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Re: Free Choice?!! 21 Jan 2016 20:55 #275179

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Bigmoish wrote:
Today marks 9 months since my first post, the gestation period of a human being.
As such, I feel it appropriate to reflect a bit.
When a we are born, we are in no way finished growing or developing. We are just given certain abilities and tools that we must spend the next several years honing and fine tuning.
In similar fashion, I do not feel I am close to any type of permanent resolution of my issues. However, over the last 9 months, I feel I have been granted many gifts. Most important among them are the multitudes of friends I have formed relationships with through this site, who continue to advise me, listen to me, guide me, and sometimes just schmooze with me every day. I have also come to many stark realizations about myself and my thought process, specifically regarding lust, honesty, and other things.
I "hope" to continue using these gifts to progress forward in my life.

Thanks for the line Moish, I don't think that I can say it any better. Over the last 9 months, I have fallen a lot, but each time it was a learning process, a chance to look at myself HONESTLY, and say what am I doing wrong, what am I doing right, and what can I / should I / must I change?
I feel that I am on a much securer path today then I was 9 months ago. I have a support group (all of you) and access to information and advice that I didn't have before.
While before I was sinking deep underwater without oxygen about to go down for perhaps the last time, now I am struggling to swim, thrashing about in the water with a whole bunch of floating boards attached, My head is above the water and can see that there is a shore ahead. If I can only keep at this awkward swimming until I reach the land then I'm safe! (hopefully I'll get there at 120yrs)
Thanks
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Re: Free Choice?!! 14 Feb 2016 05:00 #277722

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stillgoing wrote on Unknown:

Bigmoish wrote:
Today marks 9 months since my first post, the gestation period of a human being.
As such, I feel it appropriate to reflect a bit.
When a we are born, we are in no way finished growing or developing. We are just given certain abilities and tools that we must spend the next several years honing and fine tuning.
In similar fashion, I do not feel I am close to any type of permanent resolution of my issues. However, over the last 9 months, I feel I have been granted many gifts. Most important among them are the multitudes of friends I have formed relationships with through this site, who continue to advise me, listen to me, guide me, and sometimes just schmooze with me every day. I have also come to many stark realizations about myself and my thought process, specifically regarding lust, honesty, and other things.
I "hope" to continue using these gifts to progress forward in my life.

Thanks for the line Moish, I don't think that I can say it any better. Over the last 9 months, I have fallen a lot, but each time it was a learning process, a chance to look at myself HONESTLY, and say what am I doing wrong, what am I doing right, and what can I / should I / must I change?
I feel that I am on a much securer path today then I was 9 months ago. I have a support group (all of you) and access to information and advice that I didn't have before.
While before I was sinking deep underwater without oxygen about to go down for perhaps the last time, now I am struggling to swim, thrashing about in the water with a whole bunch of floating boards attached, My head is above the water and can see that there is a shore ahead. If I can only keep at this awkward swimming until I reach the land then I'm safe! (hopefully I'll get there at 120yrs)
Thanks
SG

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Re: Free Choice?!! 17 Feb 2016 23:31 #278268

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Ok So my friend Stillgoing sent me a personal reply

IM HONORED

Guys feel free to reply to his fine words

And I quote

Water is really really cold right now, so swimming's a bit . I'm not aiming for 90 days anymore. Too many false starts. Now I'm just trying for 24 or 1440 or 86,400 (hours/minutes/seconds) as some would call it odaat. But my main reason that I'm focusing on odaat is because I've given up hope on myself in 90 days. Deep down i hope that it i do 86,000 seconds 90 times i'll get to seven million, seven hundred seventy six thousand, seconds, which was my goal of 90 days, but I'm not really allowed to think about that because seven million seconds is seven million chances to mess up. Ten seconds on the other hand, is much more manageable
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Re: Free Choice?!! 01 Mar 2016 02:50 #279729

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markz wrote on 17 Feb 2016 23:31:
Ok So my friend Stillgoing sent me a personal reply

IM HONORED

Guys feel free to reply to his fine words

And I quote

Water is really really cold right now, so swimming's a bit . I'm not aiming for 90 days anymore. Too many false starts. Now I'm just trying for 24 or 1440 or 86,400 (hours/minutes/seconds) as some would call it odaat. But my main reason that I'm focusing on odaat is because I've given up hope on myself in 90 days. Deep down i hope that it i do 86,000 seconds 90 times i'll get to seven million, seven hundred seventy six thousand, seconds, which was my goal of 90 days, but I'm not really allowed to think about that because seven million seconds is seven million chances to mess up. Ten seconds on the other hand, is much more manageable

Wow markz, whoever you were quoting sounds just like me. :-)
Honestly i don't know what i was thinking above about 7 million seconds. I think 60 seconds are all i can manage right now.  Funny that i thought that i actually knew how to swim. Must have forgotten.

