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Re: Challenge Accepted!!! 01 Jun 2021 05:18 #369293

cordnoy wrote on 31 May 2021 15:24:

lionking wrote on 31 May 2021 15:21:
I acted foolish last night and fell.
Why? Because I am insane.
At least now it is out of my system, instead of the last few days where I was struggling constantly with just wanting a release.
Price is $164, paying up and recommitting again.

Sorry to hear; onward!!!

As a fundraiser, perhaps it's time I get in on the action (although, obviously, I'm not rootin' for anyone to fall).

Not getting a penny from me, I'm too cheap!
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Re: Challenge Accepted!!! 03 Jun 2021 05:22 #369388

How is everyone?

I haven't heard a peep here what's going on guys? 
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Re: Challenge Accepted!!! 03 Jun 2021 10:59 #369397

wilnevergiveup wrote on 03 Jun 2021 05:22:
How is everyone?

I haven't heard a peep here what's going on guys? 

Shlogging away, I think I'm ~30 days in

Re: Challenge Accepted!!! 03 Jun 2021 13:47 #369405

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Looking_to_improve wrote on 03 Jun 2021 10:59:

wilnevergiveup wrote on 03 Jun 2021 05:22:
How is everyone?

I haven't heard a peep here what's going on guys? 

Shlogging away, I think I'm ~30 days in

He definitely is! LTI's tenacity is literally the stuff of legends. Follow his thread from the beginning, it's like reading a biography of a marine or SEAL. He didn't take no for an answer and kept "shlogging" (whatever that means...but it sounds like an onomatopoeia...) and look where he is today!

A real inspiration to me and many others! I'm coming after you!

Re: Challenge Accepted!!! 07 Jun 2021 04:31 #369546

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Hakolhevel wrote on 31 May 2021 23:10:
Make that $166

I will not be rejoinong, as I've come to realize that my only way out is to work a spiritual program. I hope to gain the courage and honesty to do just that.

The challenge was good, as it showed me, that half measures will avail me nothing.

Enjoy the fundraising Cordnoy:grinning:

I will be paying 166 - that is so much easier than saying "I fell," "I acted out," or even "I watched porn/masturbated."
I would almost rather pay double if it got me out of figuring out how to say it.
As far as recommitting, I am also a little hesitant, seeing how futile the situation is, although something about Hakolhevel's reluctance to recommit is making me want to do it just to show that I can (even though I clearly cannot).

Re: Challenge Accepted!!! 07 Jun 2021 04:54 #369552

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bm263 wrote on 07 Jun 2021 04:31:

Hakolhevel wrote on 31 May 2021 23:10:
Make that $166

I will not be rejoinong, as I've come to realize that my only way out is to work a spiritual program. I hope to gain the courage and honesty to do just that.

The challenge was good, as it showed me, that half measures will avail me nothing.

Enjoy the fundraising Cordnoy:grinning:

I will be paying 166 - that is so much easier than saying "I fell," "I acted out," or even "I watched porn/masturbated."
I would almost rather pay double if it got me out of figuring out how to say it.
As far as recommitting, I am also a little hesitant, seeing how futile the situation is, although something about Hakolhevel's reluctance to recommit is making me want to do it just to show that I can (even though I clearly cannot).

You may be able to do it, I'm not commiting not because I'm giving up but because it's not the solution for me. Hopefully it is for you.

FUnny, when I acted out I was thinking of just paying without posting here becausbecause I was to embarrassed, I guess my post reflected my embarresment.
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Re: Challenge Accepted!!! 07 Jun 2021 05:40 #369560

Maybe we can do something else for guys who fall more than two or three times?

Like less money, or shorter time or less money if they called someone first etc, whatever would make sense for each person?

Just an idea what do you guys think?
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Re: Challenge Accepted!!! 08 Jun 2021 00:56 #369594

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@Moish what are the stats ? Who’s still in etc.
we only hear about the guys falling we need some positive news..
I am(myself guilty of that)
B”H still going strong slipped a few times with inappropriate touching but stopped.shortly after.

A cumulative amount of clean days would also be nice to know even if guys fell out they still contributed 

I think your correct maybe a tiered system would work better, it seems that the cash payments are scaring people away from the challenge , when the whole purpose of it is to motivate people to not fall .

