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Re: So far so good, but I am trying to avoid a trigger 21 Jun 2016 22:08 #290492

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I didn't retreat down the twin holes of porn and masturbation-but I would have been so in the past.

Re: So far so good, but I am trying to avoid a trigger 21 Jun 2016 23:35 #290501

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heiligeryid wrote on 04 Jan 2016 14:51:
The same thing happened to me afew days ago, when i opened my email and it showed up messages from sites that i have visited in the past. I pressed delete forever, but the next day i saw it again, until i found the unsubscribe option that will hopefully stop it completely.

I am painfully reliving a 20-year-old (or so ) event, when I clicked on an image in an email from a non observant friend and was for the first time exposed to porn. 

The Web and email were not as sophisticated as they are now, and neither was the 4-second video I saw, but it was the start of my downfall. 
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Re: So far so good, but I am trying to avoid a trigger 11 Aug 2016 00:03 #293657

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I almost tripped today. I had a doctor's appointment together with my Ashes Chayil today and while she was in with the doctor I looked for something normal to read. Obviously, the glossy fashion magazines were a no-go. I opened one magazine which had an article and rapidly closed it when I realized that the topic and pictures were definitely a trigger in the past-especially with My Eshes Chayl being out of town for parts of the next two weeks vising her cousin and our aineklach, In the past, being home alone would have sent me down the two rabbit holes of porn and masturbation, I am determined to remain Tahor no matter what. 

Re: So far so good, but I am trying to avoid a trigger 22 Nov 2018 11:47 #337388

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The key is remembering that an iPhone is like a PC in your hand and that even sites that you like for their news and opinion pages have very inappropriate content that with one click you will be facing a trigger. I had one experience like that but I closed it very fast and the next time that I accessed that site I stayed away from that  page. It’s a daily battle out there but so far so good

Re: So far so good, but I am trying to avoid a trigger 11 Dec 2018 21:32 #337794

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I think that one of the biggest challenges that we all face is that when we check out the news on a seemingly appropriate site, we will be visually struck by a link that is clearly inappropriate and that you will linger on for a few minutes. It has happened to me but I have learned to click away from such sites. so far, that has enabled me to stay Tahor 

Re: So far so good, but I am trying to avoid a trigger 06 Jan 2019 11:36 #338229

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When you think you are on even a great website for news be careful.I was on such a site for news last night clicked the wrong page twice but clicked out very quickly 

Re: So far so good, but I am trying to avoid a trigger 23 Jan 2019 20:41 #338620

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When I say that the best websites re news and politics have questionable links,  that problem becomes more magnified on a phone as opposed to a PC. I find myself on the best news and politics websites clicking for a moment and out of links that are not shmutz but which could lead down the rabbit hole of shmutz. So far, I have been tahor. I have gotten up from seats on the subway when the content of a rider sitting next me is inappropriate. There is no easy answer other than recognizing that one has to work on the issue one day at a time. 

Re: So far so good, but I am trying to avoid a trigger 19 Mar 2019 21:49 #339826

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For me, every day is a realization that even so called safe sites especially on an I phone which is a miniature {PC  can have triggers that can lead you down the wrong path. If you use the phone to wake you up in the morning, don't keep it near your bed and don't look at your phone before you go to sleep.

Re: So far so good, but I am trying to avoid a trigger 31 May 2019 19:01 #341564

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See my prior comments re the so called best sites for news. Many sites that have the best news also have potential triggers that you can send you in the wrong direction. As summer is here in late May there is no doubt that the streets and mass transit in NY tend to look like a beach and the fulfillment of the slogan that "less is more." Every day and moment can cause you to trip or fall but if you look at even a questionable image, your best choice would be to click out and move on. Looking at each day as a different Avodah  rather than a milestone has helped me stay Tahor.
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