Read once, then minimize to save screen space.

Forum Overview

Post on the forum to get support, tell your story and reach out for help when feeling weak!

You will never be alone in this struggle again.

The GYE forum is anonymous platform of group support, and a life-line of chizuk for hundreds of people in exactly your situation. 

To use the forum you need to first become a member of the site, sign up here.

After signing up to the site, go to the forum, enter one of our boards and press "New Topic" to begin posting! 

Welcome, Guest

A Poll - Your Biggest Concern
(0 viewing) 
Welcome to our forum! Introduce yourself here (anonymously, of course) and get a warm welcome from the rest of the community!

TOPIC: A Poll - Your Biggest Concern 19733 Views

Re: A Poll - Your Biggest Concern 26 Oct 2015 22:15 #266933

  • Mesayin
  • OFFLINE
  • Platinum Boarder
  • הבא ליטהר מסייעין אותו
  • Posts: 357
  • Karma: 8
I voted the 3rd one "thoughts/fantasies, although mostly just thoughts, and just as R' Cordnoy suggested it's more an issue with yechidim.

It used to be for me the forth "M" but I haven't even come close to that in a while B"H Hashem should help further.

My second would be "trigger happy on the computer" although not to xxx sites but to places that have a 10% chance that there might be somthin'.

As far as the first choice, I B"H have no problem on the streets, I take off my glasses, look at the ground while walking and getting out of the way of potential problems.

Chazak V'emuzt
My thread/My story

Slogans and Sayings

Relapses and falling are inevitable, the challenge is getting up.

Tzaddikim are the not the ones that don't fall, they are the ones that fall constantly and get up constantly.

Feel free to contact me anytime through private message or chat.

Chizzuk emails by Rabbi Duvid Ashear shlita that can change your day subscribe now.

Check out my powerful tefila.

Depressed? Check out some of my jokes

Re: A Poll - Your Biggest Concern 22 Nov 2015 03:12 #269223

  • Markz
  • Current streak: 87 days
  • NOW ONLINE
  • Platinum Boarder
  • Posts: 7162
  • Karma: 373
bump
My Story---------Dov Quotes


What works for me:
ForumInternet Restrictions




FREE LUST TRUCK TOWING
Click HERE to checkout;
100 Day Success Stories: cordnoy, Dov, Gevura and more...
• Awesome Threads Saved for You
• Cast Your Vote

GYE Plenty Solutions
➣ The Mark of Torah - Lust Chizuk

➣ Nice Trucking Story

Re: A Poll - Your Biggest Concern 23 Nov 2015 19:11 #269410

  • Shlomo24
  • Current streak: 1 day
  • OFFLINE
  • Platinum Boarder
  • Posts: 2213
  • Karma: 130
lol
What works for me: 1) Honesty 2) Meetings 3) 12-step 4) Listening to my Sponsor 5) Not doing what I want to do 6) Inviting the God of my understanding into my life

"I can't do it, God can help." | "Everything I want is on the other side of fear." | "Where there is deprivation there is addiction." | "Yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery." | "Stop stopping, start living."

My thread: Big Steps

Email: iam24zman@gmail.com

Re: A Poll - Your Biggest Concern 23 Nov 2015 19:45 #269422

  • cordnoy
  • Current streak: 147 days
  • NOW ONLINE
  • Moderator
  • I'm sailin', for I've got to be free
  • Posts: 11236
  • Karma: 516
Thank God! I'm not losin' anymore.
My email: thenewme613@hotmail.com
My threads:
GYE Handbook | Gibbor's Insights | GYE FAQ - Thanks Skep and DMS123456789 White Book | Big Book (Alcoholics Anonymous)

If one gives up at the first sign of a struggle, he is really not ready to be successful."
"Tryin' and doin' are two different thin's - tryin' is hopin'; doin' is succeedin'.
"The right thin' to do and the hard thin' to do are usually the same."


Disclaimer: I am not a cheerleader; B"H, there are many on the site. I am here to change myself, and with God's help, by some mistake, I might even help change others.

MY POSTS ARE NOT WRITTEN AS A MODERATOR UNLESS EXPLICITLY STATED.

