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Rosh Hashana despair - hopeless
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Re: Rosh Hashana despair - hopeless 02 Oct 2008 17:24 #452

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MW, Congrats on having begun the journey! A great Rosh Hashana is worth all the gold in the world.

Yes, curiosity is what killed the cat. It is one of the addictions biggest tools. If you can beat curiosity, half the job is done.

Practice when walking in the street, a woman passes by, you get curious who it might be... but it's the addiction talking, the YH, he wants you to look, so he makes you curious. You ask yourself "maybe I know her" or some other "innocent sounding question". Don't be fooled for it. Practice working on curiosity and it will do you a lot of good in your struggle.

P.S. In response to UTS. The shots are known to work ONLY for the time the patient is on them. As soon as he is off the shots, all the garbage comes back. It's like closing the door on a room full of garbage. It's all still there, only the door is closed. Working on yourself however, is actually cleaning the garbage. And that is what we came to the world for! (We only suggest the shots to people who may get into serious trouble, like sex offenders).
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Re: Rosh Hashana despair - hopeless 02 Oct 2008 22:37 #456

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Curiousity problem?

Huge problem for me! I too have site that are constantly updated which i used to frequent.  When I thought about what's causing this curiosity, i realized that I wasn't getting this rush and excitement (that I would get from these updates) from any other parts of my life at that time. I might suggest doing something Kosher that you find just as interesting and exciting.
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Re: Rosh Hashana despair - hopeless 05 Oct 2008 12:58 #470

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Dear MW and everyone,

First of all I need to tell you that you made my Rosh Hashana. This thread gave me the hope and opened my heart to be able to daven with kavana and to cry to Hashem.
The first night I was sitting by the seuda and I started singing "Haben yakir lee efraim". I began to think about MW. The meanest-of-
mean, sadistic, wicked menuval has been battering this holy precious yid for years, without the slightest hint of a shadow of mercy. MW, for his part, tried again and again to break free, with seemingly no success. And after all that, he hasn't given up. He comes to the forum to ask for help, and look what response he gets from more holy precious yidden. I thought to myself "Well of course Hashem loves us so much". And I started crying in front of my wife and kids, who had no idea at all what I was thinking.
Then I sang "Hayom haras olam" and I started crying again. In my heart I was saying to Hashem "The way Your precious children don't give up, they most definitely deserve to be treated as children -Rachamainu kerachem av al banim"

Curiosity is a killer (not just for cats). But you should realize that just like the vicious, malicious menuval uses curiosity against you, you're entitled to use keeping busy against him. Perhaps you should set yourself a goal of learning a certain amount by Simchas Torah. And how about finishing Tehilim-with tears! And this forum is also a terrific way to keep busy. But, for me, the long term solution to curiosity is to use the trait for what it was created for. Moshe Rabainu was zoche to his special connection with Hashem, because-as the pasuk says- "Vayaar Hashem ki sar liros". If you search for Hashem you won't need to search for filth.


I read the story about the steipler in a sefer called "Holchay Nesivos" (chailek sheini page 39)
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