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Re: my long נסיעה of almost 30 years 20 Apr 2017 21:15 #310980

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cordnoy wrote on 20 Apr 2017 21:11:

cordnoy wrote on 20 Apr 2017 21:01:
Seems like people here have been deprived of eatin' rice for a couple weeks.

Why else would they be talkin' all about chopsticks?

am I missing something? I don't chap it!!!
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כי עיקר מציאות האדם בעה"ז הוא רק לקיים מצות ולעמד בניסיון,  והנאות העולם אין ראוי שיהו לו אלא לעזר ולסיוע בלבד לשיהיה לו נחת רוח ויישוב הדעת למען יוכל לפנות לבו אל העבודה הזאת מסילת ישרים

Re: my long נסיעה of almost 30 years 20 Apr 2017 21:18 #310981

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gibbor120 wrote on 20 Apr 2017 20:24:
Welcome!  That was quite a first post.  You have come to the right place.  You have already read the handbook, which is a good first step.  Is there anyone in your real life that you can talk to?  Can you pinpoint any triggers, especially stress, anger, lonliness?  Anything from your childhood?  Keep posting.  It's a great chevra here.  It's a place of understanding and acceptance.  I wish you the best.

there is also another thing, I don't know if you call it a trigger, but that's watching porn, which I'm clean now for 3 weeks, I didn't see any Shmutz or looking after woman for 3 full weeks, I'm really proud of my self. I have rally clean eyes for 3 full weeks.
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כי עיקר מציאות האדם בעה"ז הוא רק לקיים מצות ולעמד בניסיון,  והנאות העולם אין ראוי שיהו לו אלא לעזר ולסיוע בלבד לשיהיה לו נחת רוח ויישוב הדעת למען יוכל לפנות לבו אל העבודה הזאת מסילת ישרים

Re: my long נסיעה of almost 30 years 20 Apr 2017 21:21 #310983

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You may want to try dov's phone call.  I think it is still going, but I haven't checked in a while.  You can share, but still be anonymous.  Also, check out the Dov Quotes link in my signature.   There is a treaure trove of great stuff there.

Re: my long נסיעה of almost 30 years 20 Apr 2017 21:23 #310984

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gibbor120 wrote on 20 Apr 2017 21:21:
You may want to try dov's phone call.  I think it is still going, but I haven't checked in a while.  You can share, but still be anonymous.  Also, check out the Dov Quotes link in my signature.   There is a treaure trove of great stuff there.

wow! you are good, I just cant get over, there is so much good stuff here, how come I didn't know about it sooner?
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להטות לבבנו אליו ללכת בכל דרכיו ולשמר מצותיו וחקיו ומשפטיו אשר צוה את אבתינו
כי עיקר מציאות האדם בעה"ז הוא רק לקיים מצות ולעמד בניסיון,  והנאות העולם אין ראוי שיהו לו אלא לעזר ולסיוע בלבד לשיהיה לו נחת רוח ויישוב הדעת למען יוכל לפנות לבו אל העבודה הזאת מסילת ישרים

Re: my long נסיעה of almost 30 years 20 Apr 2017 21:27 #310986

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Enjoy.  You may also enjoy some of the Dr. Sortzkin stuff, also in my signature.

Re: my long נסיעה of almost 30 years 20 Apr 2017 21:31 #310987

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Shivisi_Hashem wrote on 20 Apr 2017 21:12:

gibbor120 wrote on 20 Apr 2017 21:09:
I'm also "confidential" by nature.  I didn't get better until I opened up to real people.  That is just my experience.

for now, I cant see my self doing that, I must first try without that, I'm a big עקשן so I feel that with the help of the GYE members, I can become clean and stay anonymous, and I will demonstrate it here.....

I said the same thing when i first joined.
A few weeks later i wanted to go into the streets and tell everyone I am a sex addict
(I didn't)
I am coming to a nice balance now - the forum alone was an amazing beginning push for me, but connecting with the people here one to one and then with real like minded sex addicts locally was what really started to give me some confidence in my recovery.

Re: my long נסיעה of almost 30 years 20 Apr 2017 21:32 #310988

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Shivisi_Hashem wrote on 20 Apr 2017 21:15:

cordnoy wrote on 20 Apr 2017 21:11:

cordnoy wrote on 20 Apr 2017 21:01:
Seems like people here have been deprived of eatin' rice for a couple weeks.

Why else would they be talkin' all about chopsticks?


am I missing something? I don't chap it!!!

Chop it!
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Re: my long נסיעה of almost 30 years 20 Apr 2017 21:40 #310989

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Welcome!  That was quite a first post.  You have come to the right place.  You have already read the handbook, which is a good first step.  Is there anyone in your real life that you can talk to?  Can you pinpoint any triggers, especially stress, anger, lonliness?  Anything from your childhood?  Keep posting.  It's a great chevra here.  It's a place of understanding and acceptance.  I wish you the best



Shivisi_Hashem
there is also another thing, I don't know if you call it a trigger, but that's watching porn, which I'm clean now for 3 weeks, I didn't see any Shmutz or looking after woman for 3 full weeks, I'm really proud of my self. I have rally clean eyes for 3 full weeks.


Yes - this is the big one! And its so amazingly difficult and satisfying. It also fills your head with things other than lust because its so unnatural to us lusters to not look it takes real effort.

