I am with you and will always be with you
  Breaking Free Chizuk #1831  
In Today's Issue
Announcements: 6th Annual GYE Convention
Links: "I am with you and I will be with you"
Testimonials: Success built on dilligence
Daily Dose of Dov: Letting the Familiar Curiosity Go
90 Day Journey
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6th Annual GYE Convention

Dear GYE Members,

You're invited to join GYE's 6th annual convention in Jerusalem, which will take place be"h this Wednesday evening, March 14th.

This year's convention will feature:

  • Eitan Ekstein, CEO of Retorno
  • Dr. Tamir Leon, Anthropologist
  • Beni Yaakov, Recovery Program Consultant and Facilitator
  • Rabbi Dr. Abraham Twerski (hopefully)

Music by Pini Einhorn, King of the Kumzitz!

We will also be announcing the launch of a historic new worldwide initiative!

For details and sign-up, see the convention homepage at kenes.co

Note: Speeches will be in Hebrew (no translation).



"I am with you and I will be with you"

Rabbi YY Jacobson shares the secret of the name that Hashem revealed to the Jews in Mitzrayim, and how it relates to tikkun habris.

These short inspirational messages are a project of gyeboost.org. If you haven't joined yet, sign up here to get them either by email or Whatsapp each day

Success built on dilligence
By GYE Member

Hello, dear GYE!

Please say THANK YOU to the founder and to the sponsors of GYE. I am very thankful to your holy team. Kol a kavod!

I reached 90 days on the 1st attempt, BH. It was not hard. Now I am 137 days clean from m'zl and watching p-n. According to GYE criteria clean for 110 days. Continue updating on the Wall of Honor.

I must say my discovery of the site where many frum jews like me are working on the same problem gave me a lot of inspiration. I felt that G-d gave me the help I needed for so long, while struggling alone.

Additionally, I tried to be a good talmid and read everything I found in the GYE Handbook. For rather a long time, I faced a problem of being without a partner as I live in Europe. So I tried to talk to others on the online chat. I tried to be disciplined in reading the chizuk emails. Updated the 90-day chart.

I published "My story and my way" - my own topic on the board "On the way to 90 days" on the forum, where I wrote all my struggle story.

Also, I continue learning about the addiction. After reading the Handbook, I started reading the AA Big Book.

I have one devoted partner, who is much older than me and is sober for a long time. I told him all my dirty laundry as sincerely as I could. I told him the things, which I never told anyone.

I plan to join Dovid Chaim's conference calls and to stay in touch with my dear partner, with whom I consulted much through email and phone calls and I will continue to stay in touch.

Undoubtedly, it's G-d Who sent him and you to me. Thank you!

Daily Dose of Dov
Letting the Familiar Curiosity Go
By Dov

People in recovery often emphasize "living in the solution, not in the problem". It's hard to understand, at first. "whadaya mean, I'm living in the problem?" When we delve and delve and delve... it wraps us up in the problem and soon we will act out. Cuz we are sick and cannot stay sane very long while staring squarely at unhealthy living; even if it is for the sake of 'getting better'.

(Even the 1st and 4th step inventories are not safe places to loiter. We cannot live without them so we do them with a sponsor and then he helps us move on and use what we have learned rather than wallow in it.)

  • I need alternative things to do when that familiar curiosity strikes. Thoughts like,
    • "Been clean four months. I can't believe it. But am I really a better person? What if I am tested a bit?";
    • "I've been clean for fifteen months now. Gevalt! I wonder if my anatomy still works!";
    • "Well, is that little video store still in business, or did Hashem finally strike it with that lightning I wished for?"; and like,
    • "What was/is it that I liked so much about lust and porn after all? Why was I so caught up in it? I need to know!".


    I might think those thoughts every now and then, and that's fine. Thinking them is not my fault - but holding onto them and acting on them is. I believe b'emunah sheleimah that I need to let them go. Others may have the luxury of thinking it over, conducting further 'research', and figuring it all out, and G-d bless them. I do not. And figuring out why they can and I can't is veiter none of my concern.

  • Do you think you may have a porn addiction?

    Do you have a problem with obsessive and compulsive porn use? Have you seriously tried the tools on GYE and feel that you are not getting better? Maybe it’s time to consider joining a 12-Step program.

    Porn Anonymous (PA)
    If you’re compulsively acting-out with pornography and masturbation we suggest you explore joining Porn Anonymous (PA). If you need help deciding whether to join PA, call Michael at 347-699-2368, or email help@pornanonymous.org to schedule a time to talk. For more information visit pornanonymous.org (Hebrew: p-a.org.il / Yiddish: pa-yid.org).

    Sexaholics Anonymous (SA)
    If your compulsive acting-out has progressed beyond the screen (with other people, paid sexual services, etc.) we suggest you explore joining Sexaholics Anonymous (SA). To figure out if SA is for you, call Dov at 917-414-8205, or email Dov at dov@guardyoureyes.org to schedule a time to talk. For more information visit www.sa.org.

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