Read once, then minimize to save screen space.

Forum Overview

Post on the forum to get support, tell your story and reach out for help when feeling weak!

You will never be alone in this struggle again.

The GYE forum is anonymous platform of group support, and a life-line of chizuk for hundreds of people in exactly your situation. 

To use the forum you need to first become a member of the site, sign up here.

After signing up to the site, go to the forum, enter one of our boards and press "New Topic" to begin posting! 

Welcome, Guest

"Guard Your Lies"?
(0 viewing) 
Welcome to our forum! Introduce yourself here (anonymously, of course) and get a warm welcome from the rest of the community!

TOPIC: "Guard Your Lies"? 6939 Views

Re: Guard YourThread Titles!? 05 Aug 2013 22:43 #215084

  • Gevura Shebyesod
  • Current streak: 1 day
  • OFFLINE
  • Platinum Boarder
  • Posts: 3980
  • Karma: 457
Ties vs. Gartels vs. boots?
!אנא עבדא דקודשא בריך הוא

וּבְיָדְךָ כֹּחַ וּגְבוּרָה וּבְיָדְךָ לְגַדֵּל וּלְחַזֵּק לַכֹּל

And every day that you want to waste, that you want to waste, you can
And every day that you want to wake up, that you want to wake, you can
And every day that you want to change, that you want to change, yeah
I'll help you see it through...


"If it would be so easy there wouldn't be a GYE, but if it would be impossible there also wouldn't be a GYE."

"Sometimes a hard decision leads to an easier outcome."

- General Grant



My story: guardyoureyes.com/forum/19-Introduce-Yourself/111583-hello-my-friends

Re: Guard YourThread Titles!? 05 Aug 2013 22:45 #215085

  • Pidaini
  • OFFLINE
  • Platinum Boarder
  • פדני מעושק אדם-מיצר הרע העושק את הבריות-רש"י
  • Posts: 2189
  • Karma: 104
they're called "shtivvel"
Yankel | My Ladder | Talking to Hashem
I'm just a dude, another guy on this bus.
Have a great day, unless, of course, you made other plans. ~ obbormottel
"Nothing changes as long as everything stays the same" ~ Dov

Re: 06 Aug 2013 00:56 #215114

  • chesky
  • OFFLINE
  • Gold Boarder
  • Posts: 213
  • Karma: 14
Dov wrote:
It still doesn't show the title of the thread! Aye! Maybe a guy has to be a full member first, to get these things worked out right...

HI lizhensk, zmirosrebbedude, and gevurah! (and everyone else!)

Anyone still serious abt making a one-time call meeting ?- and what would it be for?

Count me in too please. But what is it about?

Re: 06 Aug 2013 01:07 #215117

  • Dov
  • OFFLINE
  • Administrator
  • Baby-steps; Easy does it.
  • Posts: 1919
  • Karma: 355
Woops...it was a thing mentioned on another thread altogether. Soemthing about religion and recovery or whatever...never mind. We are here on this thread to lie...or not to lie?...I can't remember which it was!
Admin put these lines here cuz he likes 'em:
"The heart needs to be broken when will-power is not enough"
"Get off the 18-Wheeler and onto a tricycle!"
"The heck with me, what can I do for you?"
"I do not particularly care exactly which "lav" suicide is. I'm not interested in it for other reasons!"

Re: "Guard Your Lies!?" 06 Aug 2013 01:18 #215123

  • Pidaini
  • OFFLINE
  • Platinum Boarder
  • פדני מעושק אדם-מיצר הרע העושק את הבריות-רש"י
  • Posts: 2189
  • Karma: 104
it was both, to lie that we don't lie.
Yankel | My Ladder | Talking to Hashem
I'm just a dude, another guy on this bus.
Have a great day, unless, of course, you made other plans. ~ obbormottel
"Nothing changes as long as everything stays the same" ~ Dov

Re: "Guard Your Lies!?" 06 Aug 2013 03:00 #215134

  • inastruggle
  • Current streak: 25 days
  • OFFLINE
  • Platinum Boarder
  • the picture is shimshon hagibor. not st. mary....
  • Posts: 1263
  • Karma: 34
and can i join?