Re: A Poll - Your Biggest Concern 18 Jan 2016 16:49 #274730

  • Markz
  • Current streak: 87 days
  • NOW ONLINE
  • Platinum Boarder
  • Posts: 7162
  • Karma: 373
I'm thinking of changing my vote - it's been swinging between 2, so for the next 2 months I'll change it to the 2nd
My Story---------Dov Quotes


What works for me:
ForumInternet Restrictions




FREE LUST TRUCK TOWING
Click HERE to checkout;
100 Day Success Stories: cordnoy, Dov, Gevura and more...
• Awesome Threads Saved for You
• Cast Your Vote

GYE Plenty Solutions
➣ The Mark of Torah - Lust Chizuk

➣ Nice Trucking Story

Re: A Poll - Your Biggest Concern 18 Jan 2016 18:57 #274742

  • cordnoy
  • Current streak: 147 days
  • NOW ONLINE
  • Moderator
  • I'm sailin', for I've got to be free
  • Posts: 11236
  • Karma: 516
markz wrote:
I'm thinking of changing my vote - it's been swinging between 2, so for the next 2 months I'll change it to the 2nd


Thanks for bumpin'.
It actually was good for me to think of this question again.
My email: thenewme613@hotmail.com
My threads:
GYE Handbook | Gibbor's Insights | GYE FAQ - Thanks Skep and DMS123456789 White Book | Big Book (Alcoholics Anonymous)

If one gives up at the first sign of a struggle, he is really not ready to be successful."
"Tryin' and doin' are two different thin's - tryin' is hopin'; doin' is succeedin'.
"The right thin' to do and the hard thin' to do are usually the same."


Disclaimer: I am not a cheerleader; B"H, there are many on the site. I am here to change myself, and with God's help, by some mistake, I might even help change others.

MY POSTS ARE NOT WRITTEN AS A MODERATOR UNLESS EXPLICITLY STATED.

Re: A Poll - Your Biggest Concern 18 Jan 2016 21:19 #274776

  • Shlomo24
  • Current streak: 1 day
  • OFFLINE
  • Platinum Boarder
  • Posts: 2213
  • Karma: 130
I changed my vote to thoughts/fantasies, it's been what I have been struggling with the most for the past while.
What works for me: 1) Honesty 2) Meetings 3) 12-step 4) Listening to my Sponsor 5) Not doing what I want to do 6) Inviting the God of my understanding into my life

"I can't do it, God can help." | "Everything I want is on the other side of fear." | "Where there is deprivation there is addiction." | "Yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery." | "Stop stopping, start living."

My thread: Big Steps

Email: iam24zman@gmail.com

Re: A Poll - Your Biggest Concern 20 Jan 2016 22:10 #275069

  • stillgoing
  • Current streak: 2 days
  • OFFLINE
  • Platinum Boarder
  • "LIFE IS ONLY HARD FOR THE FIRST 120 YEARS!"
  • Posts: 1641
  • Karma: 148
I refuse to vote! I need to choose more then one option. Even in the presidential election you can choose a vice. Maybe the poll could be 'what is our biggest concern 1st place and 2nd', or just choose all that apply.
BIG SHOT!
Free Choice?!
Yirai's Memories
STORY TIME :)

Dr. Seuss - You have brains in your head. You have feet in your shoes. You can steer yourself in any direction you choose. You're on your own, and you know what you know. And you are the guy who'll decide where to go.

FSKOT! (Fell Shmell--Keep on Trucking) (The Rebba R' Bards)
Last Edit: 20 Jan 2016 22:11 by stillgoing. Reason: spelling , like always...

Re: A Poll - Your Biggest Concern 21 Jan 2016 00:08 #275083

  • Workingguy
  • OFFLINE
  • Platinum Boarder
  • Posts: 1150
  • Karma: 138
stillgoing wrote:
Even in the presidential election you can choose a vice.

I think if you're on GYE you've already chosen your vice....

Re: A Poll - Your Biggest Concern 21 Jan 2016 00:13 #275084

  • Markz
  • Current streak: 87 days
  • NOW ONLINE
  • Platinum Boarder
  • Posts: 7162
  • Karma: 373
stillgoing wrote:
I refuse to vote! I need to choose more then one option. Even in the presidential election you can choose a vice. Maybe the poll could be 'what is our biggest concern 1st place and 2nd', or just choose all that apply.
So you admit there's a president, and that was the question
My Story---------Dov Quotes


What works for me:
ForumInternet Restrictions




FREE LUST TRUCK TOWING
Click HERE to checkout;
100 Day Success Stories: cordnoy, Dov, Gevura and more...
• Awesome Threads Saved for You
• Cast Your Vote

GYE Plenty Solutions
➣ The Mark of Torah - Lust Chizuk

➣ Nice Trucking Story

Re: A Poll - Your Biggest Concern 21 Jan 2016 19:11 #275151

  • stillgoing
  • Current streak: 2 days
  • OFFLINE
  • Platinum Boarder
  • "LIFE IS ONLY HARD FOR THE FIRST 120 YEARS!"
  • Posts: 1641
  • Karma: 148
markz wrote:
stillgoing wrote:
I refuse to vote! I need to choose more then one option. Even in the presidential election you can choose a vice. Maybe the poll could be 'what is our biggest concern 1st place and 2nd', or just choose all that apply.
So you admit there's a president, and that was the question

ok fine, so I voted for president problem today. But I plan on changing it soon. unlike our other president, I don't think that this one will stay the same for four years (or even four days). But where is the 'change your vote' button?
BIG SHOT!
Free Choice?!
Yirai's Memories
STORY TIME :)

Dr. Seuss - You have brains in your head. You have feet in your shoes. You can steer yourself in any direction you choose. You're on your own, and you know what you know. And you are the guy who'll decide where to go.

