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Re: I don’t get it 02 Aug 2020 11:02 #353232

Good to see your resolve is not broken, and you have ideas for the future. Keep on letting us know how it goes.

I once heard in the name of the Steipler that the satisfaction one gets from not giving into the yetzer is (always?) stronger than the satisfaction one gets if he gives in. This is like your saying, you get more of a rush not giving in, which makes the yetzer's seduction stam a big joke!

Hatzlocha viter

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Today I will do what others won't, so tomorrow I can do what others can't.
We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence then, is not an act, but a habit.
We all make choices in life, but in the end, our choices make us.

Re: I don’t get it 02 Aug 2020 12:08 #353235

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:pinch: Warning: Spoiler!
Do you know if it’s חילול שבת? I’ve heard that it is just don’t know the מלאכה?

Re: I don’t get it 02 Aug 2020 12:46 #353237

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Taharat Yisrael wrote on 02 Aug 2020 12:08:
:pinch: Warning: Spoiler!
Do you know if it’s חילול שבת? I’ve heard that it is just don’t know the מלאכה?

You mean to ask if masturbation is chilul shabbos? 
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Re: I don’t get it 02 Aug 2020 22:26 #353252

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You have a great attitude about getting up and moving on. With that mehalech you will iyh break free. It is also advisable that you continue separating pornography and masturbation. Even if you struggle a bit more with masturbation but are keeping your eyes and mind clean, it is an awesome accomplishment. Pornography is terribly destructive - it totally corrupts our thinking about women, with many serious side effects..... 
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Re: I don’t get it 04 Aug 2020 01:29 #353310

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@Taharat Yisrael

Try HALT

If you feel any of these feelings, or any combination of them, then stop immediately and gather your thoughts.
They put you at risk of falling.

Hunger
Anger (resentment/jealousy)
Lonely
Tired
Last Edit: 04 Aug 2020 01:30 by ColinColin.

Re: I don’t get it 04 Aug 2020 05:15 #353325

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I think I’ve seen from the zohar that somehow it’s hotzaa because it’s bringing the zera from ones reshus hayachid to the reshus harabim...

but I doubt it’s lhalacha, one won’t get skila for it etc...

anyway, Hatzlocha!!

Re: I don’t get it 04 Aug 2020 08:54 #353329

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Thanks a lot. Is this true for everyone? The hunger one is a bit of a surprise

Re: I don’t get it 04 Aug 2020 12:14 #353333

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It's anything that causes you stress. it varies between different people but generally those four top the list for most people.

About chilul Shabbos, no, its not chillul shabbos. Al pi sod maybe, but it's a lot of other things al pi sod too. Don't get too hung up about it, try to focus on what is real to you and what matters in your day to day life.

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Re: I don’t get it 07 Aug 2020 03:25 #353450

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Hey guys! In the need of real chizuk! Ive made it to day 6 again but I woke up early with a lot of Taayva! I want to go back to sleep as I got to sleep very late(I came back from an army base very far away). I feel like I can’t do that with being נכשול. Once I make it this far I gets really hard!!!

Re: I don’t get it 07 Aug 2020 03:34 #353452

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Baruch HaShem, I was distract myself with a funny WhatsApp status I saw. These things work! 

Re: I don’t get it 07 Aug 2020 04:41 #353459

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Remind yourself of the reasons you want to be clean, how it feels to be clean and how it feels 10 seconds after a fall. Hang in there! 
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Re: I don’t get it 07 Aug 2020 13:16 #353478

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Taharat Yisrael wrote on 07 Aug 2020 03:25:
Hey guys! In the need of real chizuk! Ive made it to day 6 again but I woke up early with a lot of Taayva! I want to go back to sleep as I got to sleep very late(I came back from an army base very far away). I feel like I can’t do that with being נכשול. Once I make it this far I gets really hard!!!

This is very normal.  The urges come and go.  The key is to remove yourself from that situation, such as taking a walk, distracting yourself, etc.  The urge will pass. Keep on posting!

Re: I don’t get it 11 Aug 2020 09:27 #353590

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Hey guys! I fell over Shabbat on day 7 but on a positive note the fall was much more brief this time. As last week I fell again twice consecutively that same night. I’m on day 3 now and going strong. BH keeping busy as much as I can, especially with the army(couldn’t do anything for a little while but now I’m coming back). Also going to be renting an apartment with a friend, staying productive. Wish me luck guys!

Re: I don’t get it 11 Aug 2020 09:28 #353591

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Actually, it’s day 4!

Re: I don’t get it 11 Aug 2020 09:32 #353592

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