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Re: My story 03 Nov 2015 20:59 #267692

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Mesayin wrote:
So it is priority number one to get rid of anything that makes the person unhappy in his life, then the battle against lust gets %75 easier.
I would say "to learn to deal with life in a healthy way so that one is not unhappy". We cannot choose to "get rid" of lots of things that make us unhappy, but we can choose to be happy despite those things. (or deal with the unhapiness in a healthy way by talking it out etc.)

Re: My story 04 Nov 2015 23:04 #267810

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Mesayin wrote:


For example:

I am a huge New York Mets fan, on motze shabbos when the lost that game in heartbreaking fashion I was eating myself alive, and at night in bed for one second a thought of lust came into my head and for that second my body felt relieved, but baruch Hashem I didn't allow it to come again.

Point being, it nearly impossible to get rid of lust


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Re: My story 04 Nov 2015 23:07 #267812

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Chiam wrote:
What I mean is that the causes of my addiction can stem-at least in part, from character traits. For example anxiety, selfishness, jealousy, temper, etc. I haven't really seen this stressed so much, but i'm curious if it has any role.


I haven't been followin' the entire conversation, but may i suggest to read the white or the big book? Selfishness is discussed at length as bein' one of the key roots of our problem.
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If one gives up at the first sign of a struggle, he is really not ready to be successful."
"Tryin' and doin' are two different thin's - tryin' is hopin'; doin' is succeedin'.
"The right thin' to do and the hard thin' to do are usually the same."


Disclaimer: I am not a cheerleader; B"H, there are many on the site. I am here to change myself, and with God's help, by some mistake, I might even help change others.

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Re: My story 05 Nov 2015 00:27 #267821

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Thanks for the recommendation... How can I access the white or big book?
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Re: My story 05 Nov 2015 00:53 #267827

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Chiam wrote:
Thanks for the recommendation... How can I access the white or big book?


Links for both are in my signature below.
My email: thenewme613@hotmail.com
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GYE Handbook | Gibbor's Insights | GYE FAQ - Thanks Skep and DMS123456789 White Book | Big Book (Alcoholics Anonymous)

If one gives up at the first sign of a struggle, he is really not ready to be successful."
"Tryin' and doin' are two different thin's - tryin' is hopin'; doin' is succeedin'.
"The right thin' to do and the hard thin' to do are usually the same."


Disclaimer: I am not a cheerleader; B"H, there are many on the site. I am here to change myself, and with God's help, by some mistake, I might even help change others.

MY POSTS ARE NOT WRITTEN AS A MODERATOR UNLESS EXPLICITLY STATED.

Re: My story 05 Nov 2015 00:54 #267828

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Thanks!
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Re: My story 09 Nov 2015 21:55 #268196

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Wheew ok I need some help!

I downloaded a demo on may gameboy 3DS annnd let's just say the game is not made for recoverers.

B"H I was able to strengthen myself and delete the demo, so B"H for that.

But my head and my stomach are still spinning and my head can't think clearly, I need help dousing the flames...
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Re: My story 09 Nov 2015 22:07 #268198

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And every day that you want to waste, that you want to waste, you can
And every day that you want to wake up, that you want to wake, you can
And every day that you want to change, that you want to change, yeah
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Re: My story 09 Nov 2015 22:43 #268200

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Go for a walk, and breathe deeply.
Fresh air will help you think clearly and feel good.
Then when you get back make sure that you eat if you are hungry, and read a good book.
If you are able to, phone a friend for a chat, maybe one who has been sick or needs a pick me up?

Re: My story 09 Nov 2015 23:18 #268206

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Mesayin wrote:
Wheew ok I need some help!

I downloaded a demo on may gameboy 3DS annnd let's just say the game is not made for recoverers.

B"H I was able to strengthen myself and delete the demo, so B"H for that.

But my head and my stomach are still spinning and my head can't think clearly, I need help dousing the flames...

You made a bonfire and threw your play/gameboy in!
That's cool I'm coming over to join you in a rekida

If you don't want visitors that's fine I'll feel bad but I'll get over it. Quickly douse the fire with a bissel woodford before you have an electric fire and all your vids get deleted too
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Re: My story 09 Nov 2015 23:23 #268208

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Thanks to everybody's advise .

Now I just need an emotional pat on the back please.
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Re: My story 10 Nov 2015 00:37 #268217

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Part of me wants to give you the pat on the back just b/c you asked for it but that would be people pleasing which is a character defect of mine...
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Re: My story 10 Nov 2015 19:19 #268319

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Well I've had queasy feelings for the past 24 hours but I'm B"H feeling a bit better now B"H.

I think, and this is just my opinion, that since my mind got exposed to those stuff it kind of went into a state of needing more of it and when I deleted the demo and decided not to go after those stuff anymore then my mind went into a frenzy, because it is not getting what it needs (which is fine, I'm not going to give in 'cause of that).

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Re: My story 16 Nov 2015 19:09 #268748

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Makes sense. At times when I do the right thing and take away the means of lust, my mind goes crazy because by being triggered it became convinced it is "hungry" and needs to be fed, and even though I had the saichel to take that "food" away, my mind is still in that hungry mode and still is screaming for me to squelch that hunger.
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Re: My story 17 Nov 2015 02:48 #268798

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[quote="Mesayin" post=266058]
However I did take pleasure whenever by accident I would look at those stuff, furthermore I would try to watch a movie that I thought might have some of those stuff and I'll watch it in a way that it seems like I innocently fell into it and make it look like I didn't know about it. (How clever is the Y'h)

Hello Mesayin, you are correct. The YH is clever. I hope you are doing better. I would like to share a story with you about myself.

I was involved with a kid when I was a HS Freshman. This kid had a sexual sense of humor, and I followed his lead. We started talking inappropriately, and he printed the messages and turned them into the principal. He tricked me into sinning. I am now a Senior and a whole lot wiser now, B'H. So what ever the YH wants you to do, tell him you are a G-d fearing Jew and not a sinner. I hope this helps.
I am not a therapist offering advice. I am merely a concerned poster and Friend.. You can do it. KOT. 

Please chat me anytime. I'm all ears. Thank You
Thank you... Shmuly
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