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TOPIC: Big Steps 101256 Views

Re: Big Steps 08 Jun 2017 02:38 #314886

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Mazel tov Shlomo. You always have wise and intellectually stimulating posts. Honest, perceptive, and inspiring. May Hashem give you continued success in your development as a healthy ehrliche normal eved Hashem. May you especially have the ability to pass cleanly through the challenging times you write about.
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Re: Big Steps 16 Jun 2017 13:00 #315465

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For those who have been following my saga, it seems to be that things calmed down. Now we have to deal with life...
What works for me: 1) Honesty 2) Meetings 3) 12-step 4) Listening to my Sponsor 5) Not doing what I want to do 6) Inviting the God of my understanding into my life

"I can't do it, God can help." | "Everything I want is on the other side of fear." | "Where there is deprivation there is addiction." | "Yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery." | "Stop stopping, start living."

My thread: Big Steps

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Last Edit: 16 Jun 2017 13:01 by Shlomo24.

Re: Big Steps 13 Jul 2017 01:01 #317126

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It's great to see you trucking along with us despite your tight schedule

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Congrats on the well earned 100K!
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Re: Big Steps 13 Jul 2017 02:43 #317133

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Markz wrote on 13 Jul 2017 01:01:
It's great to see you trucking along with us despite your tight schedule

AND 
Congrats on the well earned 100K!

You can thank Gev for that. I'm not really a karmaniac. But it's kool.

On a side note. I got really excited when you said 100k. One day I'll get that, if God wants me to.
What works for me: 1) Honesty 2) Meetings 3) 12-step 4) Listening to my Sponsor 5) Not doing what I want to do 6) Inviting the God of my understanding into my life

"I can't do it, God can help." | "Everything I want is on the other side of fear." | "Where there is deprivation there is addiction." | "Yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery." | "Stop stopping, start living."

My thread: Big Steps

Email: iam24zman@gmail.com
Last Edit: 13 Jul 2017 02:45 by Shlomo24.

Re: Big Steps 13 Jul 2017 03:21 #317135

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Shlomo24 wrote on 13 Jul 2017 02:43:

Markz wrote on 13 Jul 2017 01:01:
It's great to see you trucking along with us despite your tight schedule

AND 
Congrats on the well earned 100K!

You can thank Gev for that. I'm not really a karmaniac. But it's kool.

On a side note. I got really excited when you said 100k. One day I'll get that, if God wants me to.

Your expectations are WAY too low
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Re: Big Steps 14 Jul 2017 10:43 #317185

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SHLOMO!

You are massively inspiring. Keep on living!!!
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Re: Big Steps 14 Jul 2017 12:39 #317196

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If anyone is going to the SA convention and wants to meet me, my number is in my signature.
What works for me: 1) Honesty 2) Meetings 3) 12-step 4) Listening to my Sponsor 5) Not doing what I want to do 6) Inviting the God of my understanding into my life

"I can't do it, God can help." | "Everything I want is on the other side of fear." | "Where there is deprivation there is addiction." | "Yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery." | "Stop stopping, start living."

My thread: Big Steps

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Re: Big Steps 17 Jul 2017 02:39 #317296

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Quick update: I don't really share my life on this forum anymore, but this I wanted to share. I went to an SA convention over the weekend and I learned a lot about myself. I have had a very dramatic year in my personal life and during the convention I realized that I might need extra help, beyond SA alone. I spoke with my Sponsor about it and he supported me and encouraged me to explore and try to get the help I need. I am now admitting that I, Shlomo, qualify for the S-Anon program and I am going to seek help in the anon fellowship area. The first step of S-Anon is that "We admitted we were powerless over sexaholism, that our lives had become unmanageable." I admit that 100%. I am powerless over it. Whether it be other sex addicts or myself. I have found recovery in my SA program, and thankfully I no longer suffer or struggle with lust. But my serenity and emotional sobriety has been a complete roller coaster. Not getting too much into it, but one of the parts of the S-Anon problem is "We consistently fell for people who could not or would not be able to love and support us the way we needed." I relate to that very strongly.
I feel like I am at Step 1 again (I literally wrote a Step 1 about this under the suggestion of my Sponsor) and I need a lot of help. But I am grateful that there is help out there for me. I hope that I find what I am looking for in the Anon groups.
What works for me: 1) Honesty 2) Meetings 3) 12-step 4) Listening to my Sponsor 5) Not doing what I want to do 6) Inviting the God of my understanding into my life

"I can't do it, God can help." | "Everything I want is on the other side of fear." | "Where there is deprivation there is addiction." | "Yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery." | "Stop stopping, start living."

