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Re: Challenge Accepted!!! 13 Jun 2021 16:23 #369804

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Paid 25 more $
So I still owe $79. I just like to post on here to make sure I don't end up not paying.

Re: Challenge Accepted!!! 13 Jun 2021 18:07 #369809

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Lou wrote on 13 Jun 2021 16:23:
Paid 25 more $
So I still owe $79. I just like to post on here to make sure I don't end up not paying.

Actually just paid 25 more. 
Down to $54 left

Re: Challenge Accepted!!! 15 Jun 2021 19:04 #369926

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All paid up BH

Re: Challenge Accepted!!! 16 Jun 2021 04:20 #369936

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Is it possible at all that the pain of paying back in multiple installments and being a bit tight financially would be an added motivator to not pay again and therefore add incentive to recommit?

Not pushing at all just a completely curious question
Think about how good you'll feel if you say no to desire and compare that to how bad you'll feel if you say yes.

Desire is unique in the way that it is never fulfilled -  if you give in the desire comes back even more powerful in just a few days. Telling yourself that its ok because this is really the last time doesn't work because you are just adding new images to your head that will cause future falls.

The Joy of triumph over the yetzer hara is worth the effort it takes to win. It IS worth it! Keep fighting!


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Aiming to be better
Last Edit: 16 Jun 2021 04:20 by EvedHashem1836.

Re: Challenge Accepted!!! 16 Jun 2021 05:51 #369938

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Unfortunately the tab moves up to $170
I find the challenge to be helpful to a degree and originally said I would recommit, however it seems like many of the participants have lost interest in utilizing the challenge as a tool ,
being that my main interest in doing it was 
to do something together with an enthusiastic group of likeminded individuals, and I feel that the sentiment is not so present currently, I will not recommit.

Regardless It’s Forward March !

there is a lot of stress and other things I’m not addressing enough so this becomesmore 
difficult I need to work on that .

Once again regardless of what happens with me or others,I am very proud to be part of the Gye chevra, May we all merit to be victorious over this enemy.
Last Edit: 16 Jun 2021 20:24 by i-man. Reason: Updated

Re: Challenge Accepted!!! 16 Jun 2021 13:34 #369942

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EvedHashem1836 wrote on 16 Jun 2021 04:20:
Is it possible at all that the pain of paying back in multiple installments and being a bit tight financially would be an added motivator to not pay again and therefore add incentive to recommit?

Not pushing at all just a completely curious question

I know I am the one who initiated this challenge, but I feel it isn't the right thing for every case, taking long term results into account. This challenge can add a helpful dose of motivation to someone who is already self motivated and working in the right direction. On the other hand, one who is fed up and slaps himself with this challenge expecting it to be his primary (and maybe only) motivator is spinning his wheels in the sand. It may take him on a white knuckling streak, maybe even for a decent amount of time, but eventually he will bust - money not withstanding. (Even if not, was there a longer term benefit? I also believe that a TAPHSIC can have this issue too.)

This is what happened to me and I believe to many here. As soon as I realized this, I started working on myself again - without punishments, and BH I am doing amazing.

So before anyone reaccepts or encourages others, think about what goal you are trying to achieve with this challenge. It may not he the one you need.

Re: Challenge Accepted!!! 16 Jun 2021 21:43 #369957

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EvedHashem1836 wrote on 16 Jun 2021 04:20:
Is it possible at all that the pain of paying back in multiple installments and being a bit tight financially would be an added motivator to not pay again and therefore add incentive to recommit?

Not pushing at all just a completely curious question

I have a longer response but probably better left unsaid.
Short answer is Thank you very much for your concern. I appreciate that you are thinking of me. but no thanks.

Re: Challenge Accepted!!! 24 Jun 2021 20:10 #370162

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Hi fellow Challengers!
I have not really posted here since I accepted the challenge. 
The past 2 weeks were very difficult for me. Lots of things going on in my life now, and I was very tempted to give in. I actually started playing with myself 'down there'. I suddenly remembered that challenge, and that I agreed to pay the money if I act out. I am very tight these days (that is one of the stresses), and I was able to stop myself just in time!
At least for me, this challenge was all that stood in my way from acting out! It worked!!!

