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Growing With The Chevra
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A platform of recovery for Jews who find themselves struggling with addictions to pornography, masturbation or other sexual problems. Post anonymously about your struggles without fear of anyone finding out who you are. Ask questions, post answers and be inspired! Get tips and guidance from the experts who moderate this forum, as well as from fellow strugglers.

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Re: Growing With The Chevra 15 May 2018 23:47 #331106

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The good wishes  from yourself and others are SO appreciated.

Thank you.

Re: Growing With The Chevra 17 May 2018 01:10 #331138

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My economic hurdle continues. B"H I am clean. 

Less pressure today to look for "fake comfort" in the forbidden fruit.

Re: Growing With The Chevra 17 May 2018 06:04 #331154

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Every single time you close your eyes from watching what's wrong you become the immediate recipient of a miracle. Keep on trucking and the miracles will start pouring on to you bringing שפע ברכה והצלחה.

Re: Growing With The Chevra 17 May 2018 12:16 #331158

You weren't very clear. Which forbidden fruit? 
If it's your chavrusa's wallet, please control yourself... Steeling isn't a game you know. 

Re: Growing With The Chevra 22 May 2018 16:31 #331213

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newaction wrote on 17 May 2018 06:04:
Every single time you close your eyes from watching what's wrong you become the immediate recipient of a miracle. Keep on trucking and the miracles will start pouring on to you bringing שפע ברכה והצלחה.

Amen. May they pour in for all of us. 

Much appreciated.

Re: Growing With The Chevra 22 May 2018 16:38 #331215

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shmirashachaim wrote on 17 May 2018 12:16:
You weren't very clear. Which forbidden fruit? 
If it's your chavrusa's wallet, please control yourself... Steeling isn't a game you know. 


The forbidden fruit is inappropriate gazing. 
Need I say more?

Re: Growing With The Chevra 23 May 2018 12:22 #331263

Haha. Think I know what your referring to now. 
Hope all is well. 

Re: Growing With The Chevra 23 May 2018 15:03 #331265

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In Parshas Bechukosy, the Or Hachaim Hakadosh writes that for the individual Jew(as opposed to the community as a whole) if you see there is a lack of funds it means there is not enough learning. 
That's what it means when it says: "Eyn Kemach, Eyn Torah"
There is not enough Kemach- Eyn Kemach?
That's because there is not enough Torah - eyn Torah

Needless to say, bli neder, I am trying to learn more

Re: Growing With The Chevra 30 May 2018 01:09 #331518

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Today I had some anxiety. Certain issues came together and the result caused me to think that if only I indulge in some of the forbidden stuff, I'll be comforted. 
Hashem helped me and I didn't do it. 

Later in the day I again felt this anxiety. I remembered the challenge I had earlier on and the fact I didn't act out.
I sat back and a warm, deep seated comforting feeling enveloped me.
Last Edit: 30 May 2018 01:10 by yiraishamaim.

Re: Growing With The Chevra 30 May 2018 01:44 #331519

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Good on you! I also think that stress is a major trigger for me.. your an insipration!

Re: Growing With The Chevra 30 May 2018 21:19 #331555

Great to hear. 

Re: Growing With The Chevra 12 Jun 2018 14:28 #332074

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Everytime I seem to get to a dramatic milestone in my life - that could bring about much Beracha  - like a new job etc. I find myself being particularly challenged to look at the shmutz.
I then wonder:Maybe its because of it being a time of anxiety.
                       Maybe it has to do with the idea of being zoche for the new good situation

Then again, maybe I shouldn't even wonder.
Just KOT - Just do what works for me to be sober and let G-d take over the results.

Re: Growing With The Chevra 12 Jun 2018 14:37 #332078

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I have a talent for jumping to conclusions when I see certain new events and decide that NOW Hashem will force my wife to provide me with whatever I want. Then soon after reality hits home.

Re: Growing With The Chevra 12 Jun 2018 15:38 #332088

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mzl wrote on 12 Jun 2018 14:37:
I have a talent for jumping to conclusions when I see certain new events and decide that NOW Hashem will force my wife to provide me with whatever I want. Then soon after reality hits home.

Which reality hits home?
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Re: Growing With The Chevra 12 Jun 2018 15:50 #332093

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That I made it up in my mind in order to pleasure myself.
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