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Re: A Poll - Your Biggest Concern 31 Jul 2016 17:48 #293022

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Well if that's the case I'm gonna ask the Russians to spam Clinton and Trumps campaigns and divert everyone to the

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Re: A Poll - Your Biggest Concern 31 Jul 2016 23:54 #293030

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Now it works

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Re: A Poll - Your Biggest Concern 02 Aug 2016 19:40 #293170

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I changed my vote to trigger happy on the computer.

I didn't realize originally how interesting the question is. Started me thinking about why that is what I worry about most when the argument could be made that I should be more worried about a different option.

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Re: A Poll - Your Biggest Concern 20 Sep 2016 16:56 #295367

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My biggest concern right now is that I can't change my vote...

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Re: A Poll - Your Biggest Concern 20 Sep 2016 18:33 #295369

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wow this is a tough one. I mean what comes first the chicken or the egg? Is it thoughts and fantasies and then your eyes wonder or the opposite? Isn't M caused by thoughts and fantasies? Are those "trigger happy fingers" a result of thoughts and fantasies or vice versa?

Re: A Poll - Your Biggest Concern 20 Sep 2016 20:11 #295402

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No I think each can be a separate struggle

Didnt you say your Masturbation was due to an itch, which i understood that it wasn't caused by fantasies...
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Re: A Poll - Your Biggest Concern 20 Sep 2016 20:59 #295408

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Yeah But if I can't fantasize I can't masturbate. Its kind of cyclical. I am addicted to fanstesizng as a means of masturbating because I have an itch.

Re: A Poll - Your Biggest Concern 20 Sep 2016 21:28 #295411

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Re: A Poll - Your Biggest Concern 21 Sep 2016 03:28 #295419

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waydown wrote on 20 Sep 2016 20:59:

Yeah But if I can't fantasize I can't masturbate. Its kind of cyclical. I am addicted to fanstesizng as a means of masturbating because I have an itch.


I think that's the question of the poll

What is the underlying cause of the various forms of lust

For me 'trigger happy at computer' or 'Eyes Wanderin' in Street' cause me fantasizing and Mast...

Sometimes it's masturbatin that can cause the other things

However... ... there's very often an underlying cause to why you may itch

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Re: A Poll - Your Biggest Concern 21 Sep 2016 14:35 #295426

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Markz,

Maybe for others something came first. But for me aside from the fact that I was raised in an environment where tznuis, TV & semiporn magazines were OK despite being "frum", I have no other triggers. 

There is a famous story of a reba whom a chasid came to crying becuase his son eats chazir and dances with shiktzas. He told the reba my son became crazy. The reba replied no if he would dance with chazirim and eat shiktzas he would be crazy. But your son is just simply following the yetzer hara. In my case that's really all it is. I have a huge yetzer hara for zenus that succeeded in latching on to an addiction. In my cause, lust is simply the root with no trigger prior. 

Disclaimer, I only speak for myself. It is possible that 99.9% of others on this site do not have that experience. 

I still don't see how you masterbate without fantasizing but I guess I'll vote on that. Since in my case its not so much the fantasy that I enjoy (although I do enjoy it) rather its the climax.

Re: A Poll - Your Biggest Concern 21 Sep 2016 16:08 #295435

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I have masturbated without fantasy. I used to think it was impossible also. 
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I have masturbated without fantasy. I used to think it was impossible also. In not exactly doing that these days but I know it's possible. 
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Re: A Poll - Your Biggest Concern 09 Nov 2016 17:14 #297603

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Re: A Poll - Your Biggest Concern 07 Dec 2016 02:29 #299308

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