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TOPIC: Tryin' 228130 Views

Re: Tryin' 26 May 2021 19:36 #369058

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They say the call yesterday was pretty good; one fellow even called me afterwards, several emailed or texted.
  • Blue book - Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde - "Why does he behave like this? If hundreds of experiences have shown him that one drink means another debacle ...., why take that one drink? What has become of the common sense.....?"
  • White book - Tolerance - "Tolerate more of the drug or activity and get less from its use .... we remember how our lust escalated over the years." Attempted abstinence - "Some of us stopped every time we acted out!" Withdrawal - "Symptoms the addict may experience when deprived of the drug or activity. Not feedin' the hunger doesn't kill us!"
  • Step into Action - "We are drawn helplessly to lust, tradin' short-term pleasure for long-term pain, over and over again. If we permit a lust thought to remain in our heads w/o dealin' with it immediately, we begin physical, mental, spiritual, emotional and neurological changes within us. When we gave away our weakness, we began to find hope."
  • Rabbi Abraham Twerski MD - a woman is gaga over her perspective husband although he has abusive tendencies; she thinks she will change him; he becomes empowered after he acquires her.
My email: thenewme613@hotmail.com
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GYE Handbook | Gibbor's Insights | GYE FAQ - Thanks Skep and DMS123456789 White Book | Big Book (Alcoholics Anonymous)

If one gives up at the first sign of a struggle, he is really not ready to be successful."
"Tryin' and doin' are two different thin's - tryin' is hopin'; doin' is succeedin'.
"The right thin' to do and the hard thin' to do are usually the same."


Disclaimer: I am not a cheerleader; B"H, there are many on the site. I am here to change myself, and with God's help, by some mistake, I might even help change others.

MY POSTS ARE NOT WRITTEN AS A MODERATOR UNLESS EXPLICITLY STATED.
Last Edit: 26 May 2021 19:44 by cordnoy.

Re: Tryin' 26 May 2021 19:38 #369059

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Thursday - 9:15 AM - "shoot the breeze" call - no readin' - be ready to share (ouch!).

Friday - 10:15
My email: thenewme613@hotmail.com
My threads:
GYE Handbook | Gibbor's Insights | GYE FAQ - Thanks Skep and DMS123456789 White Book | Big Book (Alcoholics Anonymous)

If one gives up at the first sign of a struggle, he is really not ready to be successful."
"Tryin' and doin' are two different thin's - tryin' is hopin'; doin' is succeedin'.
"The right thin' to do and the hard thin' to do are usually the same."


Disclaimer: I am not a cheerleader; B"H, there are many on the site. I am here to change myself, and with God's help, by some mistake, I might even help change others.

MY POSTS ARE NOT WRITTEN AS A MODERATOR UNLESS EXPLICITLY STATED.

Re: Tryin' 27 May 2021 19:49 #369106

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cordnoy wrote on 26 May 2021 19:38:
Thursday - 9:15 AM - "shoot the breeze" call - no readin' - be ready to share (ouch!).

Friday - 10:15

Tomorrow's call - 10:15 - more book readin'.

Recap/tidbits from today's "shoot the breeze" call:
  • ​Out of isolation. The chiddushim for me are rarer and rarer these days. Pain of loneliness is definitely part of what drives me. Shaar Bitachon helps.
  • Internal clock punchers (what?)
  • Women of ill repute - it's a turnoff when you know they're after your money!
  • Orgasms
  • What makes me do it? What am I gainin'? Am I?
  • We are all in a better place.
  • Where da Hell is Una?
My email: thenewme613@hotmail.com
My threads:
GYE Handbook | Gibbor's Insights | GYE FAQ - Thanks Skep and DMS123456789 White Book | Big Book (Alcoholics Anonymous)

If one gives up at the first sign of a struggle, he is really not ready to be successful."
"Tryin' and doin' are two different thin's - tryin' is hopin'; doin' is succeedin'.
"The right thin' to do and the hard thin' to do are usually the same."


Disclaimer: I am not a cheerleader; B"H, there are many on the site. I am here to change myself, and with God's help, by some mistake, I might even help change others.

MY POSTS ARE NOT WRITTEN AS A MODERATOR UNLESS EXPLICITLY STATED.

