Safe Harbor
  Breaking Free Chizuk #1886  
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12 Step Attitude: The Ship in the Harbor
Image of the Day: Don't get stuck in the safe harbor
Prevention: Porn and Human Trafficking
Text: The Myth of the “Normal” Childhood: Why Are You a Sex Addict?
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12 Step Attitude
The Ship in the Harbor
By Techeiles-Mordechai

There's a saying that "A ship in harbor is safe, but that's not what it was built for."

Us addicts may feel safe and in control of our own happiness while using our lust, even playing G-d a little bit at times by trying to control our lives' outcomes. But realizing that simply makes us into "ships in the harbor", and that our real tafkid is not to be safe against the dock, but rather to be riding the waves of life with Hashem's guidance and care. Hashem built each and every one of us with exactly the right measurements, proportions, and calculations to overcome each ripple in the water, enormous, big, small, or minuscule, and if we just "play it safe" without leaving the docks of our lust, then all we are doing is becoming a show, a museum, a thing for people to look at with passing amusement before moving on to something more real.

R' Shmuel Sheinberg ZT"L (brother of R' Chaim Pinchas ZT"L) used to say that the reason why we make bris milahs and levayas into such large affairs, is because they are comparable to ships leaving harbor and coming back into harbor. When a ship leaves on its maiden voyage, it leaves with much pomp and circumstance. When it returns safely to harbor, it is greeted back with similar celebration. The same is true with human life. A person is sent off into the ocean of the world with a party, with a farewell of "k'sheim she'nichnas l'bris, kain yikanes l'torah, l'chuppah, u'l'maaysim tovim." When that person "returns to port", he is also greeted by members of his family and friends who loved him and respected him, and is brought back to his place of origin amidst words of remembrance of his great deeds and accomplishments during his voyage.

May we be zoche to successfully leave the harbors of lust that we have fooled ourselves into thinking create safeties for us, and sail out proudly into the sea of real life, of living with the ultimate security that Hashem is constantly guiding and guarding us through every wave and ripple (not to mention that he creates the waves for us because He knows we can handle them).

Image of the Day
Don't get stuck in the safe harbor
Don't get stuck in the safe harbor

Someone sent us this great site which can help keep you and the kids occupied, yet safe from harmful content. is just a Google drive full of kosher videos, documentaries, clips and kids movies, all vetted not to contain any triggering scenes or images.

As this site is a community effort, we encourage anyone who may have collections of clips, documentaries and kosher videos, to share them with the community by getting in touch with

Porn and Human Trafficking


Trafficking in Persons and Worker Exploitation Task Force at 1-888-428-7581

National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE

National Sexual Assault Hotline at 1-800-656-HOPE

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The Myth of the “Normal” Childhood: Why Are You a Sex Addict?
By Linda Hatch, PhD

It is not unusual for sex addicts to ask “How did I get this way? I had such an ordinary childhood.”

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Do you think you may have a porn addiction?

Do you have a problem with obsessive and compulsive porn use? Have you seriously tried the tools on GYE and feel that you are not getting better? Maybe it’s time to consider joining a 12-Step program.

Porn Anonymous (PA)
If you’re compulsively acting-out with pornography and masturbation we suggest you explore joining Porn Anonymous (PA). If you need help deciding whether to join PA, call Michael at 347-699-2368, or email to schedule a time to talk. For more information visit (Hebrew: / Yiddish:

Sexaholics Anonymous (SA)
If your compulsive acting-out has progressed beyond the screen (with other people, paid sexual services, etc.) we suggest you explore joining Sexaholics Anonymous (SA). To figure out if SA is for you, call Dov at 917-414-8205, or email Dov at to schedule a time to talk. For more information visit

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