Guard Your Eyes - Forum Kunena Site Syndication https://guardyoureyes.com Fri, 24 May 2019 18:49:14 +0000 Kunena 1.6 https://guardyoureyes.com/components/com_kunena/template/default/images/icons/rss.png Guard Your Eyes - Forum https://guardyoureyes.com/ en-gb Subject: Stuck in rut - by: Sidewayz https://guardyoureyes.com/forum/1-Break-Free/341393-Stuck-in-rut#341393 https://guardyoureyes.com/forum/1-Break-Free/341393-Stuck-in-rut#341393 So if anyone has advice to get out of this rut please advise!!!   ]]> Break Free Thu, 23 May 2019 17:10:57 +0000 https://guardyoureyes.com/forum/1-Break-Free/341393-Stuck-in-rut#341393 Subject: Searching for tips and methods to deal with stress - by: David26fr https://guardyoureyes.com/forum/1-Break-Free/341358-Searching-for-tips-and-methods-to-deal-with-stress#341358 https://guardyoureyes.com/forum/1-Break-Free/341358-Searching-for-tips-and-methods-to-deal-with-stress#341358 Especially because I have a very difficult relationship with my mother, and when she speaks to me with hurtful words that break me, it becomes the highway to hell...
(She lives alone and I am his only son. My father is dead since many years. It could take many and many pages to write this story, perhaps I will do it here one day...)

It's better than when I was younger, but it can be difficult sometimes to deal with these emotions. Sometimes, they invade me.

I also try to stop be worried about the events of the life, and taking things one by one. This helps but only at a certain limit...

Do you have some tools or tips to help ?
I am starting to read Rav Fanger's book about FHT method, do you heard about it ?

Thank you]]>
Break Free Wed, 22 May 2019 07:38:13 +0000 https://guardyoureyes.com/forum/1-Break-Free/341358-Searching-for-tips-and-methods-to-deal-with-stress#341358
Subject: Lonely and restless - by: farblunjet https://guardyoureyes.com/forum/1-Break-Free/341206-Lonely-and-restless#341206 https://guardyoureyes.com/forum/1-Break-Free/341206-Lonely-and-restless#341206
What do i do?

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Break Free Thu, 16 May 2019 04:31:08 +0000 https://guardyoureyes.com/forum/1-Break-Free/341206-Lonely-and-restless#341206
Subject: Some awesome shiurim to help with the struggle - by: kavod https://guardyoureyes.com/forum/1-Break-Free/341146-Some-awesome-shiurim-to-help-with-the-struggle#341146 https://guardyoureyes.com/forum/1-Break-Free/341146-Some-awesome-shiurim-to-help-with-the-struggle#341146
This website has some few shiurim and content (I would skip the music videos just in case) that can help with this the straggle.

https://www.fixyosoul.com

I recommend it.
It helps me, so I hope it helps you.]]>
Break Free Tue, 14 May 2019 20:58:03 +0000 https://guardyoureyes.com/forum/1-Break-Free/341146-Some-awesome-shiurim-to-help-with-the-struggle#341146
Subject: How to deal with sudden awakening in the night - by: David26fr https://guardyoureyes.com/forum/1-Break-Free/341144-How-to-deal-with-sudden-awakening-in-the-night#341144 https://guardyoureyes.com/forum/1-Break-Free/341144-How-to-deal-with-sudden-awakening-in-the-night#341144
I am searching for some advices on how to deal with some sudden awakenings in the night...

To describe my problem : it happens, in general after a stressing day, that I awake in the middle of the night with an immediate and great desire, and I begin to strip off my trousers, and... 
Often, after some minutes, I recover my mind and I say to me "Hey what I am doing ? I have to stop". And I manage to stop. But it could be also very difficult to stop sometimes.

It happens only when my wife is niddah and our beds are separated. I think that in my mind, when we are sleeping in the same bed side by side, I am too afraid to be caught by her. Yes, she has an heavy sleep

Also, when I am awakening in the morning, this desire of the night can be still there. Weakened, but there.
I can also say that, when it arrives, I have a fall some days later. I verified it.

What can I do to prevent this ? (Working on stress in first, for sure)
How can I deal with this when it arrives ?
How I have to consider it ?