Hay Markz, you owe me a amswer especially to the second part of that email (that you did'nt quote)! We had a deal, remember?
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Re: Free Choice?!! 03 Mar 2016 01:56 #280037

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My friend do you read my thread?
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Re: Free Choice?!! 17 Apr 2016 16:52 #284858

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Shlomo24 wrote on 06 Apr 2016 02:06:
My take is that I can't do tomorrow without doing today. 


What an awesome line!! One of my biggest excuses for acting out that works almost all the time is "sure, I want to be sober, I'll be clean after this one last time" Shlomo's sayin that tomorrow never comes if we don't do today.  (and If you think that that is obvious, then how come you're still acting out?)
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Last Edit: 17 Apr 2016 16:53 by stillgoing.

Re:i flubbed my Free Choice. 10 Jun 2016 06:18 #289991

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stillgoing wrote on 04 Jun 2015 23:01:
I'm debating because someone offered me an old guitar, but I live in a very crowed home (b"H), so I really don't know where I'd keep it. I may give it a try though. Thanks.
 

You can keep it in the hole in the wall.
Tell your wife that's what the hole was for.

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Is she really triggering? 30 Apr 2017 14:36 #311922

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So, as you (might) know, I have ssa
 which means that I get very triggered by a lot of ads in our "frum" newspapers & magazine's, boys clothing stores, swimming ads, even regular photos. Now, these magazines all have a strict policy to never print a lady's picture. (What would they have done if Hillary would have won!). Being involved with so many people at gye, I can appreciate how this policy can be very helpful to a lot of people. "Innocent" pictures of an average lady can be very triggering to many of us and it's a nice favor that they don't print them.
Heres my question, and before I ask it I just want to preference and say that I can be triggered by tons of things including many foods, a certain model car and more, so don't be embarrassed to answer yes.  my question to all of the osa (opposite s attraction) guys here is, Would it make things any harder for you if they would print pictures of Hillary Clinton and blur out the boys swimming lessons ads?
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Last Edit: 30 Apr 2017 14:39 by stillgoing.

Re: Is she really triggering? 30 Apr 2017 14:40 #311924

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And every day that you want to waste, that you want to waste, you can
And every day that you want to wake up, that you want to wake, you can
And every day that you want to change, that you want to change, yeah
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Re: Is she really triggering? 30 Apr 2017 14:46 #311926

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Re: Is she really triggering? 30 Apr 2017 15:24 #311934

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stillgoing wrote on 30 Apr 2017 14:36:
So, as you (might) know, I have ssa
 which means that I get very triggered by a lot of ads in our "frum" newspapers & magazine's, boys clothing stores, swimming ads, even regular photos. Now, these magazines all have a strict policy to never print a lady's picture. (What would they have done if Hillary would have won!). Being involved with so many people at gye, I can appreciate how this policy can be very helpful to a lot of people. "Innocent" pictures of an average lady can be very triggering to many of us and it's a nice favor that they don't print them.
Heres my question, and before I ask it I just want to preference and say that I can be triggered by tons of things including many foods, a certain model car and more, so don't be embarrassed to answer yes.  my question to all of the osa (opposite s attraction) guys here is, Would it make things any harder for you if they would print pictures of Hillary Clinton and blur out the boys swimming lessons ads?

Ok, so they don't include things that trigger SA fellows

so will have to ask them to remove pages for the SSA fellows

Now the recipes should come out for all the OEA fellows

The humor sections are not funny - those should go back where they came from

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Re: Is she really triggering? 30 Apr 2017 15:28 #311935

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Mark, I don't really think that those are all the same thing.
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Re: Is she really triggering? 30 Apr 2017 15:48 #311938

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stillgoing wrote on 30 Apr 2017 15:28:
Mark, I don't really think that those are all the same thing.

No not all
I meant about the OEA that each triggered may not understand the other fellows

My wife doesn't like me on gye
She doesn't understand my triggers
She has her own triggers regarding publications which I don't understand (although I may empathize)
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Re: Is she really triggering? 30 Apr 2017 16:03 #311942

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In all honesty having hung around here for a few months I think its a very bad idea if they are really putting pics up of boys and swimming lessons.

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cordnoy wrote on 20 Aug 2015 00:18:
Toot!
Sex!
Ooh!
Ooh!

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