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Shvuos 5779 - The Seductive Beauty of Torah
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The Seductive Beauty of Hashem's Torah

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Eliyahu wrote:

I recognized from the push of this campaign for myself that even when going to Fox News or websites that shouldn’t be such an issue in regards to your eyes, it has become a tremendous issue! The scary thing is you don’t even realize it, but all it takes is one article about something inappropriate in the midst of nonsense news to be trapped. The next thing you know you are looking at an inappropriate Instagram and now you have already stained your eyes, and it can quickly lead to a downward spin out of control... All this for going on a website we would think is harmless. So I want to give my thanks to GYE to bringing to my attention that even seemingly harmless non-Jewish news websites can lead to destruction.


Anna wrote:

"After reading all the feedback and encouraging words from other participants, I want to add my 2 cents, as well. I am a female, a baalat tshuva, and I find your emails and video clips to be about so much more than just lust - they inspire me to be a better Jew, reminding me that it all comes down to accessing and accentuating the Divine, Kadosh part inside of us, not giving reign to the animalistic one, be it inappropriate physical desires, non-tzniyus sites, or just materialistic pursuits. We are bombarded daily with such nonsense and garbage, which is not the true reality and does not belong in Jew's holy neshama. We can look away, look down, look up (to Hashem), but we don't have to let yetzer hara win! GYE's whole overarching message is how to be a better Jew, period. I am reminded about who is the real Boss I need to impress, and why we need to differentiate ourselves from other nations and serve as a role model to elevate the physical. This wonderful free service gives me so much rich and wholesome food for thought and empowers me to fight temptation.

Tehillim, Psalm 90:10 - "The length of our days is 70 years, 80 if we are healthy..." Let us listen to Dovid HaMelech! Our lives are a tiny dot in the big perspective; let us not fill this precious time with silly/ destructive nonsense! May we see Moshiach in our days.

-Chana

P.S. I am inspired (and simultaneously humbled) by all of you who have commented and accepted the challenge, as well. Thank you.


Reuven wrote:

I accept bl"n to stay off You tube. Instagram, Facebook and Fox news for 30 days. This is my own personal kabbolas ha torah. Thanks for your wonderful website!


Luis wrote:

Thank you for this timely challenge for our generation. We indeed are most threatened to our innermost being and Neshamah more than ever before, but Hashem provides a way out and Chizuk like you all at GYE. Thank you!


Daniel wrote:

Thank you helping me realize that even some of my more "benign" activities are problematic and eschewing them can be a catalyst for greater growth.

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The Seductive Beauty of Hashem's Torah
כי טובים דדיך מיין
By GYE

A question we received:

When I was young I watched lots of bad things. Later, I became frum and got over the whole thing and married a very nice frum girl and we have a great marriage. But a couple of years after I was married it started to bother me that she was flat-chested and I was remembering all the garbage I used to see and it bothered me. I then started to gaze at other women and started craving it, and that's how I fell back in. I am determined to fix myself and not turn back, but it's so hard not to look at other women. I love my wife and she is very pretty besides for that one thing. I want to stop looking at other women. Let me know what you suggest.


GYE Replies:

Dear friend,

Lust is all a bubble of hot air that quickly bursts. Think about what these body parts really are; packs of skin filled with blood and veins. They are instruments designed by the Creator for feeding babies, like the breasts of a cat or goat or cow... Even if we had it all, we'd feel no better after the act. All the lust goes up in smoke like a balloon that pops in our face.

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Most people marry a good looking girl, only to have their wives become over-weight through pregnancy within a year or two... Do we have the right to feel gypped? We need to learn to "grow up" and learn what true love and connection are all about.

Shmiras Aimayim is truly a difficult achievement in today's world. But more than just forcing ourselves "not to look" all the time, we need a change in attitude.

We can learn many techniques, tools and good perspective in our handbook, which can be downloaded on our website (here).

Even if we had everything we could possibly imagine we wanted in our wives, we would still desire other women. As the Pasuk says in Mishlei (9:17): מַיִם גְּנוּבִים יִמְתָּקוּ וְלֶחֶם סְתָרִים יִנְעָם - "Stolen water is sweet and hidden bread is pleasurable".

We will always want that which is hidden, forbidden and not ours...

So how do we channel this pull for the hidden, seductive nature of these desires?

The truth is that our souls are really yearning for Hashem. He is the source of all beauty, pleasure and love. But our animal instincts misinterpret the signals and make us think that women and their body parts are what we really want... Hashem is seductively beautiful and hidden, and He is wanting and waiting for us to reveal Him in the world. As Dovid Hamelech wrote in Tehillim (51:8) הֵן-אֱמֶת חָפַצְתָּ בַטֻּחוֹת; וּבְסָתֻם חָכְמָה תוֹדִיעֵנִי - "Behold you desire truth in the concealed parts; make me know wisdom in the hidden."

On Shavuos there was a wedding, and the Yidden became forever wed with Hakadosh Baruch Hu through the beautiful Torah, which is allegoricly called (Mishlei 5:19) אַיֶּלֶת אֲהָבִים וְיַעֲלַת חֵן - "A lovely hind and a graceful doe". And it says דַּדֶּיהָ יְרַוֻּךָ בְכָל עֵת בְּאַהֲבָתָהּ תִּשְׁגֶּה תָמִיד - "Let her breasts satisfy you at all times; with her love you shall be ravished always".

The two Luchos that we received are compared to breasts in Shir Hashirim (Shnei Shadayich, see Rashi, Perek 4 Pasuk 5). If we immerse ourselves in Hashem's Torah, we will find much more than we "imagined" that we seek body parts of flesh and blood. Hashem gave us the Torah so that we can have a real relationship with Him, which is the greatest pleasure that can ever be reached, even in this world!

This Shavuos, let us try and feel the tremendous love that Hashem showed us by revealing to us his most private and intimate self through His Torah, as the Gemara says (Shabbos 105a): The word "Anochi", the first word of the Aseres Hadibros, stands for אנא נפשי כתבית יהבית - "I, My Soul, Have Written and Given to you".

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