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Re: One step at a time... 26 Jan 2021 02:44 #361953

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anothershot wrote on 25 Jan 2021 12:52:
Hey Lou it's great that you're trying and not giving up!
Does your filter allow you to block the web at a certain time?


It probably would but that is not a practical eitza for me. As I said these were really 2 extra ideas and I am thinking of just holding back for now with this and work on the basics. It is not like I had a fall or anything close to it with this. I just wanted to fine tune myself even more but maybe took too big a step.
Thanks

Re: One step at a time... 27 Jan 2021 12:47 #362090

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Recently I have been going to bed late & that's not helpful in any way....
It negatively affects my davening, learning, work, exercise etc....
I really want to take control now before it leads to a fall therefore I am mekabel bl"n that I will  not use the internet on my pc, tablet, or phone after 11:30 tonight (unless absolutely necessary) 

Hatzlacha to all 
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I am going to beat this monster one step at a time... One day at a time!

Re: One step at a time... 04 Feb 2021 19:51 #362746

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I am at 36 days now but been slipping up and wasting too much time & I need to right this ship now before it sinks so here's the plan... 

For the next 5 days I will Bl"n 
1. post everyday 
2. Before I go to sleep I will make small goals for the next day 
3. Exercise for a minimum of 5 minutes
4. Learn something that interests me for at least 5 minutes 
5. Celebrate in a small way each clean day

Hatzlacha to all! 
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My threads:
Giving it another shot

One step at a time

Daily (I hope) Excerpt from Sefer Zos Brisi

I am going to beat this monster one step at a time... One day at a time!

Re: One step at a time... 04 Feb 2021 20:30 #362747

so here's the plan... 

For the next 5 days I will Bl"n 
1. post everyday 
2. Before I go to sleep I will make small goals for the next day 
3. Exercise for a minimum of 5 minutes
4. Learn something that interests me for at least 5 minutes 
5. Celebrate in a small way each clean day

Hatzlacha to all! 
Anothershot

You rock! 

Re: One step at a time... 10 Feb 2021 15:04 #363085

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I was very inspired by all the kabalos @changing made so here's mine...

I am mekabel bl"n not to go on Instagram today. 

I'm definitely not ready for the not getting frustrated at my kids kabalah Lol

Hatzlacha to all! 
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One step at a time

Daily (I hope) Excerpt from Sefer Zos Brisi

I am going to beat this monster one step at a time... One day at a time!

Re: One step at a time... 12 Feb 2021 13:39 #363230

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My goal for today is to work on lusting after women in the street. Obviously I can't control the 1st look but bl"n if a attractive woman catches my eye today I won't take a 2nd look. 

Hatzlacha to all! 
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One step at a time

Daily (I hope) Excerpt from Sefer Zos Brisi

I am going to beat this monster one step at a time... One day at a time!

Re: One step at a time... 03 Mar 2021 00:39 #364595

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As I wrote on my other thread I have been struggling mightily the past couple of days so I need to do something to be mechazek myself.... 

1. I started a 3 day "diet" from YouTube, Instagram, & Facebook yesterday

2. I will bl"n exercise daily for at least 5 minutes starting today for the next 5 days

Hatzlacha to all! 
Anothershot 
My threads:
Giving it another shot

One step at a time

Daily (I hope) Excerpt from Sefer Zos Brisi

I am going to beat this monster one step at a time... One day at a time!

Re: One step at a time... 03 Mar 2021 22:44 #364659

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anothershot wrote on 03 Mar 2021 00:39:
As I wrote on my other thread I have been struggling mightily the past couple of days so I need to do something to be mechazek myself.... 

1. I started a 3 day "diet" from YouTube, Instagram, & Facebook yesterday

2. I will bl"n exercise daily for at least 5 minutes starting today for the next 5 days

Hatzlacha to all! 
Anothershot 

Just wondering,do you need facebook,instigram or youtube for Parnassah reasons?
Otherwise,why tempt yourself? Just get rid of it. Easier said than done but just an idea.

Re: One step at a time... 04 Mar 2021 00:39 #364665

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would anyone say that this gemara applies to using social networking when it's not essential? 


בבא בתרא נז ב

ועוצם עיניו מראות ברע א"ר חייא בר אבא דזה שאין מסתכל בנשים בשעה שעומדות על הכביסה היכי דמי אי דאיכא דרכא אחריתא רשע הוא אי דליכא דרכא אחריתא אנוס הוא לעולם דליכא דרכא אחריתא ואפ"ה מיבעי ליה למינס נפשיה


רשב"ם

אי דאיכא דרכא אחרינא - ואזיל בהך:רשע הוא - ואף על פי שעוצם עיניו שלא היה לו לקרב אלא להרחיק מן העבירה דקיימא לן חולין (דף מד:) הרחק מן הכיעור:אנוס הוא - אם מסתכל דרך הליכתו ואונס רחמנא פטריה ולמה מזקיקו הכתוב להעצים עיניו דמדמשתבח ביה קרא שמעינן דצריך לעצום עיניו:למינס נפשיה - להטות עיניו לצד אחר והיינו דמשתבח ביה קרא דאי אניס נפשיה חסיד הוא:
"If I am not for myself, who will be for me? But if I am only for myself, who am I? If not now, when?"
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Re: One step at a time... 07 Mar 2021 14:29 #364883

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I know that this week will be very busy and I won't have time for exercise. 

I also know that if I exercise it helps me feel better overall and helps me in this struggle. 

Therefore I will Bl"n make time to exercise for at least 5 minutes a day every day this week.

Hatzlacha to all! 
Anothershot 
My threads:
Giving it another shot

One step at a time

Daily (I hope) Excerpt from Sefer Zos Brisi

I am going to beat this monster one step at a time... One day at a time!
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