From the Trenches
I was at a wedding last night and there was lots of stuff to look at, the cake, the miniatures, the bar, the choir, oh, and the women.
I practiced. Closed my eyes, took some deep breaths and whispered gam zeh ya'avor ("this too, shall pass"). And eventually, they all did.
I really wanted to make sure everything was okay with the kallah in case her dress wasn't fitting properly, or her hair was a little off, it's obviously very important for me to know. Is she wearing heals? Is she wearing a full veil or one of those see through ones? does she look like her mother? Sisters? Maybe friends? All very important stuff...
I closed my eyes, pretended that I was davening for the new chassan and kallah but really I was just whispering, "Hashem, please keep my eyes closed. Nothing will happen if I don't find out all of those important things."
(I really was curious though, so I asked my wife afterwards what everyone was wearing. "Royalty" she said, "everything custom". Good to know).
Thank G-d for not taking a second look.