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Re: Addiction? Anxiety? Something else? 26 Dec 2017 23:38 #324225

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youcan wrote on 26 Dec 2017 23:23:
From all the filters etc. that I know TAG has the only filter designed by Jews for Jews & with Jews in mind. All the secular filters are designed for kids & workers, so it is only blocking things that they don't want them to see. For Jews (the kind of Jew I want to be) this is not enough. TAG has a very sophisticated filter & you can customize it to your needs. I was surprised to see here that there are Jews that don't know what TAG is..

I'm surprised to see that there are Jews who do not know about some good filters made by non-Jews, such as qustodio, netnanny and k9 (to name a few).
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Re: Addiction? Anxiety? Something else? 27 Dec 2017 00:17 #324230

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I only know about k9, it's not enough for me.

Re: Addiction? Anxiety? Something else? 27 Dec 2017 00:55 #324232

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youcan wrote on 27 Dec 2017 00:17:
I only know about k9

Oh.
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If one gives up at the first sign of a struggle, he is really not ready to be successful."
"Tryin' and doin' are two different thin's - tryin' is hopin'; doin' is succeedin'.
"The right thin' to do and the hard thin' to do are usually the same."


Disclaimer: I am not a cheerleader; B"H, there are many on the site. I am here to change myself, and with God's help, by some mistake, I might even help change others.

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Re: Addiction? Anxiety? Something else? 27 Dec 2017 01:08 #324233

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youcan wrote on 27 Dec 2017 00:17:
I was surprised to see here that there are Jews that don't know what TAG is...
I only know about k9, it's not enough for me.

There are TAGs that don't know about some loopholes

I taught them a few 

K9 or many other filters are only as strong as the administrator - it's gotta be someone else - just like Tags filters are designed.
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Re: Addiction? Anxiety? Something else? 27 Dec 2017 01:37 #324238

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Markz wrote on 27 Dec 2017 01:08:

youcan wrote on 27 Dec 2017 00:17:
I was surprised to see here that there are Jews that don't know what TAG is...
I only know about k9, it's not enough for me.


There are TAGs that don't know about some loopholes

I taught them a few 

K9 or many other filters are only as strong as the administrator - it's gotta be someone else - just like Tags filters are designed.
If you were in charge of a K9 German Shepard, you wouldn't train it to hunt you down - would / could you?

The strongest admin is my wife. Woks great.

She is also my Web Chaver accountability partner. Not sure that is the greatest idea though...

Re: Addiction? Anxiety? Something else? 04 Jan 2018 07:59 #324679

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Ya my wife is my chaver too.....

Re: Addiction? Anxiety? Something else? 04 Jan 2018 15:13 #324688

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I dont think that i am off good, if my wife is my Chaver. It directs our relationship to a place, of one looking after another in a miss trusting way. A marriage is a trusting honest Union, and by putting one partner in charge of miss trusting the other partner, it ruins unions idea for what it is intended for. I have a wife so i can protect her, so i can provide her security, financially, emotionally, Physically, Intimately.Having her as my Web Chaver  ruins all of the above.   Think it over, and let me know your thoughts about it.
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Re: Addiction? Anxiety? Something else? 04 Jan 2018 15:20 #324689

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What happens if the wife doesn't trust her husband, and for good reason?
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If one gives up at the first sign of a struggle, he is really not ready to be successful."
"Tryin' and doin' are two different thin's - tryin' is hopin'; doin' is succeedin'.
"The right thin' to do and the hard thin' to do are usually the same."


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Re: Addiction? Anxiety? Something else? 04 Jan 2018 15:27 #324690

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Then he needs to work on regaining her trust, and in time she will see that he has changed. But she should not be part of the process.
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And every day that you want to wake up, that you want to wake, you can
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Re: Addiction? Anxiety? Something else? 04 Jan 2018 15:30 #324691

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Well then trust needs to be built. But one thing is for sure, that trust is not built, by having her as the police lady. we can discuss more of how trust is being built.
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Re: Addiction? Anxiety? Something else? 04 Jan 2018 15:47 #324692

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In theory, I agree with you. In practice, in certain situations, I'm not so sure. 

ItIt takes an extremely long time for a wife to trust her cheatin', lyin', pornin', textin', masturbatin', strippin' husband, and sometimes it doesn't happen at all. This is a way she can witness בפועל that he is makin' strides. Maybe then there can be a healthy, lovin', trustin', cuddlin' marriage.
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If one gives up at the first sign of a struggle, he is really not ready to be successful."
"Tryin' and doin' are two different thin's - tryin' is hopin'; doin' is succeedin'.
"The right thin' to do and the hard thin' to do are usually the same."


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Re: Addiction? Anxiety? Something else? 04 Jan 2018 16:09 #324694

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Well Cordnoy. I dissagree with you. It does not take an extremely long time. Yes it is a process. A wife that sees that her husband is taking his life into his hands. He become serious in many avenues in life, the trust starts to built. now there will be set backs, there will be times when she will feel the pain and the mistrust, but there will be head way as well
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Re: Addiction? Anxiety? Something else? 04 Jan 2018 16:10 #324695

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I believe that in a healthy open marriage relationship a wife should understand that (by now) it's not something we choose to do, it's like somebody is kidnapping us & we (almost) have no choice. So when she's your shomer she helps her spouse in his struggle. This may even make her trust stronger.
If she takes your struggle very personal & she gets hurt by every fall maybe it's not the best idea.

Re: Addiction? Anxiety? Something else? 04 Jan 2018 16:17 #324696

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tzaddik212 wrote on 04 Jan 2018 16:09:
Well Cordnoy. I dissagree with you. It does not take an extremely long time. Yes it is a process. A wife that sees that her husband is taking his life into his hands. He become serious in many avenues in life, the trust starts to built. now there will be set backs, there will be times when she will feel the pain and the mistrust, but there will be head way as well

Everybody talks from his own experience here...
It probably depends on how deep you were in the struggle, how it effected your wife and so many other things.

Re: Addiction? Anxiety? Something else? 04 Jan 2018 16:18 #324697

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tzaddik212 wrote on 04 Jan 2018 16:09:
Well Cordnoy. I dissagree with you. It does not take an extremely long time. Yes it is a process. A wife that sees that her husband is taking his life into his hands. He become serious in many avenues in life, the trust starts to built. now there will be set backs, there will be times when she will feel the pain and the mistrust, but there will be head way as well

Perhaps in your dreams. I have been in contact with hundreds of fellows and trust takes a long time. Very long.
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If one gives up at the first sign of a struggle, he is really not ready to be successful."
"Tryin' and doin' are two different thin's - tryin' is hopin'; doin' is succeedin'.
"The right thin' to do and the hard thin' to do are usually the same."


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