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Eitzos for Shmiras Einayim

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Rabbi Daniel Coren shares two powerful tips on how to keep strong in these areas.

 
Please Help

One of the girls on our women's forum is struggling and is in dire need of funds for some serious rehab. She spent all of her savings on therapy until now, which has just brought up the memories of abuse and hasn't helped.

If you can join or pass on the link, it would be a big Mitzva.

thechesedfund.com/pleasesaveme


While we're on the topic of helping others, there's a bochur who has repeatedly reached out to us to find a sponsor for a filter for his two devices because his parents won't pay for it. If you'd like to help him, please be in touch with us at eyes.guard@gmail.com. Tizke Lemitzvos!


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Audio of the Day





lub2The Lubavitcher Rebbe says in this short audio clip below (in Yiddish), that when a person makes a neder for a mitzvah, Hashem gives them the strength to fulfill their neder, even if at the time they make the neder they don’t see any way they can physically fulfill it.

Vows are a fence for abstinence

We learned in this week's Pirkei Avos: נדרים סייג לפרישות - Vows are a fence for abstinence. But vows are like fire and should not be "played with" unless one is very careful not to make a vow that he may not keep. To help us do this in the safest way possible, GYE has developed the TaPHSiC method. TaPHSiC stands for “The Physical & Spiritual Combo” Method. To learn how it works, click here.

 

Personal Stories





Get the Message! By Anonymous

I wanted to just share this...

Recently, a fellow that I know from many years back was arrested for some deviant behavior in the realm of z'nus. Here was a guy just about my age and on the surface seemed to have had it all. A great job, beautiful family, prominence in the community where he lived, well-liked by all etc. Maybe even I could say he is the kind of guy people like me would look at, reflect upon my own life and feel like a loser when comparing myself to him. And then....the arrest. I can only imagine how much pain he has caused his family, ruined his career, his name and basically dumped his whole life into the toilet.

What shook me up was when I started to think about how such a thing could happen. He was driven by a yetzer harah. Granted, it may be that the yetzer harah that attacked him attacks me in different ways, but not that much different. I don't know how many battles with his yetzer he won or how many he lost, but I do know that he lost just one too many. Because of that he turned his life upside down and the lives of all those around him.

So what are the big differences between me and him? We both went to the same yeshivas, hung out with the same guys and eventually battled the same yetzer, albeit on different fronts. The only differences are:

  1. The rest of the world acknowledges his behavior as deviant while mine is considered "normal". However, both are prohibited by the same G-D Who wants us to lead a moral and pure life.
  1. He got caught.

We tend to think that we have a good idea of what a registered s-x offender looks like. Some creepy guy who lives in a hole in the ground and that as soon as you see him you know that this fellow is "off". That picture may hold true until you discover that it could also be someone that on the surface is not that much different than you; or better.

My purpose in writing this is not to condone or minimize his behavior. Rather it is to recognize it as a wake-up call to me and those like me. When a teacher in the classroom reprimands a child who is misbehaving, the kid next to him who was doing the same thing had better get the message.

No, I will not get arrested for the stuff I do in private. But I hope I get the message before its too late.

 
Frum Interactive Therapeutic Platform

altThere is an unspoken side effect of the coronavirus and that is what it does to our psychological and emotional wellbeing. Regular life struggles are typically managed well, and with the status quo we are okay. However, during the current climate of COVID-19 and social distancing, things have changed. Pain, grief, anxiety, loneliness, depression and more have risen their heads and are tormenting people all over the globe. Familial discord, personal isolation, and financial loss are causing people raw hurt. The word Coronavirus itself triggers anxiety for many. Countless people are up at night haunted with worthlessness and fearing the onset of clinical depression.

In isolation, it is easy to feel forgotten; to give up and despair. However, there is truly no need to suffer alone. Hope exists and it is here. While we all have our personal demons, don’t forget we also have each other.

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