Thank you]]>
Break Free Tue, 14 May 2019 17:22:17 +0000 https://guardyoureyes.com/forum/1-Break-Free/341144-How-to-deal-with-sudden-awakening-in-the-night#341144
Subject: The point behind it all - by: Eshaiproductions https://guardyoureyes.com/forum/1-Break-Free/341095-The-point-behind-it-all#341095 https://guardyoureyes.com/forum/1-Break-Free/341095-The-point-behind-it-all#341095
its me me again after a long time from making a post on the forum, but I am in need of help more specifically motivation. I’ve been using a technique where I imagine the scenario playing out if I were to waste my seed , the reason behind why I would do it and how I would feel after, and then I would rethink if it’s worth going through all that only to end up with a severe spiritual hang over that only leaves me in disappointment and it’s been working for about a week since I tried doing it. What let me down was that I lacked motivation in a sense that I didn’t know where I was at (on this climb to the top of the mountain so to speak). Is there some sort of guide to know how many days it takes to reach certain levels of freedom or spiritual levels with G-d? Knowing that is so important for me not because I want to have some sort of reward for what I’m doing but so that I know what actually happens if I decide today to “take the next step” forward on to a new level.

ill really appreciate anyone’s advice or input! 

thank you!]]>
Break Free Mon, 13 May 2019 12:13:06 +0000 https://guardyoureyes.com/forum/1-Break-Free/341095-The-point-behind-it-all#341095
Subject: Recovery without sa - by: Sidewayz https://guardyoureyes.com/forum/1-Break-Free/341008-Recovery-without-sa#341008 https://guardyoureyes.com/forum/1-Break-Free/341008-Recovery-without-sa#341008 I’m not saying anything’s wrong with sa i just wanna see all the options. Thanks]]> Break Free Wed, 08 May 2019 19:04:16 +0000 https://guardyoureyes.com/forum/1-Break-Free/341008-Recovery-without-sa#341008 Subject: Meditation - by: Sidewayz https://guardyoureyes.com/forum/1-Break-Free/340981-Meditation#340981 https://guardyoureyes.com/forum/1-Break-Free/340981-Meditation#340981 Break Free Tue, 07 May 2019 18:38:27 +0000 https://guardyoureyes.com/forum/1-Break-Free/340981-Meditation#340981 Subject: Bein Hazmanim - by: TheSicarioWarrior https://guardyoureyes.com/forum/1-Break-Free/340779-Bein-Hazmanim#340779 https://guardyoureyes.com/forum/1-Break-Free/340779-Bein-Hazmanim#340779 Break Free Tue, 30 Apr 2019 03:13:34 +0000 https://guardyoureyes.com/forum/1-Break-Free/340779-Bein-Hazmanim#340779 Subject: How to deal with constant Tayvah/Hirhurim? - by: AStrugglingJew https://guardyoureyes.com/forum/1-Break-Free/340775-How-to-deal-with-constant-TayvahHirhurim#340775 https://guardyoureyes.com/forum/1-Break-Free/340775-How-to-deal-with-constant-TayvahHirhurim#340775 Baruch Hashem even though I have fallen in the somewhat recent past, I have been doing very well recently and have had nice long streaks of being clean. The Taphsic method has worked very well for me (after a few tries of finding the correct shavuah). I had an over 30 days streak, my longest in a while (I actualy went most of last year clean, but then stupidly fell back down the hole), however I sadly fell 14 days ago, but I have gotten back up with a new shavuah and have been clean since. Bh, I feel that as long as I make sure I am always under the shavuah I figured out for myself with the Taphsic method that I will never let my self fall (I fell 14 days ago because it was the day my shavuah finished and I didn't renew it, and my phone broke, so I got a replacement phone with no filter, and I am sure you can figure out the rest...).
So hopefully, bezras hashem, I am on the right path.

However, there is one thing that I want to know if anyone has any advice to help deal with. 
The Tayva and Hirhurim. I feel like even after going a month without any serious shmiras anayim issues I still have so much tayvah and constatnt hirhurim. It will probably be a while before I get married, and as a single guy I just always have urges that I have to suppress and it is extremely difficult. Recently,  It has been very constant for me, more than I can ever remember.  It used to be that I would get hirhurim or urges and they would go away, but now I feel like I have serious urges for many hours a day for many days a week. 

Anyone have any advice?

Thank you!]]>
Break Free Tue, 30 Apr 2019 02:05:48 +0000 https://guardyoureyes.com/forum/1-Break-Free/340775-How-to-deal-with-constant-TayvahHirhurim#340775
Subject: Staying in touch - by: Sidewayz https://guardyoureyes.com/forum/1-Break-Free/340774-Staying-in-touch#340774 https://guardyoureyes.com/forum/1-Break-Free/340774-Staying-in-touch#340774 thanks]]> Break Free Tue, 30 Apr 2019 01:42:56 +0000 https://guardyoureyes.com/forum/1-Break-Free/340774-Staying-in-touch#340774