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From a deep pit to a tall roof
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Re: From a deep pit to a tall roof 05 Jul 2013 20:01 #211360

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Sometimes I get intrusive thoughts / fantasies. I immediately surrender these to Hashem, asking Him to take my lust. It sounds like you're doing something similar.

I do the same thing when I get the urge to look at porn. This urge isn't always an outgrowth of less overt lusting. Sometimes it just hits me head-on. My approach is exactly the same -- surrender the urge to Hashem. Verbally.

Hatzlocha!

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Re: From a deep pit to a tall roof 05 Jul 2013 21:55 #211368

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Dr.Watson wrote:
I find myself either totally clean from all erotic material or falling fully...

My problem is that I get sudden overwhelming urges and go straight for the porn.

...if I made a taphsic on 'smaller' things I would end up breaking a lot of them and then the taphsic would become useless to me.


First you say that there are no little things... Then you say that if you made shvuas on the little things you'd keep breaking them.

I'm confused???
Last Edit: 05 Jul 2013 21:56 by gibbor120.

Re: From a deep pit to a tall roof 07 Jul 2013 03:22 #211385

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I don't find that the 'little things' are giving me the porn urges that make me fall.....

and if I make a neder on the 'little' things anyway, I'm more likely to end up breaking it.

For example, if I made a neder on watching 10 minutes of TV as Avrom did, I am more likely to end up breaking my neder, and for no gain because the urges I have fallen on didn't start from watching TV but came all of a sudden.

Re: From a deep pit to a tall roof 07 Jul 2013 16:08 #211408

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I think the ikkar is: What keeps you both clean and sober. If, for you, big things keep you sane, then go for that. If (like me) the small things work, then that's the way forward...
Life’s a mountain. You just gotta keep climbing…

Re: From a deep pit to a tall roof 07 Jul 2013 17:26 #211410

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I am subscribed to this topic and others, and I am not receiving emails that a new reply has been posted.

is anyone else experiencing this?

is there anything I can do about it?

thank you so much

you guys are the best!

im still truckin at 20 days now.
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If one gives up at the first sign of a struggle, he is really not ready to be successful."
"Tryin' and doin' are two different thin's - tryin' is hopin'; doin' is succeedin'.
"The right thin' to do and the hard thin' to do are usually the same."


Disclaimer: I am not a cheerleader; B"H, there are many on the site. I am here to change myself, and with God's help, by some mistake, I might even help change others.

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Re: From a deep pit to a tall roof 07 Jul 2013 17:34 #211411

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Try contacting eyes.guard@gmail.com

Re: From a deep pit to a tall roof 07 Jul 2013 19:10 #211414

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cordnoy wrote:

im still truckin at 20 days now.


really well done

Re: From a deep pit to a tall roof 07 Jul 2013 19:24 #211415

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not having a good morning though....opened two links and quickly closed them before they loaded
got the itch....
My email: thenewme613@hotmail.com
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GYE Handbook | Gibbor's Insights | GYE FAQ - Thanks Skep and DMS123456789 White Book | Big Book (Alcoholics Anonymous)

If one gives up at the first sign of a struggle, he is really not ready to be successful."
"Tryin' and doin' are two different thin's - tryin' is hopin'; doin' is succeedin'.
"The right thin' to do and the hard thin' to do are usually the same."


Disclaimer: I am not a cheerleader; B"H, there are many on the site. I am here to change myself, and with God's help, by some mistake, I might even help change others.

MY POSTS ARE NOT WRITTEN AS A MODERATOR UNLESS EXPLICITLY STATED.

Re: From a deep pit to a tall roof 07 Jul 2013 19:37 #211418

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someone gave me a good website to visit when I get the itch. I laughed when I saw the name but I actually find it quite helpful as I imagine myself at these places and feel the serenity there:

cabinporn.com/

Re: From a deep pit to a tall roof 07 Jul 2013 19:43 #211419

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what a name!
yes..nice pics (of cabins) there
we shall see
keep you posted
My email: thenewme613@hotmail.com
My threads:
GYE Handbook | Gibbor's Insights | GYE FAQ - Thanks Skep and DMS123456789 White Book | Big Book (Alcoholics Anonymous)

If one gives up at the first sign of a struggle, he is really not ready to be successful."
"Tryin' and doin' are two different thin's - tryin' is hopin'; doin' is succeedin'.
"The right thin' to do and the hard thin' to do are usually the same."


Disclaimer: I am not a cheerleader; B"H, there are many on the site. I am here to change myself, and with God's help, by some mistake, I might even help change others.

MY POSTS ARE NOT WRITTEN AS A MODERATOR UNLESS EXPLICITLY STATED.

Re: From a deep pit to a tall roof 07 Jul 2013 21:01 #211426

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cordnoy wrote:
I am subscribed to this topic and others, and I am not receiving emails that a new reply has been posted.

is anyone else experiencing this?

is there anything I can do about it?

thank you so much

you guys are the best!

im still truckin at 20 days now.


That's happening to me as well...
Life’s a mountain. You just gotta keep climbing…

Re: From a deep pit to a tall roof 07 Jul 2013 22:21 #211437

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What about "SMTP Error etc."? anyone having that issue?

sorry for the Hijack, Doc.
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Re: From a deep pit to a tall roof 07 Jul 2013 22:47 #211443

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yes, having both issues
like I posted elsewhere, guard told me hes working on it
My email: thenewme613@hotmail.com
My threads:
GYE Handbook | Gibbor's Insights | GYE FAQ - Thanks Skep and DMS123456789 White Book | Big Book (Alcoholics Anonymous)

If one gives up at the first sign of a struggle, he is really not ready to be successful."
"Tryin' and doin' are two different thin's - tryin' is hopin'; doin' is succeedin'.
"The right thin' to do and the hard thin' to do are usually the same."


Disclaimer: I am not a cheerleader; B"H, there are many on the site. I am here to change myself, and with God's help, by some mistake, I might even help change others.

MY POSTS ARE NOT WRITTEN AS A MODERATOR UNLESS EXPLICITLY STATED.

Re: From a deep pit to a tall roof 08 Jul 2013 22:37 #211533

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Dr.Watson wrote:
For example, if I made a neder on watching 10 minutes of TV as Avrom did, I am more likely to end up breaking my neder, and for no gain because the urges I have fallen on didn't start from watching TV but came all of a sudden.

Are you sure about that?

Re: From a deep pit to a tall roof 08 Jul 2013 23:57 #211551

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gibbor120 wrote:

Are you sure about that?


well I wasn't watching TV before it happened so I'm quite sure.

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