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A struggling bochur
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Re: A struggling bochur 28 Aug 2019 17:00 #343196

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II think we should all take my meds and calm down
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Re: A struggling bochur 28 Aug 2019 17:06 #343197

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sleepy wrote on 28 Aug 2019 17:00:
I think we should all take my meds and calm down

"our" meds,auto correct strikes again
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Re: A struggling bochur 28 Aug 2019 21:44 #343208

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Trouble wrote on 28 Aug 2019 15:30:
Gents,

We are all standing on our tippie toes, neck-deep in the Mikvah water. It's not pleasant being here, but it can be. Our guard is down (yaakov?). We can be somewhat defenseless, but we can also behave like men. Pseudonyms, hidden masks, disguises, double identities, mistaken identities, frauds, etc. can only go so far, or can it? I am a member of all the above. Can't this place be a safe haven even without all the sensitivities? Most of us are anonymous. Some of us have met in back alleys, coffee shops, sleazy bars and clubs, park benches, etc. Let's remember that our clothing is in the locker room. We all wear the same shirt and pants (in general terms). Can we not smile, cajole, laugh, mock, criticize, etc. (Is there a rule against using etc. too many times in one paragraph?) Is it too difficult to just get along with each other's idiosyncracies? I don't mean getting along as in friends, but more like colleagues. We don't always need to see eye to eye, and we should not be afraid to tell each other that, even in a direct manner. Yes, we'd like people (all 26 of us) to be able to freely post on the forum and perhaps receive some productive and worthwhile assistance, but does that mean we must agree with everyone's stupidities, foolishness, immaturity, intensities, etc. (Oops, did it again, and I also switched the tenses)? I don't know. Let's just not be so serious. Are we actually afraid that someone might actually listen to one fellow and not to the other? And if yes, who really cares? Do we have the monopoly on sounds advice? Heck, I know I don't (even though I might tell you that I do). What's the worst that can happen? He will stay a lust addict. Big deal! Join the club!

"(all 26 of us)" thats not including multiple personalities,you know what fights you caused in me?
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Re: A struggling bochur 20 Sep 2019 03:56 #343676

Haven't been here for a while, longest absence since joining. 

In fact I've not been on any website online as I've recently joined a different Yeshivah which doesn't really have good service and it's totally in middle of nowhere so no women Walking around either, but any small thing gets me triggered so I've still got be careful.
Feel free to pm me, currently a lucky choson which merited to have discovered gye 1.5 years ago which BH totally changed my life from one extreme to the other!

הנותן עיניו במה שאינו שלו, מה שמבקש לא נותנים לו, ומה שבידו נוטלים ממנה

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Re: A struggling bochur 20 Sep 2019 13:06 #343681

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It's nice to hear from you!  Glad to hear your absence on this forum was due to limited internet access.  How the new yeshiva working out?

Re: A struggling bochur 22 Sep 2019 06:22 #343692

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Happy to hear from you S&k, long time no "see". You kept us holding our breaths around here, not knowing what happened to you, we missed your posts containing continues courage and great chizak to all of us. Thanks for sharing with us that you are doing great. Keep it up, and keep us posted on your success!

Re: A struggling bochur 23 Sep 2019 05:32 #343718

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hatzlacha on your new yeshiva! A ksiva vchasima Tova!
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Re: A struggling bochur 26 Sep 2019 06:16 #343838

My status of a struggling bochur will iyh be changing very soon  to "A successful yungerman"

Mazel tov!! Who'd believe it?!

If not for gye then...............
Feel free to pm me, currently a lucky choson which merited to have discovered gye 1.5 years ago which BH totally changed my life from one extreme to the other!

הנותן עיניו במה שאינו שלו, מה שמבקש לא נותנים לו, ומה שבידו נוטלים ממנה

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Last Edit: 26 Sep 2019 06:17 by Shnitzel and kugel.

Re: A struggling bochur 26 Sep 2019 06:44 #343840

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Mazal  tov! Thanks for the great news!you should be zoche to be boneh a bayis ne`eman   biyisroel bikarov!
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Re: A struggling bochur 26 Sep 2019 09:34 #343845

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Shnitzel and kugel wrote on 26 Sep 2019 06:16:
My status of a struggling bochur will iyh be changing very soon  to "A successful yungerman"

Mazel tov!! Who'd believe it?!

If not for gye then...............

Mazel tov!
Great news!
Much continued nachas!
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Re: A struggling bochur 26 Sep 2019 10:12 #343846

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WOW!!! Mazel Tov!!!!!! 
!אנא עבדא דקודשא בריך הוא

וּבְיָדְךָ כֹּחַ וּגְבוּרָה וּבְיָדְךָ לְגַדֵּל וּלְחַזֵּק לַכֹּל

And every day that you want to waste, that you want to waste, you can
And every day that you want to wake up, that you want to wake, you can
And every day that you want to change, that you want to change, yeah
I'll help you see it through...



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Re: A struggling bochur 26 Sep 2019 11:26 #343848

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Mazel tov!!! Your wife will iyh be one fortunate kallah!
Feel free to contact me at michelgelner@gmail.com

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Re: A struggling bochur 26 Sep 2019 12:57 #343853

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Mazol Tov!  You'll soon see that all the hard work you put into as a bochur will help your marriage.

Re: A struggling bochur 26 Sep 2019 15:22 #343866

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Mazel tov Mazel tov!!! Thanks for sharing. So happy to hear! May you be zoche to build a happy and pure home.
And in the zichus of doing so much great work yourself and with others, may you only see simcha in your own home!

Re: A struggling bochur 03 Oct 2019 19:46 #343968

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Mazel Tov!! Wonderful news!!
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