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Re: My Story / NON Asperger 04 Apr 2016 00:42 #283415

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peloni almoni wrote:

markz wrote:
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I have formerly handed in my resignation from the league of Aspies
I HAVE GRADUATED

I have morphed into a regular Neurotypical guy on the street

See ye all later
:pinch: Warning: Spoiler!

i saw this coming a mile away
you know, mark, remind me never to become enemies with you. because you do not forgive and forget easy.

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Re: My Story / Asperger 04 Apr 2016 07:13 #283449

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What actually happened mark?
What works for me: 1) Honesty 2) Meetings 3) 12-step 4) Listening to my Sponsor 5) Not doing what I want to do 6) Inviting the God of my understanding into my life

"I can't do it, God can help." | "Everything I want is on the other side of fear." | "Where there is deprivation there is addiction." | "Yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery." | "Stop stopping, start living."

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Re: My Story / Asperger 08 Apr 2016 13:57 #284013

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Slow down!!!!!!!!

That Bar is for sharing among ALL my friends here

OBAAT!
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Re: My Story / Asperger 08 Apr 2016 14:04 #284015

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Why is my day count on 90?
I wanted to share what I dscs'd this morning on the chat with Guideme, which verified my thought process, and feel free to respond to this post if you like

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GuideMe:  BTW, why is alwais says your'e on 90 days?
Me:  I didn't update it 150 days ago, cos i like constantly gettin Mazel tovs
GuideMe:  Mazel tov mark!!!
Me:  Real reason?
Me:  I have a feeling when newcomers see someone is on 2500 days (as there are some great guys like that here), they think - oh cool, he doesn't struggle, I'll talk to someone else, and I want them to be comfortable talking to me [ed. stupid idea]
GuideMe:  It's an interesting thought
Me:  Debatable...
GuideMe:  i think it's also sacry. talk to a guy with billion days
Me:  Why
GuideMe:  cuz it's like: oh, he dosen't care about me - he is so importent.
Me:  You're not explaining it right. What bothers you?
GuideMe:  i guess it's hard for me to fully express myself in English
Me:  Write it in Spanish או בעברית - אני מעוניין לדעת
GuideMe:  גם בעברית קשה להסביר  
שאדם ותיק, הוא כאילו חשוב. אי אפשר "סתם" להטריד אותוi can't just call him and say "Hi! my mom pissed me off so i need to talk to someone"
Me:  אבל הוא ממציא עצמו לך
GuideMe:  but Dov is super nice guy . sure, but still. it's Probably lack of self confidence or something
Me:  I hear you a little...
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Re: My Story / Asperger 08 Apr 2016 14:05 #284016

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Mazel Tov!!!!
!אנא עבדא דקודשא בריך הוא

וּבְיָדְךָ כֹּחַ וּגְבוּרָה וּבְיָדְךָ לְגַדֵּל וּלְחַזֵּק לַכֹּל

And every day that you want to waste, that you want to waste, you can
And every day that you want to wake up, that you want to wake, you can
And every day that you want to change, that you want to change, yeah
I'll help you see it through...

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Re: My Story / NON Asperger 10 Apr 2016 22:58 #284225

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markz wrote on 03 Apr 2016 23:17:
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I have formerly handed in my resignation from the league of Aspies
I HAVE GRADUATED

I have morphed into a regular Neurotypical guy on the street

See ye all later
:pinch: Warning: Spoiler!

 
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you monster!!! you broke this poor girl's heart! 
Have a corny day ... and if you do have other plans, change 'em!!
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לפעולות אדם בדבר שפתיך אני שמרתי אורחות פריץ. תמוך אשורי במעגלותיך בל נמוטו פעמי. תהלים יז
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Re: My Story / NON Asperger 10 Apr 2016 23:01 #284226

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That was my therapist last week

Stupid woman - didn't wanna give me a release letter

im being serious - I showed her that post and she laughed it off, so you almost got it right
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Re: My Story / Asperger 11 Apr 2016 14:18 #284292

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markz wrote on 08 Apr 2016 14:04:
Why is my day count on 90?
I wanted to share what I dscs'd this morning on the chat with Guideme, which verified my thought process, and feel free to respond to this post if you like

______________

GuideMe:  BTW, why is alwais says your'e on 90 days?
Me:  I didn't update it 150 days ago, cos i like constantly gettin Mazel tovs
GuideMe:  Mazel tov mark!!!
Me:  Real reason?
Me:  I have a feeling when newcomers see someone is on 2500 days (as there are some great guys like that here), they think - oh cool, he doesn't struggle, I'll talk to someone else, and I want them to be comfortable talking to me [ed. stupid idea]
GuideMe:  It's an interesting thought
Me:  Debatable...
GuideMe:  i think it's also sacry. talk to a guy with billion days
Me:  Why
GuideMe:  cuz it's like: oh, he dosen't care about me - he is so importent.
Me:  You're not explaining it right. What bothers you?
GuideMe:  i guess it's hard for me to fully express myself in English
Me:  Write it in Spanish או בעברית - אני מעוניין לדעת
GuideMe:  גם בעברית קשה להסביר  
שאדם ותיק, הוא כאילו חשוב. אי אפשר "סתם" להטריד אותוi can't just call him and say "Hi! my mom pissed me off so i need to talk to someone"
Me:  אבל הוא ממציא עצמו לך
GuideMe:  but Dov is super nice guy . sure, but still. it's Probably lack of self confidence or something
Me:  I hear you a little...