FSKOT! (Fell Shmell--Keep on Trucking) (The Rebba R' Bards)
Last Edit: 21 Jan 2016 19:12 by stillgoing.

Re: A Poll - Your Biggest Concern 08 Mar 2016 20:50 #280689

  • Yesodi
  • Current streak: 35 days
  • OFFLINE
  • Senior Boarder
  • Posts: 56
  • Karma: 6
I voted "Thoughts/Fantasies", but would have co-listed "Eyes Wanderin' in Street" (and maybe also reversed the two) had we been allowed to vote for more than one.

Not intending to seem overly-confident Chas veShalom, but -- maybe because of my 180-day streak today -- I currently feel that my decision to forever stop with both "M" and with Internet-porn ("Trigger-Happy-Finger on Computer") is so "rock solid" that these are simply not options.

And thus practically, most of my effort now is on trying to control:
  1. ​my thoughts and fantasies: for now. I've been very successful with not actively indulging such thought, or with forcibly kicking them out whenever they try popping in , B"H. (And this is because it is so clear to me that indulging such thoughts can so easily trigger "acting out.")
  2. "Eyes Wanderin' in Street": I've been pretty good at "looking away" fairly quickly when suddenly seeing a pretty face or body, and I'm also doing my best to avoid intentionally looking in the first place. But I feel that I still need more work in this area.

With that, I wouldn't define my understanding that I need to be constantly vigilant in these areas as "worry."
I invite you to follow:
Last Edit: 08 Mar 2016 22:26 by Yesodi. Reason: clean-up

Re: A Poll - Your Biggest Concern 08 Mar 2016 22:34 #280701

  • cordnoy
  • Current streak: 147 days
  • NOW ONLINE
  • Moderator
  • I'm sailin', for I've got to be free
  • Posts: 11236
  • Karma: 516
Halevay veiter.

My decision to forever stop was.....oops, I actually never made such a decision. I know that would be a big fat lie. I made it for today. Thank God I have been makin' that decision every day for quite some time now.

B'hatzlachah
My email: thenewme613@hotmail.com
My threads:
GYE Handbook | Gibbor's Insights | GYE FAQ - Thanks Skep and DMS123456789 White Book | Big Book (Alcoholics Anonymous)

If one gives up at the first sign of a struggle, he is really not ready to be successful."
"Tryin' and doin' are two different thin's - tryin' is hopin'; doin' is succeedin'.
"The right thin' to do and the hard thin' to do are usually the same."


Disclaimer: I am not a cheerleader; B"H, there are many on the site. I am here to change myself, and with God's help, by some mistake, I might even help change others.

MY POSTS ARE NOT WRITTEN AS A MODERATOR UNLESS EXPLICITLY STATED.

Re: A Poll - Your Biggest Concern 31 Jul 2016 16:20 #293019

  • Markz
  • Current streak: 87 days
  • NOW ONLINE
  • Platinum Boarder
  • Posts: 7162
  • Karma: 373
I just tried to change my vote, it's not letting me.

anyone else seeing the same?
My Story---------Dov Quotes


What works for me:
ForumInternet Restrictions




FREE LUST TRUCK TOWING
Click HERE to checkout;
100 Day Success Stories: cordnoy, Dov, Gevura and more...
• Awesome Threads Saved for You
• Cast Your Vote

GYE Plenty Solutions
➣ The Mark of Torah - Lust Chizuk

➣ Nice Trucking Story

Re: A Poll - Your Biggest Concern 31 Jul 2016 17:27 #293021

  • cordnoy
  • Current streak: 147 days
  • NOW ONLINE
  • Moderator
  • I'm sailin', for I've got to be free
  • Posts: 11236
  • Karma: 516
Markz wrote on 31 Jul 2016 16:20:
I just tried to change my vote, it's not letting me.

anyone else seeing the same?

Seems all elections and votes nowadays are rigged.
My email: thenewme613@hotmail.com
My threads:
GYE Handbook | Gibbor's Insights | GYE FAQ - Thanks Skep and DMS123456789 White Book | Big Book (Alcoholics Anonymous)

If one gives up at the first sign of a struggle, he is really not ready to be successful."
"Tryin' and doin' are two different thin's - tryin' is hopin'; doin' is succeedin'.
"The right thin' to do and the hard thin' to do are usually the same."


Disclaimer: I am not a cheerleader; B"H, there are many on the site. I am here to change myself, and with God's help, by some mistake, I might even help change others.

MY POSTS ARE NOT WRITTEN AS A MODERATOR UNLESS EXPLICITLY STATED.
Time to create page: 0.78 seconds

Are you sure?

Yes