geshmak.

Hatzlocha to all, and sorry for all these posts
it’s just that it’s mchayiv me to fight when I publicize it here.
thanks
Last Edit: 27 Sep 2020 03:47 by YeshivaGuy.

Re: Make it to Yeshiva 27 Sep 2020 06:05 #355541

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You know how rabbeim like to say , “we are as great or greater than the  tzaddikim of previous generations because of the challenges we are faced with  that they never had “, people are often cynical and skeptical of that, but reading this makes it hard to doubt... hatzlacha to you , & your incredible avodah should be a zchus for all of us.
Last Edit: 27 Sep 2020 06:22 by i-man.

Re: Make it to Yeshiva 27 Sep 2020 11:33 #355556

YeshivaGuy wrote on 27 Sep 2020 03:10:
Hatzlocha to all, and sorry for all these posts
it’s just that it’s mchayiv me to fight when I publicize it here.
thanks

If you dare stop posting, I'm fairly sure there will be actual GYE riots. Your posts are utterly fantastic.

Gemar chasima tova. 

This is תשפ״א fellas! 
No more of that trash!


p.s. תשפ"א can be rearanged to make the word אשפת - trash. So that's the idea, use this year to raise out from the trash!

יהי רצון שהדברים לתועלת

Today I will do what others won't, so tomorrow I can do what others can't.
We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence then, is not an act, but a habit.
We all make choices in life, but in the end, our choices make us.

Re: Make it to Yeshiva 27 Sep 2020 14:28 #355563

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YeshivaGuy wrote on 25 Sep 2020 17:39:

Ah, the life of a Yid. Complicated. Volatile. And gripping.

Any chizzuk would be great.
Especially a rebuttal to my last point.
Thanks!

Hey Yeshiva Guy you are truly inspiring!

I don't have time to wax on and on (which I tend to do sometimes) but just the gist.

Sometimes life as an orthodox jew can feel intense, with a lot of "demands" and can become overwhelming. But that is just because of the way we try to mix the best way our yetzer hara wants to live and the way Hashem, who definitely knows the truth, instructs us.

It's cliche and we've all heard it. The reason why when we learn Torah it isn't as delicious as the gedolim or seforim say is because we are tasting it with damaged tastebuds. We brutally assault our spiritual tastebuds with materialistic indulgences and then we expect them to still be sensitive to the loftiest levels of spirituality.

The same applies here. We watch movies- exposing ourselves to the antithesis of truth, fantasize and drool over secular society and their modus operandi of self pleasing and indulgence (like animals), and compare it to what we must do, but that's all wrong.

Do we watch cows in a pasture and dream to be one? Do we envy the simplicity of their lives? Are we jealous of the fish in our fishtanks who's greatest concern and duty is to keep checking of the sand at the bottom suddenly became edible? No, we understand the difference. So let's think a little deeper and understand this difference.

We think about how a goy sails through life effortlessly (or so it seems), while we flail and struggle. Oh, how we wish to have it easy too! But it's all wrong. When we sign up for a gym membership, do we complain how now we must sweat and struggle? How we must run every singel day and pick up the same weights, even increasing resistance as time goes on? No, we realized that that is the whole point of the gym. The more we sweat and strain the more reward we reap. And yet on the beach down the block there are loads of people lying on their towels lazily and sunbathing. No struggles for them, no straining, no gasping for air after an intense workout. But we know that they won't have a physique like yours, health like yours, retain their youth and physical stamina as long. Jealous? No. Maybe even a little egotistical. Proud of how you have discipline and purpose. Successes and goals for the future.

Life as a yid may feel hard sometimes, but we know why. We are here at this gym for that purpose, for a daily spiritual resistance workout. Let us appreciate the toil and sweat. Let us serve hashem to the best of our ability. We must constantly remember why we have this gym membership, be מקדש שם שמים daily, and we will eventually reap our tremendous rewards and be נהנה מזיו השכינה, which is the greatest pleasure and enjoyment possible.

.גמר חתימה טובה ושנה טובה ומתוקה


                                  Grant

P.S. I guess I did wax...

Re: Make it to Yeshiva 27 Sep 2020 15:04 #355565

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Grant400 wrote on 27 Sep 2020 14:28:

YeshivaGuy wrote on 25 Sep 2020 17:39:

Ah, the life of a Yid. Complicated. Volatile. And gripping.

Any chizzuk would be great.
Especially a rebuttal to my last point.
Thanks!

Hey Yeshiva Guy you are truly inspiring!

I don't have time to wax on and on (which I tend to do sometimes) but just the gist.

Sometimes life as an orthodox jew can feel intense, with a lot of "demands" and can become overwhelming. But that is just because of the way we try to mix the best way our yetzer hara wants to live and the way Hashem, who definitely knows the truth, instructs us.