Mazel tov!!!

I actually think that GM makes a lot of sense.  It Can be intimidating. Sure people are nice, but many of us feel so stupid and ashamed at ourselves after a fall, we don't know how we gave in Again, and we imagine that everyone else will judge us for it. Only someone else suffering from the same insane cravings can really understand.  Now, it's true that many people with high clean counts still understand or feel those struggles, but when those high numbers are staring you in the face, you kindof feel that they are beyond all that garbage and are on to bigger and better things.  
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Re: My Story / Asperger 11 Apr 2016 14:42 #284294

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And I think you may not fully appreciate "One day at a time", because that's all the big truckers have

NOTHING MORE THAN ONE DAY

Theres a famous AA saying
""The man I once was drank, The man I once was will drink again."

Therefore I ask please - the man amongst us that has been reborn entirely after 90 with no lust "attacks", would he kindly step forward please...
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Re: My Story / Asperger 11 Apr 2016 15:30 #284298

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markz wrote on 11 Apr 2016 14:42:
And I think you may not fully appreciate "One day at a time", because that's all the big truckers have

NOTHING MORE THAN ONE DAY

Theres a famous AA saying
""The man I once was drank, The man I once was will drink again."

Therefore I ask please - the man amongst us that has been reborn entirely after 90 with no lust "attacks", would he kindly step forward please...

True, however you're jumping to tbe extreme. "...the man amongst us that has been reborn entirely after 90 with no lust "attacks",..."     no one is reborn again, but i think most will say that things do get easier with time. Not sayn that the cravings are weaker, but we get more used to controling our day to remain clean. When you're not always slipping to the edge, the falls with all of the struggles move further back in the mind.
Odaat is great for planning ahead, but i don't see how it's helpful lookin back. 
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Re: My Story / Asperger 18 Apr 2016 07:14 #284966

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Bigmoish wrote on 27 Jan 2016 20:04:
Somehow, it gets "sick" with viruses less often if we don't use it for porn...  

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ah virus kimt fin avayress..א וויירעס קימט פין עבירות
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Re: My Story / Asperger 28 Apr 2016 03:48 #286044

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Why don't you just read 'em first, and then decide how and if you're gonna blog about the 'dumb' parts?
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If one gives up at the first sign of a struggle, he is really not ready to be successful."
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Re: My Story (Mild Asperger) 28 Apr 2016 12:05 #286072

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cordnoy wrote on 28 Apr 2016 03:48:
Why don't you just read 'em first, and then decide how and if you're gonna blog about the 'dumb' parts?

As PA said


I don't understand either, but that's the way I am...

The 'dumb' parts was primarily re; the handbook, but if there's any in the whitebook, I'd note them too

Take for example the current dropdown that predominantly features "Taphsic"
I guess the dropdown order was based on the level of the sexaholic struggle (as per the Initial Evaluation page)​, but I have yet to hear of substantial long-term success with it
1 or 2 users is great, but not reason to give it much weight

IMHO, the impression that some member get from GYE regarding Taphsic, is misleading
Gye 'policy' is 'live and let live', i.e. Put tools out there, and let people try them, and if they don't work move to the next.
BUT they think the following "If gye recommended it, it must be a viable tool, so i'll try it, and try it, and try it again"
Little do they know that it's only recommended to a very very very small segment of the population
Therefore I believe it can be offered as an option, but without all the great pomp and fanfare, and should be moved off the dropdown

If there's a mark-able long-term taphsic success rate (5%+), Ill be the first happy member to hear
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Re: My Story (Mild Asperger) 28 Apr 2016 12:43 #286073

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Hear ye, hear ye!
Wdf does yaakov know?
Gye has  over 10,000 members (so they say) and I know of at least 7 of them that tried the taphsic method, and it didn't work!
So, as soon as I find the time to read the book, I will blog about the silliness of that recovery tool.
And just wait till I get started with that colorful book and all that church meeting surrender gibberish....who the Hell are they kidding? My posts are written already; I just need to read a page or two before it goes to print. 
 
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If one gives up at the first sign of a struggle, he is really not ready to be successful."
"Tryin' and doin' are two different thin's - tryin' is hopin'; doin' is succeedin'.
"The right thin' to do and the hard thin' to do are usually the same."


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Re: My Story (Mild Asperger) 28 Apr 2016 12:53 #286074

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I agree with Cord, although I wouldn't have said it that strong. GYE has been around for much longer than you have been sober and also there are many guys, (and girls), who are trying the GYE program and aren't on the forums. If I look at the 90 day wall I barely recognize any of the names. 
What works for me: 1) Honesty 2) Meetings 3) 12-step 4) Listening to my Sponsor 5) Not doing what I want to do 6) Inviting the God of my understanding into my life

"I can't do it, God can help." | "Everything I want is on the other side of fear." | "Where there is deprivation there is addiction." | "Yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery." | "Stop stopping, start living."

My thread: Big Steps

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