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Tshuvah 01 Jul 2019 20:07 #342040

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My therapist told me that because i was a real addictive i actually never sinned and therefor i don't need to do Tshuvah 
​Does anyone have any knowledge about this ?

Re: Tshuvah 01 Jul 2019 20:42 #342041

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Firstly,

Therapist should do Therapy and Rabbis should share the word of Gd.
Maybe your therapist is humble, but I know of one ‘helping’ someone in my family that has their own work to do...

Secondly, if we are working a recovery program, the idea mentioned is correct. look at the next (newer) post on the “recent posts” page.
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Re: Tshuvah 22 Aug 2019 19:49 #343047

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Markz wrote on 01 Jul 2019 20:42:
Firstly,

Therapist should do Therapy and Rabbis should share the word of Gd.
Maybe your therapist is humble, but I know of one ‘helping’ someone in my family that has their own work to do...

Secondly, if we are working a recovery program, the idea mentioned is correct. look at the next (newer) post on the “recent posts” page.

1)What is the essence of teshuva ? 2) in working a recovery program where is that expressed? 
Email aronieberger@gmail.com to find out how an ex sa member found serenity through Torah Study.

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Re: Tshuvah 23 Aug 2019 01:24 #343053

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This is a tough question to answer. But my guess is that while you are fighting this, it's better not to focus on the past, irrespective of whether it was your fault or wasn't. Guilt can keep you stuck in a bad cycle. Rather, focus on your plan to take control.

And once you have achieved significant success, why not engage in the steps of tshuva, so you know for sure that you have been wiped completely clean? No doubt this will be a complex subject with many opinions, and it's easiest to just do tshuva and let it go, knowing Hashem has.
1) Admit to Hashem what you did.
2) Feel bad about it, to the extent that you wish you had acted differently. (In your position, this should be limited to a small amount of that you determine beforehand.)
3) Resolve to act differently in the future.
If you want an extra bonus for your tshuva, resolve to help others struggling with this challenge (for example, through GYE Forums).

And that's it. You can go forward knowing that Hashem has forgiven you. (Please see Rambam Hilchos Tshuva 7:4, which discusses at length how a person who has done tshuva should realize that Hashem has forgiven him and it's like he never sinned, and actually he's considered even greater than had he never sinned!)

Keep up the great work!
In the place where ba’alei teshuva stand, even pure tzaddikim who never sinned cannot stand. (Rabbi Avohu, Brachos 34b)

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Re: Tshuvah 27 Aug 2019 20:22 #343160

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Thank you very much. 

Really appreciate 

Any idea how i can help other people on gye 

Re: Tshuvah 27 Aug 2019 21:53 #343161

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Here are some ideas I thought of: Try responding to people's forums. Open a new forum in Testimonials and share ideas and tactics that worked for you. And click on the Special Resources tab and click Help Someone Anonymously.
In the place where ba’alei teshuva stand, even pure tzaddikim who never sinned cannot stand. (Rabbi Avohu, Brachos 34b)

Best way to break free: https://guardyoureyes.com/ebooks/item/the-battle-of-the-generation. Try it and see!
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