Dov Answers

Someone asks: I know that the first thing that will get me out of this is wanting to. And I just don't want to badly enough. I'm so furious at myself. Why don't I want to recover?? What's wrong with me? Dov Responds: Boruch Hashem I am sober today, a fact that is more i...

Someone on the forum asks: Dear Dov, you often say, "You are thinking way too much, stop it". First of all, I think this is a very dangerous statement, in and of itself. Second, generally our emotions are controlled by our thinking, if we like it or not, so you may as wel...

How can I go to these SA groups when most of the guys there are thinking of their higher power as Yushka? Let's say there were people who believed god was a 12 foot purple bunny that can do magic, turn cool aid into whiskey and walk on water, would that work as their "Hig...

"SouthafricanJEW" (a Bochur) writes to Dov: I can't stop masturbating completely, so I'm using a gradual approach. For now I chose "no masturbation days" so I can start cutting down. I feel a deep desire and longing for the day when I am strong enough for every day to be ...

Someone asks: My only issues are masturbation and pornography. I never acted out live. Should I join an SA group? Dov Responds: "The only requirement for membership is a sincere desire to stop lusting" - White Book, page something-or-other (amud beis) The question I'd ask...

Someone wrote: Bh I'm still clean, but I don't feel clean. I have practically not been nichshal in two weeks, even in shmiras haynayim. Of the hundreds of opportunities to look and see things in the street, I only sneaked a peak five times in two weeks. Amazing, but I sti...

"Struggling&StrivingBT" writes: So, like all, becoming a Bal Teshuvah has by no means been easy, and I'm by no means there yet. One of the hardest parts has been in the area of "self gratification". While intellectually, I understand what is so bad about wasting seed,...