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Re: I'm about to FALL!! 13 Dec 2016 05:53 #299775

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WWhat should I do if I am on my computer all day for school and I generally don't have porn nagging me in the back of my head. But, I have ADHD and I end up having these attacks where I just want to look at something and I do for a half hour and then it goes away. I'm like addicted to random dopamine rushes. But I am having difficulty figuring out a way to deal with it as when I want to work on it I am not even feeling a tayva for porn.
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Re: I'm about to FALL!! 13 Dec 2016 08:51 #299782

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If you're in the clutches of the tayva, working on it won't help... it's too late.... I think the clean periods are really the time to do the hishtadlus. Then when the test happens, you've built up a strong reserve.

And for the computer issue. Can you take a laptop and go work in a park / coffee shop?
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Re: I'm about to FALL!! 13 Dec 2016 15:12 #299804

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Singularity wrote on 13 Dec 2016 08:51:
If you're in the clutches of the tayva, working on it won't help... it's too late.... I think the clean periods are really the time to do the hishtadlus. Then when the test happens, you've built up a strong reserve.

And for the computer issue. Can you take a laptop and go work in a park / coffee shop?

I never fall on my computer. I fall on my wife's computer and have fallen on my phone. I don't generally get a tayva to view pron just like that. I want to see something that is marginally innnapropriate and from there I get worse and worse. But my question is regarding what you said about building reserves. how would you do that and what do you mean?
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Re: I'm about to FALL!! 13 Dec 2016 16:48 #299821

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shua73 wrote on 13 Dec 2016 15:12:

Singularity wrote on 13 Dec 2016 08:51:
If you're in the clutches of the tayva, working on it won't help... it's too late.... I think the clean periods are really the time to do the hishtadlus. Then when the test happens, you've built up a strong reserve.

And for the computer issue. Can you take a laptop and go work in a park / coffee shop?

I never fall on my computer. I fall on my wife's computer and have fallen on my phone. I don't generally get a tayva to view pron just like that. I want to see something that is marginally innnapropriate and from there I get worse and worse. But my question is regarding what you said about building reserves. how would you do that and what do you mean?

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Re: I'm about to FALL!! 14 Dec 2016 09:35 #299893

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cordnoy wrote on 13 Dec 2016 16:48:

shua73 wrote on 13 Dec 2016 15:12:

Singularity wrote on 13 Dec 2016 08:51:
If you're in the clutches of the tayva, working on it won't help... it's too late.... I think the clean periods are really the time to do the hishtadlus. Then when the test happens, you've built up a strong reserve.

And for the computer issue. Can you take a laptop and go work in a park / coffee shop?

I never fall on my computer. I fall on my wife's computer and have fallen on my phone. I don't generally get a tayva to view pron just like that. I want to see something that is marginally innnapropriate and from there I get worse and worse. But my question is regarding what you said about building reserves. how would you do that and what do you mean?

Work on bettering yourself.

R' Shimshon Pincus explains it's reality to have ups and downs. But the chiddush is the down period begins at the peak of the up period, because we believe all is good and therefore no need to ask Hashem for stuff. So if, in the up periods, our mentality is still that of asking for more, being better, etc, like cordnoy said, then that "up" will be a new "down" and you won't have to go lower, only higher.
It heavily reduces the real down periods, the urges, etc. Good things can last. We have it in our minds it must come crashing down at some point.
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Re: I'm about to FALL!! 14 Dec 2016 14:24 #299912

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Sing' please see here for my response



In essence that's the point of this thread

We are all "about to fall". It's inevitable. Unless we keep climbing the mountain and try keep a few feet away from the cliff.
The only way I see most of us accomplishing that is if we hold together with calls / text / email / meetings etc
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Re: I'm about to FALL!! 14 Dec 2016 14:35 #299914

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Markz wrote on 14 Dec 2016 14:24:
Sing' here's my response which in essence is the point of this thread

We are all "about to fall". It's inevitable. Unless we keep climbing the mountain and try keep a few feet away from the cliff.
The only way I see most of us accomplishing that is if we hold together with calls / text / email / meetings etc 

But when we fall, we fall into God's hands.
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Re: I'm about to FALL!! 14 Dec 2016 21:59 #299945

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Although most of my life I lived with the concept that there is השגחה פרטית for all of us, lately, my thoughts have been that we need to deserve it. We must enter the inner circle of the doers, not the helpers. Helpers can be easily replaced.

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Re: I'm about to FALL!! 15 Dec 2016 09:39 #299991

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cordnoy wrote on 14 Dec 2016 21:59:
Although most of my life I lived with the concept that there is השגחה פרטית for all of us, lately, my thoughts have been that we need to deserve it. We must enter the inner circle of the doers, not the helpers. Helpers can be easily replaced.

יהי רצון......

True. I mean, if a person never changes, it's Assur to have rachamim for him, no? So why would Hashem?
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Re: I'm about to FALL!! 15 Dec 2016 19:36 #300035

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Singularity wrote on 15 Dec 2016 09:39:

cordnoy wrote on 14 Dec 2016 21:59:
Although most of my life I lived with the concept that there is השגחה פרטית for all of us, lately, my thoughts have been that we need to deserve it. We must enter the inner circle of the doers, not the helpers. Helpers can be easily replaced.

יהי רצון......

True. I mean, if a person never changes, it's Assur to have rachamim for him, no? So why would Hashem?

That's only said on a shoteh, and even there, I don't know what it means.

RegardlessI, I don't understand your comparison. God doesn't abide by our rules (Although there are maamarei chazal which say that He observed Shabbos); they are His rules.
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Re: Im about to FALL!! 30 Dec 2016 05:41 #301598

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Re: Im about to FALL!! 30 Dec 2016 05:54 #301599

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Re: Im about to FALL!! 30 Dec 2016 06:02 #301600

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I have been doing bh pretty good but now my wife got her period and the urge to masturbate is overwhelming. HELP
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Re: Im about to FALL!! 30 Dec 2016 09:14 #301603

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First of all DO NOT enter in a a nissaion. Don't use any electronic device without a proper filter, and don't touch in any place near your bris milah. And when you feel that is to hard to continue struggling
, go for a walk or listen classic music, maybe you can relax a bit.

I know that you can win this battle.Don't give up, you're a nice person.

Re: Im about to FALL!! 30 Dec 2016 14:41 #301638

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You know something I'm learning? The urge will pass. If you focus on it, it won't necessarily. But not every time that you're hungry do you go running out to get a bite- you just put it off for later.

Your wife will be back, and tell me-don't you want to feel like you're focusing your sexual desires on her? Think about how much better you feel when you're with your wife knowing that you don't use other outlets or haven't recently.

All that I said often doesn't work, but it sometimes does. Right now a big deterrent for madturbation for me is that I can actually feel beforehand how bad it will feel after, so it's not worth it. Doesn't mean I won't tomorrow, but right now I won't because of that reason.
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