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Re: I'm about to FALL!! 29 Jan 2016 08:54 #275922

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someone please help me.. I can't fall asleep..
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Re: I'm about to FALL!! 29 Jan 2016 10:40 #275925

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`Chaim wrote on 29 Jan 2016 08:54:
someone please help me.. I can't fall asleep..


Sorry that there were no replies.
I do hope you did in fact fall asleep.
Perhaps start your own thread explaining your specific issue. People will identify more there.
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Re: I'm about to FALL!! 02 Feb 2016 14:53 #276325

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could it be that you think of your kallah as a sex object? it could be hard not to.
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Re: I'm about to FALL!! 02 Feb 2016 15:05 #276326

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Welcome dovb.
You seem to have had a lot of success here.
Care to share with us what worked for you?
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Re: I'm about to FALL!! 02 Feb 2016 15:36 #276328

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buildingarainbow wrote on 19 Jan 2016 23:58:
I NEED HELP ADDICTED TO DRUGS AND SEX!


Haven't heard from you for a while. How are you doing? You ok, or need to talk?

Re: I'm about to FALL!! 02 Feb 2016 15:40 #276329

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`Chaim wrote on 29 Jan 2016 05:07:
Mind not clear right now but will try to write..

I got past 90 days but I think because I got engaged.

I fell once after that

I need guidance for how to deal with this at the stage of life I am at now

I have a Iphone and very frustrating trying to get it restricted with out me being able to get the password and also keep finding ways around the restrictions.

My phone needed updates and today I made the restrictions a little more lax after bringing phone to person with password.

I got sucked into the excitement of trying to get around the newly laxed restrictions and was successful.

I feel extremely triggered and can't think. What has gotten into me?? What type of sicko gets off the phone with his Kalla and has to deal with this now?? I can't fall!! it will kill me

Is it possible to have a smartphone? I just need whatsapp... this is giving me too much stress.

I am a Chosson. I was clean for a month and a half before I even started dating. A true success. But after that I think only because dated and engaged to first girl. Am I a sicko? I need to deal with this before marriage..

Sorry for random thoughts but I read this is the thread for emergencies and I am about to fall and I feel if I do I will fall hard this time and this is not the time to do so. Can't think clearly either.


Sicko? I think not. There's a famous story with one of the Chassidishe Rebbes who had a chasid who came to him. The chasid said "Rebbe, I think my son has lost my mind. He is dancing with shiksas and eating pig!" The Rebbe said "He didn't lose his mind at all. If he was dancing with pigs and eating shiksas, THEN he lost his mind!"

It is so simple to protect your IPhone if you want to. But of course, someone else will have the password. I'm pretty sure that TAG might be able to hold the password for you. If you want information on how to secure your iPhone, Send me a private message.

Re: I'm about to FALL!! 02 Feb 2016 15:47 #276330

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Baruch Hashem i found GYE soon after i began to fall. Reading posts and tips helped me pull through so far. Thanks!

Re: I'm about to FALL!! 02 Feb 2016 23:15 #276386

Workingguy wrote on 02 Feb 2016 15:36:
buildingarainbow wrote on 19 Jan 2016 23:58:
I NEED HELP ADDICTED TO DRUGS AND SEX!


Haven't heard from you for a while. How are you doing? You ok, or need to talk?


I have ben using the taphsic method and reading the handbook and has been helping me so far....!!! thanks for asking about me!
I know what your thinking, what does recovery have to do with a rainbow?

Life is like a rainbow it has its ups and downs, its brights and darks. but you will always reach the pot of gold at the end. In order to build your wonderful rainbow of life you need to study a rainbow and take the lessons it provides.

Each color, starting from the bottom, is neat and carefully placed right next to the other. When all stacked and suspended in mid air you have a gorgeous rainbow. The colors are our accomplishments, if you want to grow you need to focus on one color at a time. Start with the bottom and put all your focus and energy into one struggle. One area at a time. Once you painted one color make another until you slowly build a breath taking rainbow. What happens when we try to paint the green blue red orange all at once? A mess. Small steps in ONE AREA and then solidify and keep going.

If your on this website you struggle in the area of "kedusha". The holy books refer to this issue as Midas Hayesod, the foundation of everything, the foundation of your life, the foundation of your rainbow. The first color to paint. Focus all your energy on this battle, don't worry about your other issues, you'll get there, now we are focusing on our very yesod, our foundation. When God finished destroying the generation of the Mabul, who sinned severely in shemirat habrit and promiscuous behavior, he put up a rainbow. I think the message is clear: if you want to grow and overcome this challenge of Taavat Nashim, look at the rainbow my people, one color at a time..

Re: I'm about to FALL!! 02 Feb 2016 23:34 #276389

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My Beautiful Rainbow wrote on 02 Feb 2016 23:15:
Workingguy wrote on 02 Feb 2016 15:36:
buildingarainbow wrote on 19 Jan 2016 23:58:
I NEED HELP ADDICTED TO DRUGS AND SEX!


Haven't heard from you for a while. How are you doing? You ok, or need to talk?


I have ben using the taphsic method and reading the handbook and has been helping me so far....!!! thanks for asking about me!


Great! Keep it up; we're cheering for you!

Re: I'm about to FALL!! 05 Feb 2016 06:00 #276770

Anyone here? 

I could use some help

Re: I'm about to FALL!! 05 Feb 2016 06:15 #276771

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Helpmrstop22 wrote:
Anyone here? 

I could use some help



Hi I can try help as much as Im capable / culpable

Hows Mrs Top been doing the past few months?
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Re: I'm about to FALL!! 25 Feb 2016 12:42 #279218

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Maybe this thread should be renamed the "help i have the urge to act out" thread .....calling it a "fall" sorta distorts tbe minds perception ....while we all want to be "90 days" or "× days" or whatever ....but as far as i know anyone who i have spoken to who has delved into the 12 steps and remained "clean" speaks of "acting out" as a way of understanding our true nature in these problems ....something to consider

Re: I'm about to FALL!! 29 Feb 2016 08:17 #279630

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Hello,
The last night was very difficult, and I slept only 3 hours... I managed to stay clean but the day that is beginning makes me afraid ! I have a good Taphsic, filters, but I am very tired, the fall seems so marvellous (even if I know that is illusion and despair clearly as I know that the sun is yellow), and I feel that everything can happen now :/




 

Re: I'm about to FALL!! 29 Feb 2016 10:11 #279633

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On April 28 2015 - David26fr wrote:
Hello all,

I have reached the 90 days since two days

But I have a big big attack of lust since, and it is very difficult to resist.
15 minutes ago, I was beginning to search for some lust on the Internet, and my head was out of control... But I remembered of my Tapshic neder !
One of my conditions was to go outside for 10 minutes.

I did so, and the cold time outside refreshed me, and the desire began to go down... Phew !

I am running to GYE and I pray that I can stay sober... only for the next hour




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Re: I'm about to FALL!! 06 Mar 2016 23:38 #280505

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