Re: Challenge Accepted!!! 08 Jun 2021 02:08 #369597

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I understand that some of the concept of the challenge won't be achieved with this idea. Nevertheless I will present it. Please share your opinion.

How about changing the idea to custom challenges. Meaning anyone can customize their own challenge with their own objective and punishment, instead of it being a group challenge with specific rules and guidelines.

Re: Challenge Accepted!!! 08 Jun 2021 02:19 #369600

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Grant400 wrote on 08 Jun 2021 02:08:
I understand that some of the concept of the challenge won't be achieved with this idea. Nevertheless I will present it. Please share your opinion.

How about changing the idea to custom challenges. Meaning anyone can customize their own challenge with their own objective and punishment, instead of it being a group challenge with specific rules and guidelines.


Sounds like a great idea…It kind of sounds like the whole Gye site in simpler terms, would it become redundant this way ?

Re: Challenge Accepted!!! 08 Jun 2021 02:22 #369602

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i-man wrote on 08 Jun 2021 02:19:

Grant400 wrote on 08 Jun 2021 02:08:
I understand that some of the concept of the challenge won't be achieved with this idea. Nevertheless I will present it. Please share your opinion.

How about changing the idea to custom challenges. Meaning anyone can customize their own challenge with their own objective and punishment, instead of it being a group challenge with specific rules and guidelines.


Sounds like a great idea…It kind of sounds like the whole Gye site in simpler terms, would it become redundant this way ?

I hear your point. Although this can serve as the thread for accepting challenges and punishments...with the camaraderie of others joining with their own.

Re: Challenge Accepted!!! 08 Jun 2021 02:58 #369604

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Grant400 wrote on 08 Jun 2021 02:22:

i-man wrote on 08 Jun 2021 02:19:

Grant400 wrote on 08 Jun 2021 02:08:
I understand that some of the concept of the challenge won't be achieved with this idea. Nevertheless I will present it. Please share your opinion.

How about changing the idea to custom challenges. Meaning anyone can customize their own challenge with their own objective and punishment, instead of it being a group challenge with specific rules and guidelines.


Sounds like a great idea…It kind of sounds like the whole Gye site in simpler terms, would it become redundant this way ?

I hear your point. Although this can serve as the thread for accepting challenges and punishments...with the camaraderie of others joining with their own.

Sounds like you may be on to something..

Cordnoy if you are reading, please note how I avoided using the b word.

Re: Challenge Accepted!!! 08 Jun 2021 03:15 #369605

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i-man wrote on 08 Jun 2021 00:56:
@Moish what are the stats ? Who’s still in etc.
we only hear about the guys falling we need some positive news..
I am(myself guilty of that)
B”H still going strong slipped a few times with inappropriate touching but stopped.shortly after.

A cumulative amount of clean days would also be nice to know even if guys fell out they still contributed 

I think your correct maybe a tiered system would work better, it seems that the cash payments are scaring people away from the challenge , when the whole purpose of it is to motivate people to not fall .

I've spent money on fallin'; ca$h payments would not prevent me from fallin'.
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Re: Challenge Accepted!!! 08 Jun 2021 04:27 #369608

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cordnoy wrote on 08 Jun 2021 03:15:

i-man wrote on 08 Jun 2021 00:56:
@Moish what are the stats ? Who’s still in etc.
we only hear about the guys falling we need some positive news..
I am(myself guilty of that)
B”H still going strong slipped a few times with inappropriate touching but stopped.shortly after.

A cumulative amount of clean days would also be nice to know even if guys fell out they still contributed 

I think your correct maybe a tiered system would work better, it seems that the cash payments are scaring people away from the challenge , when the whole purpose of it is to motivate people to not fall .

I've spent money on fallin'; ca$h payments would not prevent me from fallin'.

I hear you, for me it wasn’t about the money & more about doing something together with others. 

Re: Challenge Accepted!!! 08 Jun 2021 05:34 #369609

What we can do (and this won't help for firs timers who are scared off) is say that in order to join, the initial fine for a fall remains in place and if someone want's to rejoin after a fall they can negotiate. This will make it different.

We may also make a smaller amount for bachurim who don't have an income.

Just my thoughts.
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