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Any1 can relate to me? Issue: Neighbor on my Block
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Re: Any1 can relate to me? Issue: Neighbor on my Block 18 Feb 2015 21:12 #248969

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shalom
i feel i dont - no i dont- no i dont - want to go back to my past, i feel that the Yetzer-harra aka Malach Hamuves is running after me with a ax, so im running away into a forest, and guess what, here in the deep forest i see a whole group of yiden who are running away, guess what, im not the only 1, there is a whole group of ppl.
even not knowing exactly the plan, but hey, we are not alone here, we have quite a few chevra here.
1 thing is for sure, 1st step is will stay in the group, sit with the chevra, תשועה ברוב יועץ, and together we will iy"h find epes a way.

Re: Any1 can relate to me? Issue: Neighbor on my Block 18 Feb 2015 21:20 #248971

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This letter is what i got from Rabbi Shick Zt"l of Breslov, (Back in November)
may this be a zchis for him and i ilee nishmas for me
(yes i mean what i wrote... )
Last Edit: 18 Feb 2015 21:51 by DuddyM.

Re: Any1 can relate to me? Issue: Neighbor on my Block 18 Feb 2015 21:46 #248974

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what da hell?
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If one gives up at the first sign of a struggle, he is really not ready to be successful."
"Tryin' and doin' are two different thin's - tryin' is hopin'; doin' is succeedin'.
"The right thin' to do and the hard thin' to do are usually the same."


Disclaimer: I am not a cheerleader; B"H, there are many on the site. I am here to change myself, and with God's help, by some mistake, I might even help change others.

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Re: Any1 can relate to me? Issue: Neighbor on my Block 19 Feb 2015 08:10 #248994

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Wow!!!

Thats very short and straight to the point.

Cordnoy whats the issue Rav Shick?

Re: Any1 can relate to me? Issue: Neighbor on my Block 19 Feb 2015 09:34 #248997

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He wrote that it should be l'ilu nishmaso...he happens to be alive and kickin' right now....!?
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GYE Handbook | Gibbor's Insights | GYE FAQ - Thanks Skep and DMS123456789 White Book | Big Book (Alcoholics Anonymous)

If one gives up at the first sign of a struggle, he is really not ready to be successful."
"Tryin' and doin' are two different thin's - tryin' is hopin'; doin' is succeedin'.
"The right thin' to do and the hard thin' to do are usually the same."


Disclaimer: I am not a cheerleader; B"H, there are many on the site. I am here to change myself, and with God's help, by some mistake, I might even help change others.

MY POSTS ARE NOT WRITTEN AS A MODERATOR UNLESS EXPLICITLY STATED.

Re: Any1 can relate to me? Issue: Neighbor on my Block 19 Feb 2015 09:36 #248998

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And Duddy knows that I don't read the stuff he sends me; he's hopin' that I keep 'em in a safe place, and after I convert, I will read 'em all.
My email: thenewme613@hotmail.com
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GYE Handbook | Gibbor's Insights | GYE FAQ - Thanks Skep and DMS123456789 White Book | Big Book (Alcoholics Anonymous)

If one gives up at the first sign of a struggle, he is really not ready to be successful."
"Tryin' and doin' are two different thin's - tryin' is hopin'; doin' is succeedin'.
"The right thin' to do and the hard thin' to do are usually the same."


Disclaimer: I am not a cheerleader; B"H, there are many on the site. I am here to change myself, and with God's help, by some mistake, I might even help change others.

MY POSTS ARE NOT WRITTEN AS A MODERATOR UNLESS EXPLICITLY STATED.

Re: Any1 can relate to me? Issue: Neighbor on my Block 19 Feb 2015 10:37 #248999

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Cordnoy do you think you might have אפיקורסות addiction?

Or rather a converting addiction?

Re: Any1 can relate to me? Issue: Neighbor on my Block 19 Feb 2015 10:44 #249002

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I don't know what I have.
I have thrived thru this recovery process and this site and the chevra.
What this has to do with this thread, I'm not sure (besides for my one comment).
I'm still waitin' for Duddy to explain his.
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GYE Handbook | Gibbor's Insights | GYE FAQ - Thanks Skep and DMS123456789 White Book | Big Book (Alcoholics Anonymous)

If one gives up at the first sign of a struggle, he is really not ready to be successful."
"Tryin' and doin' are two different thin's - tryin' is hopin'; doin' is succeedin'.
"The right thin' to do and the hard thin' to do are usually the same."