Re: Tryin' 28 May 2021 15:18 #369141

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Started out slowly, but then took off B"H!
  • Blue book - Dr's letter, loss of power of choice to drink, lust; there is a solution
  • White book - H.A.L.T.; addictive process - is our drug of choice "friend" or "foe"?
  • Action book - HW - I concede that I am completely incapable of handlin' lust, as manifested etc.
  • RAJT - One episode of physical abuse is once too many; denial will not make anythin' go away.


Godspeed to all!
My email: thenewme613@hotmail.com
My threads:
GYE Handbook | Gibbor's Insights | GYE FAQ - Thanks Skep and DMS123456789 White Book | Big Book (Alcoholics Anonymous)

If one gives up at the first sign of a struggle, he is really not ready to be successful."
"Tryin' and doin' are two different thin's - tryin' is hopin'; doin' is succeedin'.
"The right thin' to do and the hard thin' to do are usually the same."


Disclaimer: I am not a cheerleader; B"H, there are many on the site. I am here to change myself, and with God's help, by some mistake, I might even help change others.

MY POSTS ARE NOT WRITTEN AS A MODERATOR UNLESS EXPLICITLY STATED.

Re: Tryin' 30 May 2021 11:32 #369189

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cordnoy wrote on 28 May 2021 15:18:
Started out slowly, but then took off B"H!
  • Blue book - Dr's letter, loss of power of choice to drink, lust; there is a solution
  • White book - H.A.L.T.; addictive process - is our drug of choice "friend" or "foe"?
  • Action book - HW - I concede that I am completely incapable of handlin' lust, as manifested etc.
  • RAJT - One episode of physical abuse is once too many; denial will not make anythin' go away.


Godspeed to all!

This last line is not just for abuse, it applies to anything and everything (except for people, and even then...) including lust. If anything ignoring things allows for them to grow.

You mentioned this, but I thought it deserves a honorable mention.
Check out My Thread and The Truth

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Re: Tryin' 01 Jun 2021 15:08 #369310

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Good mornin'
Call schedule for the week God-willin'
Today Tuesday - 1:15 - Homework due
Thursday the 3rd - 10:30
Friday the 4th - 10:15
My email: thenewme613@hotmail.com
My threads:
GYE Handbook | Gibbor's Insights | GYE FAQ - Thanks Skep and DMS123456789 White Book | Big Book (Alcoholics Anonymous)

If one gives up at the first sign of a struggle, he is really not ready to be successful."
"Tryin' and doin' are two different thin's - tryin' is hopin'; doin' is succeedin'.
"The right thin' to do and the hard thin' to do are usually the same."


Disclaimer: I am not a cheerleader; B"H, there are many on the site. I am here to change myself, and with God's help, by some mistake, I might even help change others.

MY POSTS ARE NOT WRITTEN AS A MODERATOR UNLESS EXPLICITLY STATED.
Last Edit: 01 Jun 2021 15:55 by cordnoy.

Re: Tryin' 03 Jun 2021 13:08 #369404

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cordnoy wrote on 01 Jun 2021 15:08:
Good mornin'
Call schedule for the week God-willin'
Today Tuesday - 1:15 - Homework due
Thursday the 3rd - 10:30
Friday the 4th - 10:15

Good mornin'

Call 10:30 today

Tuesday we had one live share and several via email. Always room for more.

There's a call tomorrow as well.

Movin' along......
My email: thenewme613@hotmail.com
My threads:
GYE Handbook | Gibbor's Insights | GYE FAQ - Thanks Skep and DMS123456789 White Book | Big Book (Alcoholics Anonymous)

If one gives up at the first sign of a struggle, he is really not ready to be successful."
"Tryin' and doin' are two different thin's - tryin' is hopin'; doin' is succeedin'.
"The right thin' to do and the hard thin' to do are usually the same."


Disclaimer: I am not a cheerleader; B"H, there are many on the site. I am here to change myself, and with God's help, by some mistake, I might even help change others.

MY POSTS ARE NOT WRITTEN AS A MODERATOR UNLESS EXPLICITLY STATED.

Re: Tryin' 04 Jun 2021 14:10 #369453

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A gutten Erev Shabbos,

My apologies; I really wanted this to work.

