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90,000 Reasons To Say NO to acting out.... in 20 words or less
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Re: 90,000 Reasons To Say NO to acting out.... in 20 words or less 28 Feb 2013 17:46 #202855

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JustKeepGoing wrote:
I have a mehalech for this question.

Dont say "NO" to acting out. Because that means your getting involved in a conversation with your desires. Battle etc. Rather Ignore him and refocus your attention on something more productive.

ehh?? eh??? how 'bout 'dem apples?

surrender it to g-d
avrohom

Re: 90,000 Reasons To Say NO to acting out.... in 20 words or less 16 Apr 2013 21:58 #205229

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Because if we act out, every time someone tells us we will lose our connection to Hashem, we will care less and less
My real name is Adam

Re: 90,000 Reasons To Say NO to acting out.... in 20 words or less 16 Apr 2013 22:00 #205230

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And the more we act out, the less we care and the more work we have to do to learn how to care gain, and the less motivation we have to do all that work so we can care again!!!
My real name is Adam

Re: 90,000 Reasons To Say NO to acting out.... in 20 words or less 16 Apr 2013 22:02 #205231

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The more we act out, the more spirituality sounds like something from The Lord,of the rings, than it being the most real reality that exist.
My real name is Adam

Re: 90,000 Reasons To Say NO to acting out.... in 20 words or less 16 Apr 2013 22:06 #205233

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Hashem will do anything to get us to be the best we can be,

The more we act out, the harder Hashem will have to shake us to get clean (chas vi shalom, no one should have to go through anything worse than we have to to get clean, let's just all stop what we are doing and GET CLEAN!!!)
My real name is Adam
Last Edit: 16 Apr 2013 22:11 by afreshstart39. Reason: Clarity

Re: 90,000 Reasons To Say NO to acting out.... in 20 words or less 16 Apr 2013 23:42 #205256

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lord of the rings IS real reality.afreshstart39 wrote:
The more we act out, the more spirituality sounds like something from The Lord,of the rings, than it being the most real reality that exist.

Re: 90,000 Reasons To Say NO to acting out.... in 20 words or less 17 Apr 2013 17:26 #205324

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Ha! I wish!
My real name is Adam

Re: 90,000 Reasons To Say NO to acting out.... in 20 words or less 18 Apr 2013 03:00 #205397

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I think it's because we don't actually want it.

We want the fantasy, but we really don't want the fantasy to become a reality, because we all know that lifestyle produces extreme unhappiness.

So why live in a fantasy of an unhappy reality?

Btw, who wants Lord of the Rings to be reality? I like my reality much better!

Re: 90,000 Reasons To Say NO to acting out.... in 20 words or less 19 Apr 2013 00:02 #205497

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Anyone want a face-off/fun competition/just a friendly melee/argument....fun thing....on LOTR trivia? I have the books pretty down-like, sorta.

(OK, so it has nothing to do w/not acting out for 90,000 reasons, but it's fun!)
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"The heart needs to be broken when will-power is not enough"
"Get off the 18-Wheeler and onto a tricycle!"
"The heck with me, what can I do for you?"
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Re: 90,000 Reasons To Say NO to acting out.... in 20 words or less 19 Apr 2013 00:18 #205501

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... and it will probably keep you sober longer than thinking about 90,000 reasons not to act out .
Last Edit: 19 Apr 2013 00:19 by gibbor120.

Re: 90,000 Reasons To Say NO to acting out.... in 20 words or less 22 Apr 2013 22:08 #205754

Imagine you were given 70 more years to live on the average life span. Wow! You gained 70 years!!!
What would you do with that time. If your answer to that question is to continue not to guard your eyes, then you've just answered another question: " Why should I stop doing this?"
Complete waste of time, pointless to live another 70 years or another 500 years.

And if you've decided to Guard your eyes then here is the best way to succeed:

"Seriously study Torah 2 hours a day" no excuses. (I heard this advice given to a working fellow by a well-known Rabbi)

Re: 90,000 Reasons To Say NO to acting out.... in 20 words or less 23 Apr 2013 20:50 #205810

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Re: 90,000 Reasons To Say NO to acting out.... in 20 words or less 23 Jun 2013 10:33 #210034

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Feeling in control of oneself can go a long way

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Re: 90,000 Reasons To Say NO to acting out.... in 20 words or less 14 Jul 2013 18:08 #212101

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we have 2 options. 1)to feel good now by acting out on our lust and 2) to feel bad now for holding off. with regard to control; if we use option 1 we will feel good now but feel bad later and there is no way to stop feeling bad, it will just have to pass. if we use option 2 then we have the power to chose when we want to feel good. so we are more in control with option 2.

Re: 90,000 Reasons To Say NO to acting out.... in 20 words or less 18 Jul 2013 13:43 #212546

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