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Re: My journey 25 Jan 2021 23:11 #361932

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These are very true and smart points, and being able to tell it to yourself while your down, is amazing. saying this while feeling good to another fellow is one thing but saying it to yourself is something else... 
keep us updated, hope your feeling better soon!

Re: My journey 25 Jan 2021 23:58 #361942

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ColinColin wrote on 25 Jan 2021 23:11:
I think being self critical is a common trait amongst us on this Forum.

We have to learn to conduct a sensible Cheshbon Hanefesh, without being too harsh.
If we put ourselves down, it can lead to depression which can lead to sin.

We have to remind ourselves of our good points.

I really love something I heard from one of my rebbeim that חשבון הנפש is NOT on action but on our NEFESH. @willdoit's nefesh is doing really well now! All that fighting ODAAT, letting go, davening etc. 
Keep up the good inspiring work willdoit
Last Edit: 25 Jan 2021 23:59 by Striving Avreich.

Re: My journey 26 Jan 2021 19:19 #361999

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Re: My journey 26 Jan 2021 21:12 #362016

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He has guided me as well toward a completely new experience.

And I too, look forward to meeting him BEZH in a couple weeks.

Cant wait to celebrate with you in 9 days!

ה׳ עמך גבור החיל! [שופטים ו׳ יב׳]

 Perhaps you can find chizuk from my thread at guardyoureyes.com/forum/19-Introduce-Yourself/356161-Intro 

Feel free to reach out to me at
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Re: My journey 28 Jan 2021 16:48 #362177

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I had a simchah last night and saw some well dressed women and I really got carried away and today I keep obsessing about what I saw.
​This is something that I keep stumbling on, no matter how many times I promise not to look I just keep on giving in.
Any advice on how to stick to Guarding my eyes??

Thank you!
Last Edit: 29 Jan 2021 15:28 by willdoit.

Re: My journey 28 Jan 2021 23:20 #362199

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Thank Hashem that he made beautiful people, then daven that they have an easy life - nachs from their kids, financial peace, feel well, etc... This will remind you that they are people with lives of their own - not your toys. Obviously, do your best to look away, but at all costs - do not obsess or panic about this. That's exactly what your yetzer hara wants you to do. Accept the nisayon and ride its waves.
Feel free to contact me at michelgelner@gmail.com

My threads: Lessons Learned: guardyoureyes.com/forum/20-Important-Threads/335248-Lessons-Learned

                    My Story and G-d Bless GYE: guardyoureyes.com/forum/17-Balei-Battims-Forum/303036-My-story-and-G-d-bless-GYE

Re: My journey 04 Feb 2021 22:11 #362754

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Hello,

Just to share, I got to 90 days clean from mb and porn b"h.
​To be honest, I did have some serious slips here and there and was really close to falling but hashem saved me.
Thanks to you my dear friends for being there for me when in need.

Thank you Hashem!! 
Last Edit: 04 Feb 2021 22:13 by willdoit.

Re: My journey 04 Feb 2021 22:25 #362756

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Mazal Tov! May this be the beginning of a long ,clean healthy life beH!

Re: My journey 04 Feb 2021 22:45 #362758

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willdoit wrote on 04 Feb 2021 22:11:
Hello,

Just to share, I got to 90 days clean from mb and porn b"h.
​To be honest, I did have some serious slips here and there and was really close to falling but hashem saved me.
Thanks to you my dear friends for being there for me when in need.

Thank you Hashem!! 

Mazal Tov! Keep going strong brother!
How are you celebrating this huge milestone? 
My threads:
Giving it another shot

One step at a time

Daily (I hope) Excerpt from Sefer Zos Brisi

I am going to beat this monster one step at a time... One day at a time!

Re: My journey 05 Feb 2021 06:48 #362789

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MAZEL TOV!

May you go from strength to strength!

90 days is a huge milestone however the YH doesn't magically disappear in thin air. He will nag and beg but now that 90 days have passed you realize you can live without the garbage.

I myself haven't got to 90 days but I'm certain the YH will show up to say hello. Just now you can react in a healthy way.

Keep strong and keep being an inspiration!

One who has given up hope is without a G‑d.

One who sees hope in each day is already free

Re: My journey 05 Feb 2021 15:21 #362811

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Thank you all for these nice bruches.
May hashem help us all stay clean and give us the clarity on how to deal with this monster Y"H.

Yours truly
Willdoit,

Re: My journey 05 Feb 2021 15:33 #362812

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Zedj wrote on 05 Feb 2021 06:48:
MAZEL TOV!

May you go from strength to strength!

90 days is a huge milestone however the YH doesn't magically disappear in thin air. He will nag and beg but now that 90 days have passed you realize you can live without the garbage.

I myself haven't got to 90 days but I'm certain the YH will show up to say hello. Just now you can react in a healthy way.

Keep strong and keep being an inspiration!

Very well said!
This is actually my 3rd time making it to 90 days, I went as far as 150 days and fell. So 90 days is none magic number. But it certainly shows us that we could live without it and with time going by it DOES get easier though.

But even then the urges do revisit here and there and we need to be on guard and keep in mind what worked for us and stick to it.
Last Edit: 05 Feb 2021 16:27 by willdoit.

Re: My journey 05 Feb 2021 15:34 #362813

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Big Mazel tov!!! May you be able to stay clean, and grow with harchuvas hadaas! And iyh by all of us!

Re: My journey 05 Feb 2021 15:38 #362814

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Sapy wrote on 05 Feb 2021 15:34:
Big Mazel tov!!! May you be able to stay clean, and grow with harchuvas hadaas! And iyh by all of us!

Thank you!
​Waiting to celebrate with you in 74 days Iy"h.
One day at a time!
Last Edit: 05 Feb 2021 15:41 by willdoit.

Re: My journey 16 Feb 2021 19:27 #363518

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willdoit wrote on 05 Feb 2021 15:33:

Zedj wrote on 05 Feb 2021 06:48:
MAZEL TOV!

May you go from strength to strength!

90 days is a huge milestone however the YH doesn't magically disappear in thin air. He will nag and beg but now that 90 days have passed you realize you can live without the garbage.

I myself haven't got to 90 days but I'm certain the YH will show up to say hello. Just now you can react in a healthy way.

Keep strong and keep being an inspiration!

Very well said!
This is actually my 3rd time making it to 90 days, I went as far as 150 days and fell. So 90 days is none magic number. But it certainly shows us that we could live without it and with time going by it DOES get easier though.

But even then the urges do revisit here and there and we need to be on guard and keep in mind what worked for us and stick to it.

Hey, thanks for the chat today; you seem like a swell guy!
Nice on your milestones.
You were about to tell me the tools you use to stay sober; I'll look here later, as in this thread it just seemed that you're trying to control the urge when it comes, which is good and more than I can say for myself right now, but I was wondering about the proactive methods that you use.

Thanks so much
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