My thread: Big Steps

Email: iam24zman@gmail.com

Re: Big Steps 18 Jul 2017 18:29 #317400

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I was given access to the married men's forum. Not sure how that happened. I had 700 new replies today. I'm assuming this was a mistake. I emailed Guard, but I wanted to publicize it if anyone can do something about it.
What works for me: 1) Honesty 2) Meetings 3) 12-step 4) Listening to my Sponsor 5) Not doing what I want to do 6) Inviting the God of my understanding into my life

"I can't do it, God can help." | "Everything I want is on the other side of fear." | "Where there is deprivation there is addiction." | "Yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery." | "Stop stopping, start living."

My thread: Big Steps

Email: iam24zman@gmail.com

Re: Big Steps 18 Jul 2017 18:41 #317401

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Shlomo24 wrote on 18 Jul 2017 18:29:
I was given access to the married men's forum. Not sure how that happened. I had 700 new replies today. I'm assuming this was a mistake. I emailed Guard, but I wanted to publicize it if anyone can do something about it.

Just get married and all your problems will be solved
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Re: Big Steps 18 Jul 2017 18:42 #317402

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Markz wrote on 18 Jul 2017 18:41:

Shlomo24 wrote on 18 Jul 2017 18:29:
I was given access to the married men's forum. Not sure how that happened. I had 700 new replies today. I'm assuming this was a mistake. I emailed Guard, but I wanted to publicize it if anyone can do something about it.

Just get married and all your problems will be solved

What works for me: 1) Honesty 2) Meetings 3) 12-step 4) Listening to my Sponsor 5) Not doing what I want to do 6) Inviting the God of my understanding into my life

"I can't do it, God can help." | "Everything I want is on the other side of fear." | "Where there is deprivation there is addiction." | "Yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery." | "Stop stopping, start living."

My thread: Big Steps

Email: iam24zman@gmail.com

Re: Big Steps 21 Jul 2017 06:52 #317650

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Apparently I'm still married... Anyone else having this issue? (Not that they are still married, Lol. But that they can access the married forum).
What works for me: 1) Honesty 2) Meetings 3) 12-step 4) Listening to my Sponsor 5) Not doing what I want to do 6) Inviting the God of my understanding into my life

"I can't do it, God can help." | "Everything I want is on the other side of fear." | "Where there is deprivation there is addiction." | "Yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery." | "Stop stopping, start living."

My thread: Big Steps

Email: iam24zman@gmail.com

Re: Big Steps 21 Jul 2017 08:25 #317652

Look out boys here come the newest Mod.       
my thread:guardyoureyes.com/forum/4-On-the-Way-to-90-Days/300426-I-will-make-it-bh" option="guardyoureyes.com/forum/4-On-the-Way-to-90-Days/300426-I-will-make-it-bh">I will make it b"h











very important thread: guardyoureyes.com/forum/20-Important-Threads/19180-FEEL-THE-HUGS%21%21%21" option="guardyoureyes.com/forum/20-Important-Threads/19180-FEEL-THE-HUGS%21%21%21">FEEL THE HUGS!!!
Last Edit: 21 Jul 2017 09:07 by MayanHamisgaber.

Re: Big Steps 21 Jul 2017 13:50 #317662

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MayanHamisgaber wrote on 21 Jul 2017 08:25:
Look out boys here come the newest Mod.       

I hope not... Ain't nobody got time for that.
What works for me: 1) Honesty 2) Meetings 3) 12-step 4) Listening to my Sponsor 5) Not doing what I want to do 6) Inviting the God of my understanding into my life

"I can't do it, God can help." | "Everything I want is on the other side of fear." | "Where there is deprivation there is addiction." | "Yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery." | "Stop stopping, start living."

My thread: Big Steps

Email: iam24zman@gmail.com

Re: Big Steps 01 Aug 2017 19:32 #318180

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sup Shlomo?
English is not my native language (Hebrew is)
Sorry if there are any mistakes.
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