Re: Challenge Accepted!!! 25 Jun 2021 07:14 #370184

I hate to admit that this challenge has been keeping me in the game lately.

Going through a rut where I don't have too much motivation for pretty much anything. What can I say, I'm counting down the days for this thing to be over. Hopefully by then I will be in a better place emotionally. 

I don't plan on giving in, it's just not the same in the moment. Hashem has been looking out for me though. Many timely emails on the group as well as some other ways. 

It has been said before that down times are for holding on and not doing anything that you will regret. 

At this stage in the game, I think the make it or break it is motivation to actually put in the work. Also, this might be when all those buried stuff make their reappearance.
Check out My Thread and The Truth

(עשה רצונו כרצונך (אבות,ב:ד

Feel free to email me  wilnevergiveupgye@gmail.com

Re: Challenge Accepted!!! 27 Jun 2021 13:09 #370241

Fell. I owe $170?
Check out My Thread and The Truth

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Feel free to email me  wilnevergiveupgye@gmail.com
Last Edit: 27 Jun 2021 13:10 by wilnevergiveup.

Re: Challenge Accepted!!! 27 Jun 2021 13:13 #370242

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Alas I fell too. What is the price?
Getting back in the game for sure as of right now, but not recomitting. I don't wanna lose more money lol.
אם יהיו חטאיכם כשנים, כשלג ילבינו

Re: Challenge Accepted!!! 27 Jun 2021 18:50 #370256

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You see I’m not sure about taphsic for myself and others (granted it works for some, but not for many and perhaps most gyes). The reason I believe a fee challenge doesn’t work for me is because we know that the subconscious is more powerful than the conscious. 

When there’s lust going on, it’s often simmering slowly in the subconscious. When it rises to the surface, a few dollars here or there are no match to anything we consider more important at that time 

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Re: Challenge Accepted!!! 27 Jun 2021 19:27 #370258

Markz wrote on 27 Jun 2021 18:50:
You see I’m not sure about taphsic for myself and others (granted it works for some, but not for many and perhaps most gyes). The reason I believe a fee challenge doesn’t work for me is because we know that the subconscious is more powerful than the conscious. 

When there’s lust going on, it’s often simmering slowly in the subconscious. When it rises to the surface, a few dollars here or there are no match to anything we consider more important at that time 

Does this resonate with you?

You nailed it!

I think that I would have been better off without it (although I did get pretty far). The risk is that when we take upon such a challenge (talking for myself) we forget can forget about why we are really doing this and focus too much on this. At some point I said, screw it, I'll give the 150 bucks and then I'll be free. 

I realized afterwards that I really need to rekindle my own self worth and values. That's why I am really fighting, if I can't do it for that reason, the 150 buck surely wont do it. 

I am seeing a therapist and I am working on my life. I am working to be a better person, father and wife. I am not giving up, I just think that this isn't for me anymore. It needs to be for more than money. 
Check out My Thread and The Truth

(עשה רצונו כרצונך (אבות,ב:ד

Feel free to email me  wilnevergiveupgye@gmail.com

Re: Challenge Accepted!!! 27 Jun 2021 21:29 #370264

But, recommitting for tomorrow so that I don't binge. Just one day at a time. (It's bedtime here)
Check out My Thread and The Truth

(עשה רצונו כרצונך (אבות,ב:ד

Feel free to email me  wilnevergiveupgye@gmail.com

Re: Challenge Accepted!!! 10 Jul 2021 20:55 #370670

I acted out the other day. I signed up at $50 not $150, so I believe I have to pay $74. Grant has very kindly offered to spilt the payment with me, although I'm still yet to pay my half. I need to sort one or 2 things out first before I pay
Last Edit: 10 Jul 2021 20:56 by Looking_to_improve.
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