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Re: A tragedy of the human condition 18 Mar 2015 17:28 #250758

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Well said

It's always a good practice to think of your strengths -Hashem has given you wonderful qualities with endless potential to achieve.

Put together a program of recovery that works for you - and go take on the world.

As you succeed(and perhaps struggle until you get there) - please continue to share with us
Last Edit: 18 Mar 2015 17:29 by yiraishamaim.

Re: A tragedy of the human condition 29 Mar 2015 17:50 #251464

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I had a slip today. I got a contact request on skype from a female with an inappropriate skype name and picture and I accepted. She didn't respond yet and a few minutes later I deleted the contact and blocked it. In the mean time I felt the 'feelings' of misbehavior.

Is this a fall or a slip?

Re: A tragedy of the human condition 29 Mar 2015 18:47 #251469

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Slip!
My email: thenewme613@hotmail.com
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If one gives up at the first sign of a struggle, he is really not ready to be successful."
"Tryin' and doin' are two different thin's - tryin' is hopin'; doin' is succeedin'.
"The right thin' to do and the hard thin' to do are usually the same."


Disclaimer: I am not a cheerleader; B"H, there are many on the site. I am here to change myself, and with God's help, by some mistake, I might even help change others.

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Re: A tragedy of the human condition 29 Mar 2015 19:14 #251477

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I accept your psak and happily embrace it. Thank you.

Re: A tragedy of the human condition 29 Mar 2015 19:16 #251478

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Hashivalisesonyishecho wrote:
I accept your psak and happily embrace it. Thank you.


ouch!
I am passul l'eidus and certainly l'dayanus!
Hell! i'm a sex addict for God's sake!
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GYE Handbook | Gibbor's Insights | GYE FAQ - Thanks Skep and DMS123456789 White Book | Big Book (Alcoholics Anonymous)

If one gives up at the first sign of a struggle, he is really not ready to be successful."
"Tryin' and doin' are two different thin's - tryin' is hopin'; doin' is succeedin'.
"The right thin' to do and the hard thin' to do are usually the same."


Disclaimer: I am not a cheerleader; B"H, there are many on the site. I am here to change myself, and with God's help, by some mistake, I might even help change others.

MY POSTS ARE NOT WRITTEN AS A MODERATOR UNLESS EXPLICITLY STATED.

Re: A tragedy of the human condition 29 Mar 2015 19:28 #251481

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1. When they are mechabed someone to be an ade kudushin, they just tell him to be meharher betashuva and then he's good to go.

2. Addiction is an illness not a sin.

Re: A tragedy of the human condition 29 Mar 2015 19:58 #251483

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Hashivalisesonyishecho wrote:
1. When they are mechabed someone to be an ade kudushin, they just tell him to be meharher betashuva and then he's good to go.

2. Addiction is an illness not a sin.


1. I've needed to do that several times.
2. that's ridiculous...let's not get carried away!
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If one gives up at the first sign of a struggle, he is really not ready to be successful."
"Tryin' and doin' are two different thin's - tryin' is hopin'; doin' is succeedin'.
"The right thin' to do and the hard thin' to do are usually the same."


Disclaimer: I am not a cheerleader; B"H, there are many on the site. I am here to change myself, and with God's help, by some mistake, I might even help change others.

MY POSTS ARE NOT WRITTEN AS A MODERATOR UNLESS EXPLICITLY STATED.

Re: A tragedy of the human condition 29 Mar 2015 20:01 #251484

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1. Good for you. You're obviously highly regarded to get that kibud several times.
2. That's exactly the role reversal I wanted.
Last Edit: 29 Mar 2015 20:02 by Hashivalisesonyishecho.

Re: A tragedy of the human condition 29 Mar 2015 20:04 #251485

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:pinch: Warning: Spoiler!
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GYE Handbook | Gibbor's Insights | GYE FAQ - Thanks Skep and DMS123456789 White Book | Big Book (Alcoholics Anonymous)

If one gives up at the first sign of a struggle, he is really not ready to be successful."
"Tryin' and doin' are two different thin's - tryin' is hopin'; doin' is succeedin'.
"The right thin' to do and the hard thin' to do are usually the same."


Disclaimer: I am not a cheerleader; B"H, there are many on the site. I am here to change myself, and with God's help, by some mistake, I might even help change others.

MY POSTS ARE NOT WRITTEN AS A MODERATOR UNLESS EXPLICITLY STATED.
Last Edit: 31 Mar 2015 16:59 by cordnoy.

Re: A tragedy of the human condition 29 Mar 2015 20:24 #251486

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Oy vey. I don't know what you mean so I'm takeh afraid to get you started.

Re: A tragedy of the human condition 29 Mar 2015 20:30 #251487

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just a joke; don't worry.

gettin' back to your comment............
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GYE Handbook | Gibbor's Insights | GYE FAQ - Thanks Skep and DMS123456789 White Book | Big Book (Alcoholics Anonymous)

If one gives up at the first sign of a struggle, he is really not ready to be successful."
"Tryin' and doin' are two different thin's - tryin' is hopin'; doin' is succeedin'.
"The right thin' to do and the hard thin' to do are usually the same."


Disclaimer: I am not a cheerleader; B"H, there are many on the site. I am here to change myself, and with God's help, by some mistake, I might even help change others.

MY POSTS ARE NOT WRITTEN AS A MODERATOR UNLESS EXPLICITLY STATED.

Re: A tragedy of the human condition 29 Mar 2015 20:44 #251489

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It was TEMPTATION no psak needed for this .

Re: A tragedy of the human condition 30 Mar 2015 02:56 #251518

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newaction wrote:
It was TEMPTATION no psak needed for this .


Re: A tragedy of the human condition 01 Apr 2015 00:15 #251611

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Hi Hashiva!!!

Are you accepting Mazel tovs L'koved 90 days?
(or 90 times one day at a time.)

If yes I would like to wish you many many more days of sobriety!!!
Last Edit: 01 Apr 2015 00:16 by dd.

Re: A tragedy of the human condition 01 Apr 2015 01:42 #251630

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Thank you dd. Although I had some slips, I would say that these 90 days were the cleanest I can remember in a long time and I can only attribute it to GYE. I thank all of the chaverim here. I am humbled by the abundant ahavas yisroel that prevails here. I am learning some lessons in caring about other people and in that sense I feel like I am surrounded by giants and I hope that it must be that naturally something rubs off. I wish everyone here hatzlacha in their personal growth and in their relationships and in their preparations for peach and a chag kosher vesameach.
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