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Re: Glad to be here 22 Nov 2015 00:07 #269192

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If you are at Jacs, message me.
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Don't slip it hurts
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--"ולא המדרש עיקר, אלא המעשה"
--"To promise not to do a thing is the surest way in the world to make a body want to go and do that very thing." Mark Twain
--"If, when you honestly want to, you find you cannot quit entirely, or if when drinking (or lusting), you have little control over the amount you take, you are probably alcoholic (or sexaholic)." AA Big Book P. 45. Parenthesis added.
--You hit rock bottom when you decide to stop digging.

Re: Glad to be here 22 Nov 2015 14:33 #269264

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This is a struggle, and I feel on the inside that the obsession is isn't really gone. That Hashem has removed the obsession from the more insidious forms of acting out, but that I haven't surrendered some of the "lighter" stuff.


I made an important correction to my original post. The obsession is alive and well in the escapism you mention - in the little glances and wandering thoughts that I catch in the nick of time, or a moment too late. I'm working on setting up recovery actions to implement before I go out into the street or to the office each day.
Last Edit: 22 Nov 2015 14:35 by Moshe271. Reason: clarity

Re: Glad to be here 03 Dec 2015 05:21 #270228

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I'm not saying this based in or agrees with Torah. It's just from a speech in a TV show . I think there is a lesson for me in it though. So please no religious commentary

Shame. Secrets. Everything changed when shame crept into the Garden of Eden. We became self conscious. Adam and Eve were afraid to show each other who they were; how flawed, how human. So they hid themselves and we've been hiding from each other ever since. The first sin lead to the first secret and the secret is worse than the sin. We all know that, and yet the worse parts of ourselves, we keep them hidden and secret. And who do we keep the secrets hidden from? The people we want to be closest to. Show the people the real you, especially if it's someone you love. The skirt at the bar is the first to find out we have a drinking problem. The taxi driver is the first to find out we are having an affair. It's too hard to tell the truth to the people who matter. But God wants it to be hard. If it's weren't hard, it wouldn't be precious. Don't judge, just listen, because everyone here has a secret that can only be fixed by shedding the Light on it. The Light of God!
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My Threads:
Glad to be here
Don't slip it hurts
Lions & Tigers & Internet, Oh My!

--"ולא המדרש עיקר, אלא המעשה"
--"To promise not to do a thing is the surest way in the world to make a body want to go and do that very thing." Mark Twain
--"If, when you honestly want to, you find you cannot quit entirely, or if when drinking (or lusting), you have little control over the amount you take, you are probably alcoholic (or sexaholic)." AA Big Book P. 45. Parenthesis added.
--You hit rock bottom when you decide to stop digging.

Re: Glad to be here 03 Dec 2015 05:31 #270229

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Which show?
Quotes that speak to me
What do we replace it with....Life (Cordnoy)
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Re: Glad to be here 03 Dec 2015 05:35 #270230

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eslaasos wrote:
Which show?


:pinch: Warning: Spoiler!
Much Hatzlacha!

My Threads:
Glad to be here
Don't slip it hurts
Lions & Tigers & Internet, Oh My!

--"ולא המדרש עיקר, אלא המעשה"
--"To promise not to do a thing is the surest way in the world to make a body want to go and do that very thing." Mark Twain
--"If, when you honestly want to, you find you cannot quit entirely, or if when drinking (or lusting), you have little control over the amount you take, you are probably alcoholic (or sexaholic)." AA Big Book P. 45. Parenthesis added.
--You hit rock bottom when you decide to stop digging.
Last Edit: 03 Dec 2015 05:37 by serenity.

Re: Glad to be here 03 Dec 2015 16:14 #270274

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Some things are best kept covered.

If a person could expose their body in public, then eventually they wouldn't feel the need to use the bathroom because they would relieve themselves wherever they are. Similarly if a person had to reveal all of his shortcomings, he would feel like openly behaving in the worst way because there is no dignity left to preserve. That's why one may not look at his wife's most private parts because shema yimtza ba davar meguna etc. So there you have it that some things are to be kept private and not revealed to anyone.

That is except the doctor or the rofeh nefesh or in our case whoever you need to tell for the purpose of the recovery. Or to humiliate him as part of the recovery process.

Re: Glad to be here 03 Dec 2015 19:00 #270315

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I don't really want to get into this, but it has nothing to do with humiliation, nor is it even humiliating!
When I finally decided to be honest with a real person, I can only describe it as relief.
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Re: Glad to be here 04 Dec 2015 01:09 #270378

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I can take what I like and leave the rest or take what I don't like and leave the rest.
Much Hatzlacha!