It's cliche and we've all heard it. The reason why when we learn Torah it isn't as delicious as the gedolim or seforim say is because we are tasting it with damaged tastebuds. We brutally assault our spiritual tastebuds with materialistic indulgences and then we expect them to still be sensitive to the loftiest levels of spirituality.

The same applies here. We watch movies- exposing ourselves to the antithesis of truth, fantasize and drool over secular society and their modus operandi of self pleasing and indulgence (like animals), and compare it to what we must do, but that's all wrong.

Do we watch cows in a pasture and dream to be one? Do we envy the simplicity of their lives? Are we jealous of the fish in our fishtanks who's greatest concern and duty is to keep checking of the sand at the bottom suddenly became edible? No, we understand the difference. So let's think a little deeper and understand this difference.

We think about how a goy sails through life effortlessly (or so it seems), while we flail and struggle. Oh, how we wish to have it easy too! But it's all wrong. When we sign up for a gym membership, do we complain how now we must sweat and struggle? How we must run every singel day and pick up the same weights, even increasing resistance as time goes on? No, we realized that that is the whole point of the gym. The more we sweat and strain the more reward we reap. And yet on the beach down the block there are loads of people lying on their towels lazily and sunbathing. No struggles for them, no straining, no gasping for air after an intense workout. But we know that they won't have a physique like yours, health like yours, retain their youth and physical stamina as long. Jealous? No. Maybe even a little egotistical. Proud of how you have discipline and purpose. Successes and goals for the future.

Life as a yid may feel hard sometimes, but we know why. We are here at this gym for that purpose, for a daily spiritual resistance workout. Let us appreciate the toil and sweat. Let us serve hashem to the best of our ability. We must constantly remember why we have this gym membership, be מקדש שם שמים daily, and we will eventually reap our tremendous rewards and be נהנה מזיו השכינה, which is the greatest pleasure and enjoyment possible.

.גמר חתימה טובה ושנה טובה ומתוקה


                                  Grant

P.S. I guess I did wax...

Gevaldiggg!

P.S. my truck could use a waxing...
!אנא עבדא דקודשא בריך הוא

וּבְיָדְךָ כֹּחַ וּגְבוּרָה וּבְיָדְךָ לְגַדֵּל וּלְחַזֵּק לַכֹּל

And every day that you want to waste, that you want to waste, you can
And every day that you want to wake up, that you want to wake, you can
And every day that you want to change, that you want to change, yeah
I'll help you see it through...


"If it would be so easy there wouldn't be a GYE, but if it would be impossible there also wouldn't be a GYE."

"Sometimes a hard decision leads to an easier outcome."

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Re: Make it to Yeshiva 27 Sep 2020 20:35 #355572

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YeshivaGuy wrote on 25 Sep 2020 17:39:

Markz wrote on 25 Sep 2020 16:46:

Just got test results-was negative.
But my parents want me to test again...
So I’m staying in our rv in the driveway until I get tested again and get the results..
Its pretty agitating cuz after all this craziness and finally negative test I wanted to just be able to enter the house, but I understand, my parents are high risk...


Re: Make it to Yeshiva 27 Sep 2020 20:37 #355573

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YeshivaGuy wrote on 27 Sep 2020 20:35:

YeshivaGuy wrote on 25 Sep 2020 17:39:

Markz wrote on 25 Sep 2020 16:46:

Just got test results-was negative.
But my parents want me to test again...
So I’m staying in our rv in the driveway until I get tested again and get the results..
Its pretty agitating cuz after all this craziness and finally negative test I wanted to just be able to enter the house, but I understand, my parents are high risk...





The Department of Health just called me and told me I tested Positive.
So BARUCH HASHEM my parents made me quarantine in the RV!
AND BARUCH HASHEM I DIDNT GET ANGRY!!
RABBOSAI!!  THE RIBBONO SHEL OLAM CONTROLS THE WORLD!!!

Yom Kippur in the RV this year. Me and  HASHEM YISBORACH.

I LOVE YOU ALL.
GMAR CHASIMA TOVA!!!!!

Re: Make it to Yeshiva 27 Sep 2020 20:38 #355574

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This is why it’s so important to have Emuna and Bitachon in HaShem.
May we be zoche!

Re: Make it to Yeshiva 27 Sep 2020 21:22 #355577

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So this is why I couldn’t go to shachris or Seder last week.
I beat myself up for it, but really I had coronavirus!!
And HaShem kept me in bed so that I wouldn’t infect my chavrusas and the rest of Yeshiva!!
incredible

Re: Make it to Yeshiva 27 Sep 2020 21:25 #355578

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An hour before Yom Kippur everything changes.
Gd is running this world.
My father isn’t feeling well though, and he’s righ risk, may he have a refua Shelaima!!!!!
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