You are doing amazing stuff here, just keep reading and posting!
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Re: my long נסיעה of almost 30 years 20 Apr 2017 22:41 #310999

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Shivisi_Hashem wrote on 20 Apr 2017 21:23:

gibbor120 wrote on 20 Apr 2017 21:21:
You may want to try dov's phone call.  I think it is still going, but I haven't checked in a while.  You can share, but still be anonymous.  Also, check out the Dov Quotes link in my signature.   There is a treaure trove of great stuff there.

wow! you are good, I just cant get over, there is so much good stuff here, how come I didn't know about it sooner?

GYE hasn't started advertising on porn sites yet, but it might be a good idea.
I'm all about that (substantial) bass, no trouble ....

Re: my long נסיעה of almost 30 years 21 Apr 2017 02:52 #311028

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Re: my long נסיעה of almost 30 years 21 Apr 2017 08:39 #311050

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 I used to smoke cigarettes in yeshiva big time, when I got married, my wife told me that I must stop smoking, she couldn’t take the smell, so I tried many times, but inside me I didn’t want to stop, one day my wife got very angry at me, so I decided that’s it, I’m quitting smoking for good. And guess what, I stopped from one minute to the other, and since then I had 2 cigarettes in 9 years, ( it was horrible….) so basically I see that I have the כוחות הנפש, I understand that for our sickness there is a יצר הרע in the picture, but I will get there בעזר השם….

too bad porn doesn't smell

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tzomah wrote on 21 Apr 2017 08:39:





 I used to smoke cigarettes in yeshiva big time, when I got married, my wife told me that I must stop smoking, she couldn’t take the smell, so I tried many times, but inside me I didn’t want to stop, one day my wife got very angry at me, so I decided that’s it, I’m quitting smoking for good. And guess what, I stopped from one minute to the other, and since then I had 2 cigarettes in 9 years, ( it was horrible….) so basically I see that I have the כוחות הנפש, I understand that for our sickness there is a יצר הרע in the picture, but I will get there בעזר השם….

too bad porn doesn't smell

then I guess you haven't acted out in your car on the way home 
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Re: my long נסיעה of almost 30 years 21 Apr 2017 14:18 #311071

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tzomah wrote on 21 Apr 2017 08:39:





 I used to smoke cigarettes in yeshiva big time, when I got married, my wife told me that I must stop smoking, she couldn’t take the smell, so I tried many times, but inside me I didn’t want to stop, one day my wife got very angry at me, so I decided that’s it, I’m quitting smoking for good. And guess what, I stopped from one minute to the other, and since then I had 2 cigarettes in 9 years, ( it was horrible….) so basically I see that I have the כוחות הנפש, I understand that for our sickness there is a יצר הרע in the picture, but I will get there בעזר השם….

too bad porn doesn't smell

:mask:that's a good one:mask:
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כי עיקר מציאות האדם בעה"ז הוא רק לקיים מצות ולעמד בניסיון,  והנאות העולם אין ראוי שיהו לו אלא לעזר ולסיוע בלבד לשיהיה לו נחת רוח ויישוב הדעת למען יוכל לפנות לבו אל העבודה הזאת מסילת ישרים

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Singularity wrote on 21 Apr 2017 09:41:

tzomah wrote on 21 Apr 2017 08:39:





 I used to smoke cigarettes in yeshiva big time, when I got married, my wife told me that I must stop smoking, she couldn’t take the smell, so I tried many times, but inside me I didn’t want to stop, one day my wife got very angry at me, so I decided that’s it, I’m quitting smoking for good. And guess what, I stopped from one minute to the other, and since then I had 2 cigarettes in 9 years, ( it was horrible….) so basically I see that I have the כוחות הנפש, I understand that for our sickness there is a יצר הרע in the picture, but I will get there בעזר השם….

too bad porn doesn't smell

then I guess you haven't acted out in your car on the way home 

No, I never acted out in the car, but since my trigger is usually when I'm relaxed and bored, and a lot of woman are around, which usually happiness in the car, I used to pleasure my self big time, and I'm really working hard on it
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כי עיקר מציאות האדם בעה"ז הוא רק לקיים מצות ולעמד בניסיון,  והנאות העולם אין ראוי שיהו לו אלא לעזר ולסיוע בלבד לשיהיה לו נחת רוח ויישוב הדעת למען יוכל לפנות לבו אל העבודה הזאת מסילת ישרים

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I had B"H a great "yesterday", thanks hashem for that, I really appreciate that,  and I'm begging you that my "today" should pass Beshuloim, I don't remember having a clean Friday and Shabbes afternoon, even the last 3 weeks I was pleasuring my self, I didn't ended up till the end, but it was very close to an end.... but now I'm focusing to be clean clean clean.....
I beg you hashem, HELP me.. I'm doing it only for you, not for me,
Thank you Hashem, and thanks all GYE Chaveirim for the support...
ill be back Moitzeh Shabbes with my CLEAN report......
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כי עיקר מציאות האדם בעה"ז הוא רק לקיים מצות ולעמד בניסיון,  והנאות העולם אין ראוי שיהו לו אלא לעזר ולסיוע בלבד לשיהיה לו נחת רוח ויישוב הדעת למען יוכל לפנות לבו אל העבודה הזאת מסילת ישרים
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