Disclaimer: I am not a cheerleader; B"H, there are many on the site. I am here to change myself, and with God's help, by some mistake, I might even help change others.

MY POSTS ARE NOT WRITTEN AS A MODERATOR UNLESS EXPLICITLY STATED.

Re: Any1 can relate to me? Issue: Neighbor on my Block 19 Feb 2015 14:52 #249010

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Git Chodesh
B"h we r doing fine, as a day at a time passes by, b"h.
the reason i had put up this letter is cuz Rabbi Shick just Passed Away zt"l, and i got from him this letter back in November, and it was very strong words for me, knowing not to focus on a tikkun, just the only tikkun is to STAY AWAY, and this is the strongest Tshuva, so i figured ill post it "might be useful for some1 in same situation.
ויהי החודש הזה סוף וקץ לכל צרותינו, תחילה וראש לפדיום נפשינו
העיקר הוא השמחה

Re: Any1 can relate to me? Issue: Neighbor on my Block 19 Feb 2015 15:02 #249011

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so, is it l'iluy nishmaso?
My email: thenewme613@hotmail.com
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GYE Handbook | Gibbor's Insights | GYE FAQ - Thanks Skep and DMS123456789 White Book | Big Book (Alcoholics Anonymous)

If one gives up at the first sign of a struggle, he is really not ready to be successful."
"Tryin' and doin' are two different thin's - tryin' is hopin'; doin' is succeedin'.
"The right thin' to do and the hard thin' to do are usually the same."


Disclaimer: I am not a cheerleader; B"H, there are many on the site. I am here to change myself, and with God's help, by some mistake, I might even help change others.

MY POSTS ARE NOT WRITTEN AS A MODERATOR UNLESS EXPLICITLY STATED.

Re: Any1 can relate to me? Issue: Neighbor on my Block 19 Feb 2015 15:39 #249012

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Is the point that the sinner, who although is physically alive, is spiritually dead. And, the Tzadik who is physically dead, has eternal life? I like the follow up post much better העיקר הוא השמחה !!!

The Torah about teshuvah being as described in the letter, although a gevaldike insight, never helped me. It always just made me feel defeated. Not only did I fail in the aveira, I also failed in the teshuvah. It also implied, to me, that I would inevitably be in the same situation again. I now know that I don't have to be in that situation again. My "teshuvah" is to never place myself in that situation again. Thanks for that reminder!

The Olam says, "Where there is a will, there is a way" We say, "Where the is a G-d, there is a Will!". The first way may work for the olam, I don't know. For me, my will never worked out very well. His Will is working out pretty good so far.

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--"If, when you honestly want to, you find you cannot quit entirely, or if when drinking (or lusting), you have little control over the amount you take, you are probably alcoholic (or sexaholic)." AA Big Book P. 45. Parenthesis added.
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Re: Any1 can relate to me? Issue: Neighbor on my Block 19 Feb 2015 15:55 #249013

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Yaakov,
Great stuff!
Thanked you and splatted you for that one.
My email: thenewme613@hotmail.com
My threads:
GYE Handbook | Gibbor's Insights | GYE FAQ - Thanks Skep and DMS123456789 White Book | Big Book (Alcoholics Anonymous)

If one gives up at the first sign of a struggle, he is really not ready to be successful."
"Tryin' and doin' are two different thin's - tryin' is hopin'; doin' is succeedin'.
"The right thin' to do and the hard thin' to do are usually the same."


Disclaimer: I am not a cheerleader; B"H, there are many on the site. I am here to change myself, and with God's help, by some mistake, I might even help change others.

MY POSTS ARE NOT WRITTEN AS A MODERATOR UNLESS EXPLICITLY STATED.

Re: Any1 can relate to me? Issue: Neighbor on my Block 24 Feb 2015 20:49 #249343

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Hello All
just got a email from 1 of our beloved chevra here, ill quote what he wrote to me:

Hello David AKA Duddy
Thank you for posted the letter of Harav Schik Zt"l, it was very powerful and strong for me, i printed it out and i keep on seeing there the biggest Chizuk Ever.
that the main part of Tshuvah is not to go back to the Aveire,
and that i should know that if i do, i will get caught, and i wont have a hole where to hide....
i keep on reviewing it
Thanks Again
כל המזכה את הרבים אין חטא בא על ידו
Truly
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