My Threads:
Glad to be here
Don't slip it hurts
Lions & Tigers & Internet, Oh My!

--"ולא המדרש עיקר, אלא המעשה"
--"To promise not to do a thing is the surest way in the world to make a body want to go and do that very thing." Mark Twain
--"If, when you honestly want to, you find you cannot quit entirely, or if when drinking (or lusting), you have little control over the amount you take, you are probably alcoholic (or sexaholic)." AA Big Book P. 45. Parenthesis added.
--You hit rock bottom when you decide to stop digging.

Re: Glad to be here 04 Dec 2015 02:01 #270383

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Come check out the night call at 9:30.
Much Hatzlacha!

My Threads:
Glad to be here
Don't slip it hurts
Lions & Tigers & Internet, Oh My!

--"ולא המדרש עיקר, אלא המעשה"
--"To promise not to do a thing is the surest way in the world to make a body want to go and do that very thing." Mark Twain
--"If, when you honestly want to, you find you cannot quit entirely, or if when drinking (or lusting), you have little control over the amount you take, you are probably alcoholic (or sexaholic)." AA Big Book P. 45. Parenthesis added.
--You hit rock bottom when you decide to stop digging.

Re: Glad to be here 02 Feb 2016 23:03 #276382

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I found your block
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Hashem these lustful thoughts are not mine I don't need them or want them please take them from me so I can live a happy and healthy life

Gotta roll with the punches or the punches will roll all over you

yesterday was
tomorrow will be
the only thing you can change is the moment you see

keep smiling and keep busy

"lust is fire to dynamite don't get close" from someone don't remember who

The worst thing i did to myself was lie to myself for 2 whole years

I try not to hate it takes way to much energy

Re: Glad to be here 02 Feb 2016 23:15 #276385

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yidtryingharder wrote on 02 Feb 2016 23:03:
I found your block
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Re: Glad to be here 03 Feb 2016 01:44 #276397

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No it's just the way I see things crooked
Hashem these lustful thoughts are not mine I don't need them or want them please take them from me so I can live a happy and healthy life

Gotta roll with the punches or the punches will roll all over you

yesterday was
tomorrow will be
the only thing you can change is the moment you see

keep smiling and keep busy

"lust is fire to dynamite don't get close" from someone don't remember who

The worst thing i did to myself was lie to myself for 2 whole years

I try not to hate it takes way to much energy

Re: Glad to be here 08 May 2016 05:45 #287106

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For the hours and hours that you dedicated to helping others with your posts,

For the devotion that you displayed and taught others by example,

For the nine-o'clock calls, constant encouragement, and personal experiences that you shared,

We express our deepest appreciation and heartfelt gratitude.

We are all better people in part due to you.

Whether you decide to return to the forums as a regular or not,

If ever you chance upon this post, you will know that your presence here had a lasting affect.

And knowing that … may just make you smile.

Happy mother's day.

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Re: Glad to be here 08 May 2016 21:55 #287181

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peloni almoni wrote on 08 May 2016 05:45:

For the hours and hours that you dedicated to helping others with your posts,

For the devotion that you displayed and taught others by example,

For the nine-o'clock calls, constant encouragement, and personal experiences that you shared,

We express our deepest appreciation and heartfelt gratitude.

We are all better people in part due to you.

Whether you decide to return to the forums as a regular or not,

If ever you chance upon this post, you will know that your presence here had a lasting affect.

And knowing that … may just make you smile.

Happy mother's day.

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Serenity appreciated this greatly.
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Re: Glad to be here 10 Jun 2016 22:58 #290031

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Living by the principles of the 12 steps in all our affairs can be a challenge at times. I guess that's why I'm glad we have the 10th step. When I make mistakes it helps me to promptly admit them. Sometimes I make the mistake of not promptly admitting them
Much Hatzlacha!

My Threads:
Glad to be here
Don't slip it hurts
Lions & Tigers & Internet, Oh My!

--"ולא המדרש עיקר, אלא המעשה"
--"To promise not to do a thing is the surest way in the world to make a body want to go and do that very thing." Mark Twain
--"If, when you honestly want to, you find you cannot quit entirely, or if when drinking (or lusting), you have little control over the amount you take, you are probably alcoholic (or sexaholic)." AA Big Book P. 45. Parenthesis added.
--You hit rock bottom when you decide to stop digging.
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