E-Mail Subject: By His Love and His Help, you can do anything.
 
 
  Breaking Free Chizuk #1901  
 
 
In Today's Issue
   
Image of the Day: You ARE worthy of love
Testimonials: By His Help Alone
Videos: A Strong Will Overcomes Everything
Announcements: The First PA 12-Step Phone Conference
Chizuk: Hashem is King!
Text: the.guard (Yaakov)'s views on Homosexuality (in a nutshell):
 
 
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Image of the Day
 
You ARE worthy of love
 
You ARE worthy of love
Testimonials
 
By His Help Alone
 
By GYE Member

90 days free of porn watching has arrived. No sense of pride at all, just a deep sense of thanks to GYE for not rejecting me and an infinitely deeper sense of thanks to Ribono shel Olom that there is a way out. HaBo LeTaher Mesayin Lo - since joining GYE, I have often thought that HaBo is the important word - it doesn't say HoRotzeh LeTaher - it is not enough just to want to be clean, we have to do something, show we want to be better. In our case we have all joined GYE, we have made the move, and in return, Ribono shel Olom has given and is giving us the help that only He can. It is the first time in 5 years I have stayed off porn for 90 days. It hurts to write this sentence, to recall the constant sense of shame and self-revulsion at davening the next morning, the fear that my wife or kids would find out - you know it all.

But here we are, all helping to bear each others load, all suffering and rejoicing with each other through the bad times and the good, and that is why GYE is such a wonderful organization with such wonderful people who write such wonderful comforting things which help to drag us up from the rubbish heap. We are all in this together. I feel now that till I joined GYE, I was walking along the edge of a cliff - and constantly falling over the edge. Now there is somebody on my other side, who is stopping me from falling and who I know will catch me if I do. The struggle has not abated, but it has become more manageable. Till now, once the lust had me in its grip, there was nothing I could do - totally helpless to keep away from the screen. I sickened myself - and yet I went ahead watching, powerless to stop. All the while outwardly keeping up appearances...

Now, I think of you guys struggling like me, I think of my GYE homepage and clicking the number of days 'still clean' - and I think I can't just give in and go back to where I was - in the gutter - and somehow I have the strength for that minute not to click the mouse!

May HaShem help ALL OF US in our daily struggle!

Videos
 

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A Strong Will Overcomes Everything
Announcements
 
 
The First PA 12-Step Phone Conference
 
Chizuk
 

In honor of Chodesh Elul, when "the King is in the field" - as the chasidic saying goes - we bring you this lovely tidbit from one of our members.

 
Hashem is King!
 
By GYE Member

Something happened yesterday that got me really down. Today, I listened to a shiur I heard by Rabbi Sassoon on surrendering your will to Hashem. If you always want things in life to go your way, you will always be miserable and depressed.

Hashem is the King. If He allowed it to happen, it means it was His Will. End of story. Therefore it was for the best.

There are always moments in life where things don't seem to go your way. This is rooted in a self-centred outlook. An outlook where you think you know what's best for you.

My little brain has no idea why what happened is the best for me. But of course the Brain of Infinite Wisdom knows - and if He would tell me why, it would ruin my chance to grow closer to Him as it wouldn't be a test.

Hashem put me in this situation for a purpose, because He wants me to have 5th level pleasure! The pleasure of being a partner with the Ultimate Pleasure.

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the.guard (Yaakov)'s views on Homosexuality (in a nutshell):
 
Do you think you may have a porn addiction?
 

Do you have a problem with obsessive and compulsive porn use? Have you seriously tried the tools on GYE and feel that you are not getting better? Maybe it’s time to consider joining a 12-Step program.

Porn Anonymous (PA)
If you’re compulsively acting-out with pornography and masturbation we suggest you explore joining Porn Anonymous (PA). If you need help deciding whether to join PA, call Michael at 347-699-2368, or email help@pornanonymous.org to schedule a time to talk. For more information visit pornanonymous.org (Hebrew: p-a.org.il / Yiddish: pa-yid.org).

Sexaholics Anonymous (SA)
If your compulsive acting-out has progressed beyond the screen (with other people, paid sexual services, etc.) we suggest you explore joining Sexaholics Anonymous (SA). To figure out if SA is for you, call Dov at 917-414-8205, or email Dov at dov@guardyoureyes.org to schedule a time to talk. For more information visit www.sa.org.

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