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Re: “Shtark” insight that may make you “emotional”:-) 29 Apr 2022 04:41 #380196

Small tip :

often we act out because of other draining feelings. If we feel sad and depressed - we feel weaker to fight the fight! We can hear the voice “Let’s just give in. Who cares anyway?” Similarly if we feel anxious or stressed all we wanna do is feel more relaxed..a great way to help this is to validate the stress and the anxiety and realize that it’s what’s causing you to wanna masturbate or sexualize etc. once that’s validated we feel better and get more focused. That’s why it’s important to understand what’s driving us and often things get a lot easier when we validate it to ourselves. Something like “I’m stressed from a long day it’s so hard and draining all I want to do is just masturbate but I know i can feel good too through other ways and in the long run it’s a much better choice” or “I’m really anxious about a few things. I’m reminding myself that it’s normal everyone feels anxious at times I know it’s hard and all I want is to relieve myself with my sexual replacement but I’m reminding myself there’s other replacements that’ll make me feel just as good.”

“Distancing and removing triggers is only bringing the door closer..Changing the insides and our nature is the key to get in.” 

“Human connection can help every sort of struggle” 

If anyone would like to reach me I’d love to help out! 
anonymouslyhappy111@gmail.com

Break free the easy way using the self-talk method!
https://guardyoureyes.com/forum/4-On-the-Way-to-90-Days/378128-Captain--Shtarkemotionals-Secret90Day-Challenge

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Re: “Shtark” insight that may make you “emotional”:-) 26 Jun 2022 17:48 #382470

It’s been a while, I had this thought that I think can be helpful I may have written about it already yet even if I did it’s worth saying it again.

After looking around a lot on GYE, I see so many many are working so hard in their avodas hashem journey especially in the area of lust etc. and often after a bump they are left  so broken, feeling like “Why can’t I make it? Why can’t I just never do these actions again? Why does it always go for some time and then boom?” Eventually, after some time of these hard feelings they make a commitment “I’m gonna restart my count and try again”. Yet again and again after some time they go back to the old patterns and the cycle restarts itself. In which I assume is wishful thinking, it’s such a painful process! One tip I’d like to suggest is to reflect a bit. So many of us just move on and on and on.. we hope and pray and of course put in hard work and really try, Yet we don’t find ourselves looking back much. I’d recommend perhaps thinking - what do I want to remember in a time where the thought of something assur pops in my head? Where the thought to fall is on its way?

What thought would have been helpful to remember before my previous fall? What would have held me back? Thinking about this from time to time can really be helpful! It can give us a lot of insight in this journey. Thank you all for reading and giving me the opportunity to write about this and ingrain it in myself.

“Distancing and removing triggers is only bringing the door closer..Changing the insides and our nature is the key to get in.” 

“Human connection can help every sort of struggle” 

If anyone would like to reach me I’d love to help out! 
anonymouslyhappy111@gmail.com

Break free the easy way using the self-talk method!
https://guardyoureyes.com/forum/4-On-the-Way-to-90-Days/378128-Captain--Shtarkemotionals-Secret90Day-Challenge

Check out this thread with packed Insight for every person at every stage! 
https://guardyoureyes.com/forum/1-Break-Free/376994-%E2%80%9CShtark%E2%80%9D-insight-that-may-make-you-%E2%80%9Cemotional%E2%80%9D-%29

Re: “Shtark” insight that may make you “emotional”:-) 27 Jun 2022 04:22 #382490

Anyone who wants to join Vehkam and I are up to chapter 9 in the battle of the generation! I highly highly highly recommend it. It really covers all angles of the struggle! 
“Distancing and removing triggers is only bringing the door closer..Changing the insides and our nature is the key to get in.” 

“Human connection can help every sort of struggle” 

If anyone would like to reach me I’d love to help out! 
anonymouslyhappy111@gmail.com

Break free the easy way using the self-talk method!
https://guardyoureyes.com/forum/4-On-the-Way-to-90-Days/378128-Captain--Shtarkemotionals-Secret90Day-Challenge

Check out this thread with packed Insight for every person at every stage! 
https://guardyoureyes.com/forum/1-Break-Free/376994-%E2%80%9CShtark%E2%80%9D-insight-that-may-make-you-%E2%80%9Cemotional%E2%80%9D-%29

Re: “Shtark” insight that may make you “emotional”:-) 26 Jul 2022 06:33 #383903

Being that I’m almost done the most amazing book - the battle of the generation. I want to write a few key points that I learned.. (special shout-out to Vehkam for helping me so much with this book along the way!) I’ll start today with one small point - 
  1. The most important fundamental step is have to have a Ratzon to stop these behaviors as much as possible.

  • The more we think how much hashem loves us the more we’ll want to reciprocate and keep his Torah.
  • We have an inner desire to connect to hashem. The more we’re aware of that we’ll channel the desire to the right place.
  • We must think deeper. Do we wanna accomplish in life and reach greatness? Do we wanna go up to shamayim with self-control in our hands?? or a bunch of self soothing acts that lasted 2 minutes and made us feel horrible after? What do I want to see myself doing?
“Distancing and removing triggers is only bringing the door closer..Changing the insides and our nature is the key to get in.” 

“Human connection can help every sort of struggle” 

If anyone would like to reach me I’d love to help out! 
anonymouslyhappy111@gmail.com

Break free the easy way using the self-talk method!
https://guardyoureyes.com/forum/4-On-the-Way-to-90-Days/378128-Captain--Shtarkemotionals-Secret90Day-Challenge

Check out this thread with packed Insight for every person at every stage! 
https://guardyoureyes.com/forum/1-Break-Free/376994-%E2%80%9CShtark%E2%80%9D-insight-that-may-make-you-%E2%80%9Cemotional%E2%80%9D-%29
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