make it before the zman starts or you'll be chayiv for bittul torah. (no i'm not going to miss it for seder, it's a gezeirah shain rov yisroel yecholin laamod bo)

Re: 06 Aug 2013 07:52 #215148

  • Dov
  • OFFLINE
  • Administrator
  • Baby-steps; Easy does it.
  • Posts: 1919
  • Karma: 355
A carrot that most Jews can't stand on? What?
Admin put these lines here cuz he likes 'em:
"The heart needs to be broken when will-power is not enough"
"Get off the 18-Wheeler and onto a tricycle!"
"The heck with me, what can I do for you?"
"I do not particularly care exactly which "lav" suicide is. I'm not interested in it for other reasons!"

Re: 18 Dec 2015 13:32 #271741

  • cordnoy
  • OFFLINE
  • Moderator
  • I'm sailin', for I've got to be free
  • Posts: 11408
  • Karma: 562
Dov wrote:
Hi. I never started a thread before...did I? Anyhow, this is from my latest adventures with scared, hurting, newbies. Guys I can relate to so deeply, who are actually ready to call on the phone and talk with a person and use their real first names, for a change.

Hey, nothing changes as long as everything stays the same, right? What's comfy is certainly not the best guide for us. In fact, for me, whatever is the opposite of 'emotionally comfy' is a far better guide! Funny how that works.

Spoke with five new frummies in the past three days. Broken guys. Good men. Each broken enough to actually pick up a phone and use their real first name and real voice - a real chidush for them! - to get better. Pouring out their hearts - and I get the privilege to pour out mine with them. Guys who are frum, and yet steal away hours and a lifetime to look at our sweet porn and have sex with themselves (masturbate) as all of us here do, when we live in our problem.

Daven for them and us, please.

"How to get out?," they ask. Well, actually, few ask that. Most are pretty sure they know exactly how to 'quit'...they are convinced that their only real problem is staying out of it forever.

So most of us talk religion, talk self-control, talk gimmicks or escaping with a 'filter'. Escape from ourselves? We say we are Guarding Our Eyes...but are we really just Guarding Our Lies?

Anybody else want to elaborate on some of the safety lies we tell to ourselves, to our spouses and to the good and frum people around us? A newbie on GYE just posted the revelation that the reason his wife was about to leave him and dissolve their family was not because of 'kedusha' issues - but because he lies to her. Finally, someone who sees it like it is...

I like staying sober today, so here goes:

One whopper I tell myself is that my wife must see me being good, to love me. So I am motivated to fake and hide whatever questionable thing I may be doing right now from her. It risks me getting 'bad press' w/her!

That's a lie. We have learned that when I do right by me, my wife sees that, my kids see that, everyone relevant sees that. And things fall into place.

So I commit to doing the next right thing...and that is gettting dressed now and going to shacharis.

Adios amigos!


A rare treat....a thread started by Dov!
My email: thenewme613@hotmail.com
My threads:
GYE Handbook | Gibbor's Insights | GYE FAQ - Thanks Skep and DMS123456789 White Book | Big Book (Alcoholics Anonymous)

If one gives up at the first sign of a struggle, he is really not ready to be successful."
"Tryin' and doin' are two different thin's - tryin' is hopin'; doin' is succeedin'.
"The right thin' to do and the hard thin' to do are usually the same."


Disclaimer: I am not a cheerleader; B"H, there are many on the site. I am here to change myself, and with God's help, by some mistake, I might even help change others.

MY POSTS ARE NOT WRITTEN AS A MODERATOR UNLESS EXPLICITLY STATED.

Re: 20 Dec 2015 10:25 #271853

  • Watson
  • OFFLINE
  • Platinum Boarder
  • Posts: 1280
  • Karma: 85
Yep.

And you can join Dov in recovery right here:

guardyoureyes.com/component/zoo/item/dov-s
Time to create page: 0.43 seconds

Are you sure?

Yes