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Re: Dms1234's story 06 Jan 2015 04:13 #246629

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Figured I would give an update on my latest honesty revelation. Last week when i told my mentor i needed to commit to being honest, he said you have to make a grounded commitment. How will that manifest itself. SO i said whenever I watch a movie or tv i would message him or another gye friend and they would have to approve me. So BH it has worked like a charm. Even when i message them before I watch sports, i get all self conscious and second guess myself. I am proud to say I have not watched a movie since! Honesty really works!
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Re: Dms1234's story 06 Jan 2015 08:31 #246638

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Sports - 20 and younger
Movies - definitely older.
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If one gives up at the first sign of a struggle, he is really not ready to be successful."
"Tryin' and doin' are two different thin's - tryin' is hopin'; doin' is succeedin'.
"The right thin' to do and the hard thin' to do are usually the same."


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Re: Dms1234's story 06 Jan 2015 08:51 #246642

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Sports-Only men
Movies-None.
I am happy to speak on the phone. Please email me at dms1234ongye@gmail.com

My name is Daniel, I go to face to face meetings and I work the 12 steps with a sponsor. 

Re: Dms1234's story 06 Jan 2015 09:32 #246650

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dms1234 wrote:
Sports-Only men


Great!

:pinch: Warning: Spoiler!
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If one gives up at the first sign of a struggle, he is really not ready to be successful."
"Tryin' and doin' are two different thin's - tryin' is hopin'; doin' is succeedin'.
"The right thin' to do and the hard thin' to do are usually the same."


Disclaimer: I am not a cheerleader; B"H, there are many on the site. I am here to change myself, and with God's help, by some mistake, I might even help change others.

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Re: Dms1234's story 06 Jan 2015 09:32 #246651

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dms1234 wrote:
Movies-None.


Even greater!
My email: thenewme613@hotmail.com
My threads:
GYE Handbook | Gibbor's Insights | GYE FAQ - Thanks Skep and DMS123456789 White Book | Big Book (Alcoholics Anonymous)

If one gives up at the first sign of a struggle, he is really not ready to be successful."
"Tryin' and doin' are two different thin's - tryin' is hopin'; doin' is succeedin'.
"The right thin' to do and the hard thin' to do are usually the same."


Disclaimer: I am not a cheerleader; B"H, there are many on the site. I am here to change myself, and with God's help, by some mistake, I might even help change others.

MY POSTS ARE NOT WRITTEN AS A MODERATOR UNLESS EXPLICITLY STATED.

Re: Dms1234's story 06 Jan 2015 22:01 #246699

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Yes, women play sports although it may be more of a turn off for us. However, there are some leagues which we would find attractive
I am happy to speak on the phone. Please email me at dms1234ongye@gmail.com

My name is Daniel, I go to face to face meetings and I work the 12 steps with a sponsor. 
Last Edit: 06 Jan 2015 22:02 by dms1234.

Re: Dms1234's story 07 Jan 2015 01:43 #246720

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Namely, any league in which we can identify that it is indeed women that are playing.
By that logic, is hockey okay?
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Re: Dms1234's story 07 Jan 2015 02:27 #246728

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Bigmoish wrote:
Namely, any league in which we can identify that it is indeed women that are playing.
By that logic, is hockey okay?


sumo wrestlin'?
My email: thenewme613@hotmail.com
My threads:
GYE Handbook | Gibbor's Insights | GYE FAQ - Thanks Skep and DMS123456789 White Book | Big Book (Alcoholics Anonymous)

If one gives up at the first sign of a struggle, he is really not ready to be successful."
"Tryin' and doin' are two different thin's - tryin' is hopin'; doin' is succeedin'.
"The right thin' to do and the hard thin' to do are usually the same."


Disclaimer: I am not a cheerleader; B"H, there are many on the site. I am here to change myself, and with God's help, by some mistake, I might even help change others.

MY POSTS ARE NOT WRITTEN AS A MODERATOR UNLESS EXPLICITLY STATED.

Re: Dms1234's story 07 Jan 2015 21:57 #246779

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Bigmoish
Namely, any league in which we can identify that it is indeed women that are playing.
By that logic, is hockey okay?
Then thats all sports, unless dance is considered a sport. I think in dance you can tell.
I am happy to speak on the phone. Please email me at dms1234ongye@gmail.com

My name is Daniel, I go to face to face meetings and I work the 12 steps with a sponsor. 
Last Edit: 07 Jan 2015 22:00 by dms1234.

Re: Dms1234's story 07 Jan 2015 23:19 #246786

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What about gefilte-fish eating contests?
Sometimes life is like tuna with not enough mayonaise
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Re: Dms1234's story 07 Jan 2015 23:48 #246788

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What about gefilte-fish eating contests?
That's mutar but cholent eating contests are assur.
I am happy to speak on the phone. Please email me at dms1234ongye@gmail.com

My name is Daniel, I go to face to face meetings and I work the 12 steps with a sponsor. 

Re: Dms1234's story 08 Jan 2015 01:35 #246795

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and them jelly beans consuming contest?
when going forward gets tough, its merely a sign that you are going uphill, just give more gas
put your sobriety first; before your wife, before your kids, before your avodas HaTorah (except for the 3 that are יעבור ואל יהרג) Without sobriety you won't have any of those things!

Re: Dms1234's story 08 Jan 2015 05:30 #246810

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No contest, I'd win hands down! Unless my sister is competing too

Re: Dms1234's story 11 Jan 2015 08:40 #246928

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Dear GYE:

I am going to Israel to learn in Yeshiva very soon. For those of you who have read my thread or know me, you realize that this is a big step for me as I am a Baal Teshuva and I have never been immersed in full time learning.

It is very hard to say goodbye. I will have some internet connection but i won't be on as much as I have been. I have been active on GYE for about a year and half and very active for close to year now. This place is incredible and the people on here are even more incredible. I have met guys that are my best friends and will be my best friends for life. So thank you for that. I started off with the chizzuk emails and then posted on the forum, went to chatting online and then soon i was calling fellow GYE members. I even met up with some GYE'rs in person!

My road has been bumpy which is absolutely expected, as life is bumpy. But my life is incredible. I have seen such beauty in my life. I have grown immensely with the help of GYE and CO. I have learned that I don’t need lust, that i should reach out to others, that i should take a deep breath and relax, that Hashem loves me, that i am too hard on myself, that i want to be too perfect, that I am capable of great things, that i am not alone and lastly and most importantly: I have learned how to life live not just try to "not fall.” My life in the past year was incredible. Absolutely Incredible BH. I have seen so many blessings!

So i am off to Israel for a year! I love all of you. I know that you are capable of recovery and living an incredible life. You can always email me at dms1234ongye@gmail.com. I will be getting an Israeli number and because its free incoming you can call me whenever i am not learning!

You shouldn’t worry about me. I am in good hands. I hope to have weekly meetings with fellow GYE members and connect with the many GYE’rs in EY-the ones i know and the ones i don’t. I will bounce in and out of GYE but i probably won’t be hanging around here too much.

Thank you for everything. If you are ever in Israel (or if you are in Israel) I would love to meet up!

Dms1234
I am happy to speak on the phone. Please email me at dms1234ongye@gmail.com

My name is Daniel, I go to face to face meetings and I work the 12 steps with a sponsor. 

Re: Dms1234's story 11 Jan 2015 09:07 #246931

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Wow, it's awesome that you will be going to eretz yisroel to learn! I wish you much hatzlacha in learning and in general!
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