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Struggling to actually read the handbook.
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Struggling to actually read the handbook. 04 Sep 2014 04:28 #238748

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Hi all,

I fell today. I fought off the urge twice and put my state of mind in check, but it came back and slowly I gave in. The worst part is I knew that I was doing it, and that I it wasn't worth it. I have to get back on my feet. It's elul, I want to be closer to Hashem again. I want to try something different and go through the handbook fully. I find though that I have a hard time actually sitting and reading it with kavanah. Anyone have any suggestions with what helped them get through it, what made them sit and read it truthfully.
Day by day. Show Hashem that you mean it and He will help with the rest.

Re: Struggling to actually read the handbook. 04 Sep 2014 06:03 #238762

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Yes. Don't worry about Kavannah! Take a deep breath (in and out!), start reading and let it all settle in!
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Re: Struggling to actually read the handbook. 04 Sep 2014 06:36 #238766

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Our motto is: One page at a time.

:pinch: Warning: Spoiler!
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GYE Handbook | Gibbor's Insights | GYE FAQ - Thanks Skep and DMS123456789 White Book | Big Book (Alcoholics Anonymous)

If one gives up at the first sign of a struggle, he is really not ready to be successful."
"Tryin' and doin' are two different thin's - tryin' is hopin'; doin' is succeedin'.
"The right thin' to do and the hard thin' to do are usually the same."


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Re: Struggling to actually read the handbook. 16 Sep 2014 11:29 #239672

I have the same problem. What i did was i went on a reading binge when i was alone. I didn't finish the book, but i made some really good headway. If i may suggest, set a timer for 10-20 minutes minimum and commit to covering ground in the manuel.

Re: Struggling to actually read the handbook. 16 Sep 2014 14:45 #239676

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i too never read through the handbook. i know reading the forums is much more exciting. but i guess we should do as the guys mentioned one page at a time or 10-20 minutes a day (also of course one day at a time).

Re: Struggling to actually read the handbook. 16 Sep 2014 19:23 #239696

I did the following and it was a great experience: I had a daily havruta (TZ) over the phone (trans-Atlantic). We would read a page a day and discuss it. Try it - you might like it.

Hatzlacha

MT

Re: Struggling to actually read the handbook. 16 Sep 2014 19:43 #239705

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I did that with him for a while as well; it didn't last long for technical reasons.

He is a good chavrusah.
He knows the book, the tools, the tips, the steps and a hell of a lot more than that as well.
My email: thenewme613@hotmail.com
My threads:
GYE Handbook | Gibbor's Insights | GYE FAQ - Thanks Skep and DMS123456789 White Book | Big Book (Alcoholics Anonymous)

If one gives up at the first sign of a struggle, he is really not ready to be successful."
"Tryin' and doin' are two different thin's - tryin' is hopin'; doin' is succeedin'.
"The right thin' to do and the hard thin' to do are usually the same."


Disclaimer: I am not a cheerleader; B"H, there are many on the site. I am here to change myself, and with God's help, by some mistake, I might even help change others.

MY POSTS ARE NOT WRITTEN AS A MODERATOR UNLESS EXPLICITLY STATED.
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