There are several reasons why I'm thinkin' that it isn't, and I'm not sure which is primary:
  • Things happen at work, and a schedule and closin' the door is not always the solution.
  • I am not in the correct frame of mind.
  • I can't say because of participation, and I could say. There are 3,5,7 people involved, and that's more good than not.

Bottom line, as of now, I can't.

My hesitation, however, is that there are some fellows that are really takin' this seriously, and I respect that, I crave that personally, and I don't wanna mess up that progress.

Therefore, I'm completely switchin' the model, and this may not work for some. It's on you.

Either, email or call me when you're available, and we can do step work or shmuez or read from any book - providin' that I'm available.

Or, with some advance notice, send me an email or text what time you may be available that day, and I will respond accordingly.

Godspeed to all - I do wanna do my part, so please take advantage - this is not a burden; it's what I wanna do.

Thanks

A
My email: thenewme613@hotmail.com
My threads:
GYE Handbook | Gibbor's Insights | GYE FAQ - Thanks Skep and DMS123456789 White Book | Big Book (Alcoholics Anonymous)

If one gives up at the first sign of a struggle, he is really not ready to be successful."
"Tryin' and doin' are two different thin's - tryin' is hopin'; doin' is succeedin'.
"The right thin' to do and the hard thin' to do are usually the same."


Disclaimer: I am not a cheerleader; B"H, there are many on the site. I am here to change myself, and with God's help, by some mistake, I might even help change others.

MY POSTS ARE NOT WRITTEN AS A MODERATOR UNLESS EXPLICITLY STATED.
Last Edit: 04 Jun 2021 14:12 by cordnoy.

Re: Tryin' 04 Jun 2021 18:11 #369468

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Thanks. I might take you up on the offer. The phone calls were at hard times for me to participate.
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Re: Tryin' 04 Jun 2021 18:44 #369470

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cordnoy wrote on 04 Jun 2021 14:10:
A gutten Erev Shabbos,

My apologies; I really wanted this to work.

There are several reasons why I'm thinkin' that it isn't, and I'm not sure which is primary:
  • Things happen at work, and a schedule and closin' the door is not always the solution.
  • I am not in the correct frame of mind.
  • I can't say because of participation, and I could say. There are 3,5,7 people involved, and that's more good than not.

Bottom line, as of now, I can't.

My hesitation, however, is that there are some fellows that are really takin' this seriously, and I respect that, I crave that personally, and I don't wanna mess up that progress.

Therefore, I'm completely switchin' the model, and this may not work for some. It's on you.

Either, email or call me when you're available, and we can do step work or shmuez or read from any book - providin' that I'm available.

Or, with some advance notice, send me an email or text what time you may be available that day, and I will respond accordingly.

Godspeed to all - I do wanna do my part, so please take advantage - this is not a burden; it's what I wanna do.

Thanks

A

not a single "but" in here
Think about how good you'll feel if you say no to desire and compare that to how bad you'll feel if you say yes.

Desire is unique in the way that it is never fulfilled -  if you give in the desire comes back even more powerful in just a few days. Telling yourself that its ok because this is really the last time doesn't work because you are just adding new images to your head that will cause future falls.

The Joy of triumph over the yetzer hara is worth the effort it takes to win. It IS worth it! Keep fighting!


My thread: 
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Re: Tryin' 05 Jun 2021 19:20 #369480

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cordnoy wrote on 04 Jun 2021 14:10:
A gutten Erev Shabbos,

My apologies; I really wanted this to work.

There are several reasons why I'm thinkin' that it isn't, and I'm not sure which is primary:
  • Things happen at work, and a schedule and closin' the door is not always the solution.
  • I am not in the correct frame of mind.
  • I can't say because of participation, and I could say. There are 3,5,7 people involved, and that's more good than not.

Bottom line, as of now, I can't.

My hesitation, however, is that there are some fellows that are really takin' this seriously, and I respect that, I crave that personally, and I don't wanna mess up that progress.

Therefore, I'm completely switchin' the model, and this may not work for some. It's on you.

Either, email or call me when you're available, and we can do step work or shmuez or read from any book - providin' that I'm available.

Or, with some advance notice, send me an email or text what time you may be available that day, and I will respond accordingly.

Godspeed to all - I do wanna do my part, so please take advantage - this is not a burden; it's what I wanna do.

Thanks

A

Guess I haven't been prayin' enough. 

Unless I was and this is His part of His master plan.
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